Getting close to my third trimester and for the most part all it going well. Recenlty I have been getting really nervous about doing the morning routine with two children. My DH is wondeful and helps out but leaves for work an hour or so before I need to. Right now I have a great routine with my toddler but i 'm starting to worry about throwing a new born in the mix of things. Probably just being hormonal.
Also, worried that I won't be able to spend enough time with both children. There will be two parents for two kids but just something that crossed my mind that I'll be spending more time with the baby b/c of nursing. Pls tell me I'm just nusts and everything will be fine.
Re: Second/third etc. time moms...question
Obviously, it's an adjustment,and it will take time. It depends on the baby and your oldest, too. Getting your oldest involved - getting things for you, helping pick out outfits, etc - really helps them feel included. And this is easier said than done, especially when nursing, but try not to get too divided as to who does what for which kid. Like the baby is yours and the oldest is your DH's. Get your DH as invovled as possible with the baby and letting you have time for your oldest.
I really do think each mother of 2 feels that way at first, but you will get the hang of it, and both your children will love you.
Totally normal! I felt the same way. But, even though I nursed my DS, you really forget about just how much time a newborn spends sleeping. When I only had one, it all revolved around her. When DS came along, he was very content to sit in his bouncy seat and watch his 2 1/2 year old sister run around and play. Then he'd want to eat, I'd nurse, and he'd be back to sleep. Then I had time with DD.
Definitely get DH involved, and I agree don't divide the kids...this one's yours, this one's mine. I know I worried I'd favor one over the other, but as unrealistic as it may seem when you just have your one, your heart can love both children just as much. It will all work out. GL!
**DD1 - 7/9/98**
**DS - 11/9/00**
**DD2 - 4/30/13**