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carrots, eggs or coffee(shared from FB)

 I saw this on FB & was so touched by it. I figured I would share it.
Grandmother Says... Carrots, Eggs, or Coffee; "Which are you?"

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.

After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. "What's the point,grandmother?"

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her granddaughter.

"When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

---AUTHOR UNKNOWN
Grandmother Says... Carrots, Eggs, or Coffee; "Which are you?"

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard fo...r her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.

After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. "What's the point,grandmother?"

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her granddaughter.

"When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

---AUTHOR UNKNOWN
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  • I've never seen this before, but thanks for sharing. Very sweet.

    Meanwhile, I'd love to say that I'm coffee, but lately I feel like bounce between carrot and egg. Womp womp...

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  • I love this!! Thanks for sharing.

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  • image Bethelgal42:
    Thanks for sharing. There are days when I feel like all 3 of those.

    Me too. I hope eventually I will be the coffee but right now I feel like the eggSad

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  • I think it really is situation specific, I feel I've been more of the egg qualities lately, but I do have times when I'm the coffee. 

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  • Mostly coffee, with a hint of egg Smile

    Thank you for posting this!

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  • Thank you for sharing this. I'm definitely an egg. I started out rather empathetic and soft and have turned hard. I will try to be more like coffee and think of this when circumstances arise.
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  • I love this! I've never been much of a carrot but more so an egg. I definelty need to be more of the coffee! Thanks for sharing!
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  • Really sweet! Thanks for sharing.
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  • image RosiePeare:
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    image Bethelgal42:
    Thanks for sharing. There are days when I feel like all 3 of those.

    Me too. I hope eventually I will be the coffee but right now I feel like the eggSad

    And I don't think there's a thing in the world wrong with that, EK. While stories like this one are intended to be sweet, I hate them because I think they too often imply that people should strive to be something different than what they are in the face of grief or adversity. Far more important, I believe, is the willingness to give yourself permission to feel how you do today without worrying how you should feel tomorrow.

    I love you for this, Rosie.  (And for lots of other things, too!)

    I have a really hard time with a lot of the "motivational" or positive quotes, stories, and memes that go around (and plastered all over FB), for this exact reason.  That make me feel like I'm doing it wrong.  And I don't need to feel like I'm doing more things wrong.  Eh, that's just me.

    Still, this is a cute metaphor.  I would say I'm mostly egg, and a little coffee.  Honestly, if I wasn't hardened, I'd be a pile of mushy egg in the bottom of the pot.  For now, that's what is getting me by.  I often feel like a carrot, but I don't think I am one.

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  • These things make me think (which is not bad...keeps the brain from turning to mush) and look at things from another perspective, which is something I have a hard time doing!  (I'm an egg, aspiring to be coffee)  I thought this was sweet, and it made me think of my beautiful grandmother who is no longer of this world, so I can't imagine starting the day off better!  Have a great day ladies!! 

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  • image RosiePeare:
    image EKGibs:

    image Bethelgal42:
    Thanks for sharing. There are days when I feel like all 3 of those.

    Me too. I hope eventually I will be the coffee but right now I feel like the eggSad

    And I don't think there's a thing in the world wrong with that, EK. While stories like this one are intended to be sweet, I hate them because I think they too often imply that people should strive to be something different than what they are in the face of grief or adversity. Far more important, I believe, is the willingness to give yourself permission to feel how you do today without worrying how you should feel tomorrow.

    Thank you for this, Rosie. I, too, have been much more eggy since 2012 (since 2010, really).

    I liked this story, and I liked this message. And I feel like I should "want" to be more like coffee. The story touched me - but your comment about it saying "people should strive to be something different than what they are" really resonated with me. I've got that prickly feeling in the back of my throat like I'm gonna cry!



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  • image RosiePeare:
    image EKGibs:

    image Bethelgal42:
    Thanks for sharing. There are days when I feel like all 3 of those.

    Me too. I hope eventually I will be the coffee but right now I feel like the eggSad

    And I don't think there's a thing in the world wrong with that, EK. While stories like this one are intended to be sweet, I hate them because I think they too often imply that people should strive to be something different than what they are in the face of grief or adversity. Far more important, I believe, is the willingness to give yourself permission to feel how you do today without worrying how you should feel tomorrow.

    I agree with Rosie.

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  • This is neat. Thanks for sharing.
                               
                  
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