TTCAL CheckIn

Mrs Nice

Hello Ladies,

Welcome to Thursday TTCAL Checkin!

I hope I can find you all well and positive this week! Please don't be shy in asking the PGAL/PAL ladies questions if you have them. Lots of baby dust on all of you!

Where are you in your TTCAL journey?

Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming?

QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL?

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

fluttergirlmoonchild79

Where are you in your TTCAL journey?

Cycle 4 CD5

Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming?

No

QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL?

I try to take some time to just sit and relax.  I also take long baths and take my dog for a walk around the neighborhood

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

Being pg again.  I'm starting to obsess about it.  Never though it would be like this.

HullGut

Where are you in your TTCAL journey? 

This is our first month actively trying since we lost Hunter. I had a smiley face on my OTK on Monday and we DTD so I am hoping AF does not show up next week. I am trying not to get my hopes up too much because I don't think it will happen in the first month. It happened on our first try last time but I just dont see it happening this time. Who knows...finger crossed!

Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming? 

No

QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL? 

I try to walk on the treadmill and just keep calm. I am really working to not get overwhelmed and stressed. I think Hunter put a good perspective on my life so I am not at high strung or anxious because I dont sweat the small things as much anymore. 

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

My sweet baby boy, I can't stop missing him. I am also trying to plan some fun trips for the summer that we can look forward to.  

tuscanbride2007

Where are you in your TTCAL journey?

Just had a chemical pregnancy two weeks ago, but was not told that I had to wait another cycle to try again, so we are now in 2ww for this cycle.

Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming?

No.

QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL?

Wine!

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

Sad that I was essentially pregnant for only 2 days, happy to know that I can still get pregnant. Wondering what the future holds.

fluttergirlmoonchild79

rsigler:

Where are you in your TTCAL journey? Cycle 2, Day 11 Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming? I have to go get CD 3 bloodwork done at the beginning of next cycle to check my progesterone levels and thyroid. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I get pg and there won't be a next cycle anytime soon. QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL? I haven't done a very good job of this, or at least I didn't last cycle. This cycle, I'm trying to just focus on work and taking good care of myself and getting lots of sleep. Exercise helps too. Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? We've told a few people that we are trying again, and I've gotten a similar response that's rubbed me the wrong way. A couple people I've told almost seem relieved; I get the impression they they either think that because I am trying to get pregnant again or once I do get pregnant, that means that everything is fine now. I'm kind of questioning my decision to tell people. Can anyone else relate?

Yes, yes, yes.  We've gotten a wide range of reactions from that whole relief thing to the "I'm sure you'll have no problems" blah, blah, blah.  DH and I had already decided we weren't going to tell too many people we were trying in the first place and now I know that if/when I am actually pg, other than our parents, everyone else will find out on a need-to-know basis

kikibelle

Where are you in your TTCAL journey? 

CD 1, Cycle 6 (3rd medicated)

Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming? 

No, unless my OB decides to do something different this cycle-calling him this morning

QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL? 

I'm not good at managing stress during TTCAL (wasn't when TTC the first time either). But, I do do acupuncture and yoga regularly, and enjoy nice warm baths (candles, music, the whole thing)

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

Missing Julian, and can't believe that I'm back at CD 1 and that it's taking us this long to get pregnant again. I know a lot of people have it worse, but it's hard to keep perspective sometimes.  

meli1025

Where are you in your TTCAL journey? CD25 of my first cycle NTNP.  AF is expected to arrive on Monday.

Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming? No

QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL?  Staying busy and drinking wine.  Although I'm not drinking nearly as much wine just in case.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?  Ava is really on my mind this week, I've been really emotional all over again like I was in the very beginning.  Monday night I had a major meltdown all by myself while DH was out of town.  I just really miss her and the life we were supposed to have.  I went to a toy store over the weekend and the first thing I saw when we got off the elevator was a bunch of girl todays and baby dolls.  They were all so cute and it just hit me that I will never be able to enjoy taking her to this store and letting her have one of the baby dolls.  I just really want that mother/daughter bond like I have with my mom and I'm sad that I can't have that with her. 

tuscanbride2007

fluttergirlmoonchild79:

rsigler:

Where are you in your TTCAL journey? Cycle 2, Day 11 Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming? I have to go get CD 3 bloodwork done at the beginning of next cycle to check my progesterone levels and thyroid. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I get pg and there won't be a next cycle anytime soon. QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL? I haven't done a very good job of this, or at least I didn't last cycle. This cycle, I'm trying to just focus on work and taking good care of myself and getting lots of sleep. Exercise helps too. Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? We've told a few people that we are trying again, and I've gotten a similar response that's rubbed me the wrong way. A couple people I've told almost seem relieved; I get the impression they they either think that because I am trying to get pregnant again or once I do get pregnant, that means that everything is fine now. I'm kind of questioning my decision to tell people. Can anyone else relate?

Yes, yes, yes.  We've gotten a wide range of reactions from that whole relief thing to the "I'm sure you'll have no problems" blah, blah, blah.  DH and I had already decided we weren't going to tell too many people we were trying in the first place and now I know that if/when I am actually pg, other than our parents, everyone else will find out on a need-to-know basis

I have only told my really close friends that we are TTC, but I always feel like others are looking at my stomach and waiting for me to announce another pregnancy. I too feel like they think it will help me if I have another baby. I also hate the "when you have another one..." Um, no guarantees people! Ugh. 

fluttergirlmoonchild79

tuscanbride2007:

fluttergirlmoonchild79:

rsigler:

Where are you in your TTCAL journey? Cycle 2, Day 11 Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming? I have to go get CD 3 bloodwork done at the beginning of next cycle to check my progesterone levels and thyroid. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I get pg and there won't be a next cycle anytime soon. QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL? I haven't done a very good job of this, or at least I didn't last cycle. This cycle, I'm trying to just focus on work and taking good care of myself and getting lots of sleep. Exercise helps too. Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? We've told a few people that we are trying again, and I've gotten a similar response that's rubbed me the wrong way. A couple people I've told almost seem relieved; I get the impression they they either think that because I am trying to get pregnant again or once I do get pregnant, that means that everything is fine now. I'm kind of questioning my decision to tell people. Can anyone else relate?

Yes, yes, yes.  We've gotten a wide range of reactions from that whole relief thing to the "I'm sure you'll have no problems" blah, blah, blah.  DH and I had already decided we weren't going to tell too many people we were trying in the first place and now I know that if/when I am actually pg, other than our parents, everyone else will find out on a need-to-know basis

I have only told my really close friends that we are TTC, but I always feel like others are looking at my stomach and waiting for me to announce another pregnancy. I too feel like they think it will help me if I have another baby. I also hate the "when you have another one..." Um, no guarantees people! Ugh. 

I hate that too.  The worst was when we were on vacation.  We had to be dressed up every night and I barely leave the house, let alone have dress clothes that really fit me well.  I was wearing a dress that was a little tight it I got in it and figured I'd never see these people again.  We were at the casino on the ship and DH was playing blackjack.  I had just walked away from the bar after getting myself a martini.  I'm standing there, taking a sip of it and this older lady comes up, rubs my belly and says "so when is the big day!"  1)You just saw me drink from a martini, it's not like I was just holding it for someone and 2)I'm just fat so thanks for that.

tuscanbride2007

fluttergirlmoonchild79:

tuscanbride2007:

fluttergirlmoonchild79:

rsigler:

Where are you in your TTCAL journey? Cycle 2, Day 11 Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming? I have to go get CD 3 bloodwork done at the beginning of next cycle to check my progesterone levels and thyroid. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I get pg and there won't be a next cycle anytime soon. QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL? I haven't done a very good job of this, or at least I didn't last cycle. This cycle, I'm trying to just focus on work and taking good care of myself and getting lots of sleep. Exercise helps too. Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? We've told a few people that we are trying again, and I've gotten a similar response that's rubbed me the wrong way. A couple people I've told almost seem relieved; I get the impression they they either think that because I am trying to get pregnant again or once I do get pregnant, that means that everything is fine now. I'm kind of questioning my decision to tell people. Can anyone else relate?

Yes, yes, yes.  We've gotten a wide range of reactions from that whole relief thing to the "I'm sure you'll have no problems" blah, blah, blah.  DH and I had already decided we weren't going to tell too many people we were trying in the first place and now I know that if/when I am actually pg, other than our parents, everyone else will find out on a need-to-know basis

I have only told my really close friends that we are TTC, but I always feel like others are looking at my stomach and waiting for me to announce another pregnancy. I too feel like they think it will help me if I have another baby. I also hate the "when you have another one..." Um, no guarantees people! Ugh. 

I hate that too.  The worst was when we were on vacation.  We had to be dressed up every night and I barely leave the house, let alone have dress clothes that really fit me well.  I was wearing a dress that was a little tight it I got in it and figured I'd never see these people again.  We were at the casino on the ship and DH was playing blackjack.  I had just walked away from the bar after getting myself a martini.  I'm standing there, taking a sip of it and this older lady comes up, rubs my belly and says "so when is the big day!"  1)You just saw me drink from a martini, it's not like I was just holding it for someone and 2)I'm just fat so thanks for that.

I would NEVER, EVER say that to anyone that I did not know was pregnant. People have no respect and need to think before they open their mouths! I think older women are the worst for it. Maybe because they don't have to worry anymore? At work, I always alternate between flowy and tighter garments to keep people guessing. Even if I get pregnant, people are not going to know until I am well along!

lolee465

Where are you in your TTCAL journey?

Cycle 2 CD35

Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming?

No

QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL?

I'm not stressfee at all! I try to keep myself as busy as possible, but it's on my mind constantly. I feel like I'm holding my breath all the time praying for something to go right...

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

We had such perfect timing this month, and I feel really deflated because I'm pretty sure af will be here today or tomorrow. It just reminds me how we shouldn't even be thinking about ttc right now since we should be snuggling with our baby girl.:(

fluttergirlmoonchild79

rsigler:

tuscanbride2007:

fluttergirlmoonchild79:

tuscanbride2007:

fluttergirlmoonchild79:

rsigler:

Where are you in your TTCAL journey? Cycle 2, Day 11 Do you have any relevant appointments upcoming? I have to go get CD 3 bloodwork done at the beginning of next cycle to check my progesterone levels and thyroid. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I get pg and there won't be a next cycle anytime soon. QOTW: How do you keep as stressfree as possible while TTCAL? I haven't done a very good job of this, or at least I didn't last cycle. This cycle, I'm trying to just focus on work and taking good care of myself and getting lots of sleep. Exercise helps too. Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? We've told a few people that we are trying again, and I've gotten a similar response that's rubbed me the wrong way. A couple people I've told almost seem relieved; I get the impression they they either think that because I am trying to get pregnant again or once I do get pregnant, that means that everything is fine now. I'm kind of questioning my decision to tell people. Can anyone else relate?

Yes, yes, yes.  We've gotten a wide range of reactions from that whole relief thing to the "I'm sure you'll have no problems" blah, blah, blah.  DH and I had already decided we weren't going to tell too many people we were trying in the first place and now I know that if/when I am actually pg, other than our parents, everyone else will find out on a need-to-know basis

I have only told my really close friends that we are TTC, but I always feel like others are looking at my stomach and waiting for me to announce another pregnancy. I too feel like they think it will help me if I have another baby. I also hate the "when you have another one..." Um, no guarantees people! Ugh. 

I hate that too.  The worst was when we were on vacation.  We had to be dressed up every night and I barely leave the house, let alone have dress clothes that really fit me well.  I was wearing a dress that was a little tight it I got in it and figured I'd never see these people again.  We were at the casino on the ship and DH was playing blackjack.  I had just walked away from the bar after getting myself a martini.  I'm standing there, taking a sip of it and this older lady comes up, rubs my belly and says "so when is the big day!"  1)You just saw me drink from a martini, it's not like I was just holding it for someone and 2)I'm just fat so thanks for that.

I would NEVER, EVER say that to anyone that I did not know was pregnant. People have no respect and need to think before they open their mouths! I think older women are the worst for it. Maybe because they don't have to worry anymore? At work, I always alternate between flowy and tighter garments to keep people guessing. Even if I get pregnant, people are not going to know until I am well along!

What makes people think they can comment on the state of anyone else's reproductive parts? That is so not ok. Thank you guys for the reassurance. I'm wishing now I had decided not to tell as many people that we are TTC again. We got pregnant right away with Virginia, and I realize now how lucky that was. I'm really going to be kicking myself if I have to deal with this for several more months. I guess what I've been thinking is that if I try to do everything different, we will have a different, hopefully better, outcome next time. And last time we told no one we were trying, and didn't tell most of our friends till 17ish weeks. Some of my closest friends were so surprised that they asked if my pregnancy was planned, I guess they were so thrown off, they thought my pregnancy had to be an accident. I know it's not rational, and that me waiting to tell people has nothing to do with the fact that we didn't get to bring her home. I just can't help but think that if we do everything different next time, we will maybe have a shot at bringing a baby home. Does that make sense to anyone else??

This makes so much sense to me that I could have written it word for word myself.  I said from the get go this time that I want to do everything different (Corbin was a total surprise).  We told people at like 8 weeks.  Now, I've already told DH that other than our parents or siblings, people will find out on a need to know basis.  I don't want to do any announcement on FB, nothing.  I too feel like if we do the opposite of what we did last time, then the outcome will be opposite and we'll get to keep this one.  You make total sense to me!