Uh-oh, someone else thinks we're a bunch of meanies...

526SadieSadie

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/71778477.aspx

 

trudibell

I just saw this post and didn't respond because I couldn't say anything nice about that person's choices in baby names.  

Helenahhandbasket

I honestly don't think those names are that bad, but the text speak is giving me agita.

oliversmommy32912

The text speak is making my eyes bleed.

jesstellina

Yowza. Her writing gives me a headache.

megemoney

I'll be honest, I am pretty blunt on this board.  If I hate a name someone's chosen, I will tell them.  When they say "what do you think of....?"  I tell them the first thing I think of, even if it's not P&R.

That said, I am also super nice about name choices I do like.  

I really would rather have a raw honest opinion of a name since my child will  be judged their entire life based on my decision.... so I pass that along.  

FakeFinn

Idani:

oliversmommy32912:

The text speak is making my eyes bleed.

Word.

Word. Again. 

526SadieSadie

megemoney:

I'll be honest, I am pretty blunt on this board.  If I hate a name someone's chosen, I will tell them.  When they say "what do you think of....?"  I tell them the first thing I think of, even if it's not P&R.

That said, I am also super nice about name choices I do like.  

I really would rather have a raw honest opinion of a name since my child will  be judged their entire life based on my decision.... so I pass that along.  

I agree with you.  Generally speaking, anyone who gets offended by what someone says on this board really didn't want an honest opinion.  Some people have gone a tad overboard now and then but I don't think anyone goes out of their way to be rude.

BC&LM

Yeah, I am super nice on other boards and hate when some other people are really snippy and snarky. However, I find myself being kind of blunt on the baby names board. I don't know why that is. I mean I would never call someone an idiot on here, but I do say if I hate a name and don't sugar coat it!

BlueRidge8

I think (hope) it's MUD

Helenahhandbasket

megemoney:

I'll be honest, I am pretty blunt on this board.  If I hate a name someone's chosen, I will tell them.  When they say "what do you think of....?"  I tell them the first thing I think of, even if it's not P&R.

That said, I am also super nice about name choices I do like.  

I really would rather have a raw honest opinion of a name since my child will  be judged their entire life based on my decision.... so I pass that along.  

 

I totally hear you-- if someone asks for an opinion, and you don't like the name, it's OK to say you don't like it.

I think some posters (in general -- not calling you out or anything) respond with saying they hate a name when the OP isn't specifically asking for opinion on the actual name, but maybe middle name suggestions or something like that.

Or they same the name is a "stripper" name, or it's the name of a smelly kid they went to H.S. with.  I think responses like that are really unhelpful and might be part of the reason this board gets the "meanie" rep.

For the record-- I LOVE this board!  Love hearing all of the different name choices and it's really nice to have a place that I can bounce names off of w/o getting side eye (since I am not even pregnant, I mean).  It would be boring if we all like the same names.

megemoney

Helenahhandbasket:

megemoney:

I'll be honest, I am pretty blunt on this board.  If I hate a name someone's chosen, I will tell them.  When they say "what do you think of....?"  I tell them the first thing I think of, even if it's not P&R.

That said, I am also super nice about name choices I do like.  

I really would rather have a raw honest opinion of a name since my child will  be judged their entire life based on my decision.... so I pass that along.  

 

I totally hear you-- if someone asks for an opinion, and you don't like the name, it's OK to say you don't like it.

I think some posters (in general -- not calling you out or anything) respond with saying they hate a name when the OP isn't specifically asking for opinion on the actual name, but maybe middle name suggestions or something like that.

Or they same the name is a "stripper" name, or it's the name of a smelly kid they went to H.S. with.  I think responses like that are really unhelpful and might be part of the reason this board gets the "meanie" rep.

For the record-- I LOVE this board!  Love hearing all of the different name choices and it's really nice to have a place that I can bounce names off of w/o getting side eye (since I am not even pregnant, I mean).  It would be boring if we all like the same names.

I agree.  

sadie8900

I like how straight forward this board is! What is the point of asking for an opinion if you can't deal with people not agreeing with you? It frustrates me when people consider posters mean for not loving their name choices... 

 

 Also, I never get the impression that this board isn't up for variety of styles/ name choices. As long as a name is legit and spelled correctly no one tried to push their style on others (except maybe the odd, rare occasion).  

EmeraldSea

Helenahhandbasket:

Or they same the name is a "stripper" name, or it's the name of a smelly kid they went to H.S. with.  I think responses like that are really unhelpful and might be part of the reason this board gets the "meanie" rep.

I may be alone in this one but I like when people give this feedback! I think it is so much better than a whole thread of "NMS". Tell me why people. You are doing a public service to the parent if you are telling them that you'd think of a stripper with a chosen name!

 

As for the original post/link - I remember when she first put it out there about the names and I thought the original feedback she received was pretty helpful. Most people said they liked her FN choice and found MN not their style. Suggestions were made too! She's just not hearing what she wants to hear yet...

Blondangel

EmeraldSea:

Helenahhandbasket:

Or they same the name is a "stripper" name, or it's the name of a smelly kid they went to H.S. with.  I think responses like that are really unhelpful and might be part of the reason this board gets the "meanie" rep.

I may be alone in this one but I like when people give this feedback! I think it is so much better than a whole thread of "NMS". Tell me why people. You are doing a public service to the parent if you are telling them that you'd think of a stripper with a chosen name!

 As for the original post/link - I remember when she first put it out there about the names and I thought the original feedback she received was pretty helpful. Most people said they liked her FN choice and found MN not their style. Suggestions were made too! She's just not hearing what she wants to hear yet...

All this.

Sometimes people just don't want honest feedback. They are really looking for people to agree with how wonderful their names are. That's what your friends and family are for. Here, you get the real world response to your names. The same thing your child's teachers, potential employers and everyone else who will interact with your child will think...and say behind your/their back.

nikip6454

When I see a youneek name, I assume the parents spell exactly like the OP of that thread!

Zimger

Ugh...I couldn't even make it halfway down the page. The "text speak" was making my head hurt.

The sad thing is that some of those name choices really are not that bad. I really like Dominic. But the lack of reasonable thought behind random letters is sad.

JaysonandKristin

megemoney:

I'll be honest, I am pretty blunt on this board.  If I hate a name someone's chosen, I will tell them.  When they say "what do you think of....?"  I tell them the first thing I think of, even if it's not P&R.

That said, I am also super nice about name choices I do like.  

I really would rather have a raw honest opinion of a name since my child will  be judged their entire life based on my decision.... so I pass that along.  

There's a difference between asking what you think about my legitimately spelled, distinctly masculine baby names and what this chick is dishing out.

I can get behind someone not liking my style.  Whatever.  THAT's the stuff that makes the world go 'round in terms of diversity, not her own brand of making spellings up and trusting any website she happens to "text type" into her browser for etymology.  

I'm just baffled at how much she's spouting off about all of the ignorance and hatred.  I'm calling ignorance about the value of spellings and meanings and hatred of the English language and its importance when it comes to communicating on TB.  

 

jenheartsmonsters

Oh, I've called y'all meanies on other boards. No need to link to my posts, though. Here's a summary: some people on this board strike me as excessively judgmental and seem to take pleasure in deriding others. Sometimes it feels like the lunch room in junior high. That's about it.     

Some of you are truly lovely, though! 

blaa27

jenheartsmonsters:

Oh, I've called y'all meanies on other boards. No need to link to my posts, though. Here's a summary: some people on this board strike me as excessively judgmental and seem to take pleasure in deriding others. Sometimes it feels like the lunch room in junior high. That's about it. nbsp; nbsp;nbsp;Some of you are truly lovely, though!nbsp;

This. Then again, I think that if you can't find anything nice, or at least constructive, to say, you really should just keep it to yourself. No one is benefiting from you being unnecessarily nasty unless you derive some sick pleasure from putting people down. If I'm posting something on these boards, I'm looking to brainstorm, not get verbally assaulted.