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MrsBarrett0519

Hi Ppl,

I am new to both the TTC world> My husband and I (who happens to be a transgender) are TTC and I found this website from getting ready for our wedding and decided that I would use it for when we decided to conceive. This will hopefully be a lifesaver because tis hard enough being here but trying to understand what happens and how Im supposed to do things makes it harder. So please HELP! My husband scares me sometimes because some days he is very excited about conceiving but then other days he has questions and is not so sure. I understand that they as fathers have problems too but it makes my head spin sometimes. So if anyone has any advice please feel free to offer it.

thank in advance

 

 

 

viciouskittie

Hey there, welcome! I don't have any advice, but I'm sure if you have specific questions there are those around here with more experience with a situation similar to yours who can help out. You'll find this board is very welcoming and friendly, stick around!

Manada

Hey - Welcome!

 

My partner and I had to sit down ourselves one day and really deliberately navigate those questions about TTC and our fears/hopes related to it.  We brainstormed a list of questions about what we were hoping, excited, scared about - and how we felt about certain things (donors, carrying babies, etc...)...   Then we sat down one day and had a conversation about our answers for each question, one by one -- and used that to figure out where we were on the same page, and what we needed to think about more.   It was really helpful for us, and we have friends who we sent the list to who also used it and loved the process as well.

Good luck.  I know that locally here as well there is a small, but growing community of trans parents and trans people who want to parent that are sharing information and support, in addition to an active LGBTQ parenting community -- maybe there is something local as well that you can hook up with for resources around that.

clairmeij

Hello and welcome! I can tell you that it took a long time for my partner to decide what she wanted in terms of parenthood. I have always wanted children, and she just wasn't sure, so we had a few deep and meaningful's where I told her that I could live without having a child, but I needed her to clearly tell me that so that I could grieve and move on. She eventually decided, with no prompting from me, that she would be willing to have children too. It started off very much as her doing it 'for me' but she is now very excited about it all. I found that some honest no-pressure conversation worked for us. 

Every couple/relationship is different, so I hope that you both find your place of comfort and can enjoy the journey together. Good luck, and please update us! This is such a friendly place, and I think we all like to hear about other people's story and journey. 

jenheartsmonsters

Welcome! TTC is such a roller coaster, and I think it's natural that some days a partner might feel unsure. Talking it out is pretty important, though, because it's way too easy to feel isolated from each other in this process.

Good luck!  

trisholio

Welcome to this board.  The women are great and very helpful about a lot of different types of things.  

My advice to you is to have open communication about TTC and obviously anything else.  There are going to be days of doubt, atleast in my opinion.  My wife and I have talked about TTC for 3 years and we just started two months ago.  Life gets messy and stressful, there will never be a perfect time.  But there can be a good time.  Find out what is holding your husband back and address those issues.  

I hope that helps a little.  Best of luck to you both!! 

damo256

I guess the consensus here is: communication.  I totally agree.

 

On another point, I've found that while my wife and I are 100% sure we want to embark on this journey, we still have our days of questioning and worrying.  We try to take these doubts as a natural part of the process, and we don't let every niggling fear derail us.  We talk it out, regroup, and move forward.

 Welcome.