Trouble TTC

Husband has a challenging family history ...

Hey everyone.  So my husband has a challenging family history when it comes to fertility.  His mother told me that it took her a year and half to get pregnant with his older sister.  They had done some fertility testing, which was rare back then, and found out that his father had a low sperm count and sluggish sperm.  

We have been TTC for almost 8 months now with no luck.  We aren't having sex every day, but we do enough around when I would be ovulating.  We know that I am ovulating, since I had an ultrasound for another reason.  I have even ovulated from both ovaries at the same time (I'm a twin, btw).  So I am starting to think our issue might be with my husband.  My husband isn't keen on the idea of getting tested.  Help!

If anyone has any advice for me, I would really appreciate it. 

Re: Husband has a challenging family history ...

  • It's still a little early to worry about IF. It can take a healthy couple, with great timing 12 months to get pregnant. Just because your husbands father had an issue doesn't mean your husband will. Don't work yourself up. Are you temping? If not, you should check out fertilityfriend.com - temping will tell when you ovulate each month (no matter how clockwork your schedule might "always" be, wonky cycles happen.) but temping tells you after the fact so you should use it along with OPK's. Check out the TTGP board (a better fit at this point)- lots of great info!

    8 months doesn't mean you are having trouble TTC, you may just be missing your fertile window or you may be one of those healthy, well timed couples that takes 12 months. 

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  • I'm not an expert, but I would give it a full year before considering a semen analysis. Your husband may change his mind if/when you've been trying for that full year.

    I hope that everything works out for you, but remember that it can take a perfectly healthy couple up to a year to succeed. GL! :)

    P.S. If you haven't already, you should check out the Trying to Get Pregnant board.

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    12.2011 SA = Normal

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    10.2012 Clomid 50mg + TI = BFN

    11.2012 Clomid 50mg + TI = BFN

    12.2012 Clomid 100mg + TI = BFN

    01.2013 First visit with RE

    02.2013 Clomid 150mg + TI = BFN

    03.2013 Femara 5mg + TI = BFN

    05.2013 Femara 5mg + TI = BFN

    06.2013 Femara 7.5mg + TI = BFN

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  • imageMrsM507:

    It's still a little early to worry about IF. It can take a healthy couple, with great timing 12 months to get pregnant. Just because your husbands father had an issue doesn't mean your husband will. Don't work yourself up. Are you temping? If not, you should check out fertilityfriend.com - temping will tell when you ovulate each month (no matter how clockwork your schedule might "always" be, wonky cycles happen.) but temping tells you after the fact so you should use it along with OPK's. Check out the TTGP board (a better fit at this point)- lots of great info!

    8 months doesn't mean you are having trouble TTC, you may just be missing your fertile window or you may be one of those healthy, well timed couples that takes 12 months. 

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  • *almost* 8 months of trying is not trouble TTC.  And I totally agree with PP that having had a dad with lowish/slowish sperm means nothing for the son's fertility!  

    Impatience is not an infertility issue!  Take the full year (That's another five full months) and do not assume it's his problem because there is a good chance there is no problem at all.  I 


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  • You guys are being too nice.

    This poster was told in November the same shyt we're telling her today:

    https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/70153086.aspx

    OP: Do you have some yearning desire to be infertile? Do you WANT to jab yourself in the stomach with drugs that burn like fire every day and spend more time having sex with an ultrasound wand than your husband? 

    Quityerbitchin' and GTFO.

    Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
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  • imageDebateThis:
    You guys are being too nice. This poster was told in November the same shyt we're telling her today:https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/70153086.aspxOP: Do you have some yearning desire to be infertile? Do you WANT to jab yourself in the stomach with drugs that burn like fire every day and spend more time having sex with an ultrasound want than your husband?nbsp;Quityerbitchin' and GTFO.


    This.

    You forgot to tell OP about the spending of hundreds and thousands of dollars.



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  • Trouble getting preg. and impatience are 2 different things.  Why wont he get tested, my husband has had 3 SA, (but then again he's also broken down with me about our IF issues). Have you really talked to him, Is he ready to be a parent?? Not trying to be rude, I'm just saying you are not having trouble at this time, if he isn't concerned enough to have his boys tested.  Also don't be so quick to judge him if you haven't been tested yourself.  

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