Feeling Defeated...

mandeesmiles

Yesterday was my first appointment with the doctor at the pregnancy diabetes clinic. I had met with a dietician two weeks ago at the clinic and ontop of that the dietician at a different clinic my OB runs that only treats obese pregnant women.

 

I was diagnosed as insulin resistant (thank you, PCOS!)  just before Christmas so I started a GD "diet" during the holidays. It took me about two weeks but I finally found the eating schedule that works for me. Since the 2nd week of January I have not had a single high glucose reading at all. Infact, they're now telling me I'm bordering on low blood sugars, but to continue as is because even with following what I'm doing now they will get higher the further along I get. Oh, I'm 23weeks.

 

Well, then as usual, the issue of my weight comes up. The doctor and dietitian proceeded to lecture me on my weight loss. Yes, since I've gotten pregnant I've actually lost 30lbs. Where did the weight come from? I have no idea. I went out yesterday and bought a belly band just so I could continue wearing my "normal" jeans! I know Peanut is growing and he's extremely active.

 But these women lectured me (infront of my 11year old daughter btw) on how I shouldn't be trying to lose weight right now. No matter what I told them they just wouldn't listen!  My eating habits are completely different now that I'm pregnant. I have more aversions to food then I can tolerate. I can't eat anything processed, forget the chicken nuggets and french fries I used to have for dinner. I can't even be in the same room as them right now. Everything I eat is healthy. I can't get enough veggies and dairy right now. I'm very careful with portion sizes and how many carbs I'm eating. I'm following the rules they set out for me and I've yet to break a single one. 

But to them, I'm trying to lose weight. 

Oh, and the best part of all this. I saw in my chart a sticky note that said: "Past eating disorder, has weight issues." So because of that no matter what I say is going to be ignored.  

They made me feel like I was the worse pregnant woman in history. They made me feel like I'm doing harm to my baby. 

 Please, if there's a way of following their damn rules and either maintaining or gaining weight, please tell me what it is? I've cried since I got home yesterday about this, and I honestly don't know what to do about it.

 

I'm sorry this is so long. I just needed to get it off my chest.

Ann003

If you have low blood sugars then you could add some carbs/calories to your meals. I lost a little weight since starting the GD diet so I've been upping my intake of healthy high fat/low carb foods. I make milkshakes with coconut milk, eat A LOT of macadamia nuts and cashews, and add avocados to everything I can. I also drink Boost glucose control shakes as part of my bedtime snack. Because I'm having twins my MFM wants me to gain 45 lbs by the end of this pregnancy. I'm currently stalled at 27 lbs, but if I didn't do all this stuff I probably would have lost more weight. HTH!

Angellove32086

Dont feel defeated! You know you are doing what is right by your baby. I lost 27 Lbs at the beginning of this pregnancy and I was facing the same exact thing with my drs. They would not listen to the fact that the foods I was happy eating were foods that I was not supposed to eat and then they told me that I had to gain weight and was frustrating! Ultimately what I chose to do was to only  eat diet food about half the time. So a healthy salad with a big slice of pie for dessert. I know that sounds horrible but even after that my BS was only at 110 its extra calories that actually taste good to me and because i have gained about 10 lbs back the drs leave me alone now...actually I take that back they recently said they were proud. If they knew what I was eating they could likely kill me they just go by the numbers and i count a slice of cherry pie as a serving of fruit lol. Look you know your body better then those drs and you know what you can and cant handle and still be safe for your baby.  They call it a medical "practice" for a reason. Hang in there Mama you are doing great (ps Congrats on the weight loss even if you arent meaning too, what they arent telling you is that it will help control your sugars in the long run as well!)

 

RosekittyS

I know how it feels to be overweight and pregnant. When I first got pregnant my Dr. said she didn't want me to gain ANY weight. I thought that would be near impossible. But between my eating habit changing because I was pregnant and then the GD diet I actually haven't gained weight. But this isn't about me, I'm not trying to make you feel bad. It sounds like your Dr.s aren't taking into account that you are eating healthier. You may also be getting more exercise. I would say that no matter what they say, if you are having growth scans done of the baby and LO is growing normally then I wouldn't worry too much. Being overweight and pregnant is a hard place to be.

mandeesmiles

Thank you!

I'm going to talk to my OB when I see her on the 28th. Originally she told me that most of her patients only gain about 5lbs during their third trimester. I've jumped threw every hoop they've given me, taken all the advice I can. They're pushing dairy and especially yogurt. 

 I'm also going to talk to the dietician in her office about any other changes to help control my weight. We had tried to get pregnant for far too long for me to put me or Peanut at anymore risk then we're already facing.