Lately my mom and i have not been getting along. She has been doing things that annoy me and we have gotten into arguments but last night was ugly. I explained to her how i stopped giving cereal to my 4 month old because he broke into a rash. So a couple of hours later it was feeding time and what does she do she makes a bottle with cereal inside and proceeded to feed him. Wow first thanks alot for letting me know second how disrespectful after i told you we are not giving him cereal. Hours later . Was time to give my 2 year old medicine. It contains honey. She wanted to give some to my 4 month old and i told her not to its dangerous to give a baby honey. What she did next made me realize she does not respect me as a mother at all. She dabed some honey on her finger and put it on his lips. She did it so fast that i only saw when he was savoring his lips. I was fuming
OMG I would be fuming too. Sounds like something my MIL would do. I remember when she was up visiting after B was born and if I tried to tell her anything her reply was "I raised 3 kids and didn't kill any of them... it's safe".
I would be so angry! In fact I'm angry for you. Giving honey to a baby is really dangerous! That information has been around for about 30 years. No advice from me, but good luck.
That's not cool. I'm sorry that she is being disrespectful. That is mean. Try talking about it later. Maybe explain carefully that this is hurting your relationship and it is causing you to worry about having LO be near her. GL!
I wouldn't let her be involved in feeding/medicine any more if my mom did that! My mom annoys me too but it's naps and schedule that she doesn't understand. While it may suck for me to pick up an over tired baby she isn't doing anything dangerous. Also, I have seen improvements in the past few weeks. If I were in your position I would be talking to my mom before she was around the kids again.
I will be honest here my getting married and having kids as ruined my illusion that I had a good relationship with my mother. She demands respect and wants to be in control. She has, on more occasions then I care to count, tried to undermine my relationship with my husband and has tried to take my children.
Start by talking to her. Give her a chance to come around. But if she doesn't you will need to set firm ground rules and stick to them.
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I would have been mad about the bottle situation and irate about the honey.
I would not allow her to feed or do medicine. In the meanwhile, I would talk to her about the things you have noticed and how, if she wants to be involved, she needs to be supporting your decisions, not undermining them.
The honey thing would have been AN EXPLOSION. That is so dangerous for a baby, and for her to do that is completely out of line. It would have ended in me packing up my child and taking her away from my mother for a very long time. Get your DH involved -- this is NOT okay.
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Did you say something to her after both? Not only is it disrespectful it's dangerous in both situations. Honey isn't safe for an infant. And giving cereal to a baby in a bottle when he doesn't need it? Ugh.
I'm sorry - it sounds like a difficult situation to be in. If it were me, my husband or I would be the only ones feeding the baby from now on.
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Why would she completely disrespect you and dishonor the decisions you have made for your LO? Honestly, this sounds like the same crap my mom tries to pull. -After months and months of disappointment, lies and manipulation from my mom, I have put my foot down, and now I really have no relationship with her. It's sad, but it is better for my family if I no longer include her. I hope it doesn't have to come to that with your mom.
Come back! We need more information. Do you live with her? Is she LO's DCP? WTF is she around your LO after all that? Seriously, she should no longer get to feed or administer medicine to any of your children.
You need to have a heart to heart and calmly tell her all the issues with the way she is undermining your parenting decisions. Then firmly let her know, you are the mother, not her, and she is to respect your decisions or you will have to change her visiting schedule. Seriously, I am still shaking my head at her. I am sorry you have to deal with that.
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The cereal thing would have been irritating.nbsp;The honey thing would have been AN EXPLOSION. That is so dangerous for a baby, and for her to do that is completely out of line. It would have ended in me packing up my child and taking her away from my mother for a very long time. Get your DH involved this is NOT okay. nbsp;
This. That is unacceptable. I dont know why people would be so selfish that they would do something harmful to someone else's baby. I am so sorry.
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Wait--is your mom watching LO? Like as a primary babysitter? Or does she live with you? Or was she visiting/you visiting her? I guess I'm confused as to what the long-term solution to this is, because if she's not responsible for watching LO, this is just obnoxious and difficult and I'd say to not let her help when she visits since she can't follow simple instructions. Vent-worthy but there isn't much you can do long-term unless you're the type to want to go in for a giant confrontation about it. Which I doubt would do much good, you know? But if she's watching your kids frequently, I'd say you need to decide if free childcare is worth worrying about her not following your wishes (and being a general dumbbell about food safety with kids).
I would be so pissed! It sounds like like my MIL who after trying to feed DS at 2 months blueberry pie was off the babysitting list for a loooooong time. She should respect that you are the mother to your kids and even if she doesn't agree with your decisions she needs to listen to them and respect you.
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OMG I would be fuming too. Sounds like something my MIL would do. I remember when she was up visiting after B was born and if I tried to tell her anything her reply was "I raised 3 kids and didn't kill any of them... it's safe".
Start by talking to her. Give her a chance to come around. But if she doesn't you will need to set firm ground rules and stick to them.
I would not allow her to feed or do medicine. In the meanwhile, I would talk to her about the things you have noticed and how, if she wants to be involved, she needs to be supporting your decisions, not undermining them.
The cereal thing would have been irritating.
The honey thing would have been AN EXPLOSION. That is so dangerous for a baby, and for her to do that is completely out of line. It would have ended in me packing up my child and taking her away from my mother for a very long time. Get your DH involved -- this is NOT okay.
Do your mom and you live together?
Did you say something to her after both? Not only is it disrespectful it's dangerous in both situations. Honey isn't safe for an infant. And giving cereal to a baby in a bottle when he doesn't need it? Ugh.
I'm sorry - it sounds like a difficult situation to be in. If it were me, my husband or I would be the only ones feeding the baby from now on.
Come back! We need more information. Do you live with her? Is she LO's DCP? WTF is she around your LO after all that? Seriously, she should no longer get to feed or administer medicine to any of your children.
You need to have a heart to heart and calmly tell her all the issues with the way she is undermining your parenting decisions. Then firmly let her know, you are the mother, not her, and she is to respect your decisions or you will have to change her visiting schedule. Seriously, I am still shaking my head at her. I am sorry you have to deal with that.
Kid #1 - 09/03/12
Hysteroscopy #10 - scar tissue grew back reblocking my right tube
#11 or IVF with scarring still inside?
1 lone embryo from September 2016 retreival, dx with Trisomy 16, starting fresh
This. That is unacceptable. I dont know why people would be so selfish that they would do something harmful to someone else's baby. I am so sorry.