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mainesmichelle

Hi ladies..  I am new to the 9-12mth board.  I have lurked in the past, but mostly spend my time on the PAIF, SAIF, or Infertility boards.

I have a question that I am hoping you ladies can help me with..  DD is 10mths old and has been a great sleeper until about 2 weeks ago.  She wakes up 4x a night and depending on the day could stay up anywhere between 10mins-  2 hrs.  I saw the similar post a few days ago and agree with all of the post that it is a phase and we just have to push thru. 

My questions is about CIO.  I let her CIO for about 25 minutes last night before I went to get her.  My hubby says I should let her cry until she falls back to sleep, but I just can not go longer than about 25mins.  She starts crying really loud and has made herself throw up several times.  Does anyone have any advice on how long we should let her cry? If you don't let your LO CIO how do you get them back down.  Should I make it a rule not to pick her up- only pat her back?

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

TIA.

mexicolombiana

Personally I like the "don't pick up the baby rule" and just pat their back if it works.  But sometimes it just doesn't work.  Babies sometimes need comforting.  In our house it's the opposite, my husband can't stand hearing our 12 month old cry and I have to fight him to not pick her up.  She doesn't cry very hard, but I do try to rub her back and it "usually" works. 

Anyway you'll get lots of different advice about this, but IMO if a baby is crying hard enough to throw up don't let her cry that much. Good luck! 

Natali25

Our son used to vomit when we let him CIO. We stopped for a little while and then he got sick, so it had been a long while. He's better now and we started doing it all over again. It's gone so much better now that he hit 9mths. But we use the Sleep Easy Solution method. It's a good book and it talks about vomiting. Briefly, it states that if LO vomits that you go into their room, no talking, just pick them up, clean them off or change them, change their bedding if necessary and then start the CIO all over again. The idea is to not make a big deal about it. If you do LO will keep doing it knowing you'll come back in and put them to sleep. I know it sounds harsh but if you put them to sleep one night and not the next it's extremely confusing to them and it'll make it worse. It also says not to touch them but just talk to them.

Also, it says that touching them will still allow them to think you're either going to pick them up or you'll have to keep doing it to comfort them to sleep, which defeats the purpose of CIO. It's worked great for us. LO is to sleep for the night in about 10min now. And he sleeps completely through the night without even a whimper.

The book also has suggestions of other methods if you don't like the full CIO method. It's worth a read. This is all just opinion. Go with your gut. You're the parent. Or even wait a few more weeks and try again. Good luck!