Heartbreak

Shan134

I'm 10 and half weeks, I've had a previous mc around the same time 2 years ago, got a scan the 24th is it normal to be so worried??? I keep telling myself that something is wrong, literally crying every night. HELP!?! Please words of advise from mothers to be will be appreciated!

brockerln

All of us PGALs share in your worry.  Have you heard the HB yet?

Checkman247

Although I've never had a mc- my thoughts and prayers go out to you. I pray you have a healthy pregnancy!

 

 

Shan134

Haven't heard the hc yet. I think this is what is making things worse. Tried to go for a dating scan 2/3 weeks ago but they said it was to early for anything

Ktbug613

There is no normal with pgal. I hope you can find a way to cope a little better though. Crying every night sounds miserable. We do a weekly check in titled pgal for ladies who are pregnant after a loss. We all understand each others crazy fears and try to offer as much support as possible. Maybe you can find some support and comfort there. You are not alone on this board there are many ladies here who have had losses, some ladies have had multiple. One of these wise pgal ladies told me not to long ago that your past does not dictate your future. Out really suck with me and i remind myself of that often :

quitexcontrary

I'm the same way. I had a mc in 2010 and worried for most of pregnancy with my son in 2011. Even though I know I can have a healthy pregnancy, I'm still worried. I have my appt on the 24th as well. I know it's easier than it sounds, but try to do something that will take your mind off of things for a while. I try to read a gossip mag or watch tv. Thinking of you! Hugs!

ashleychamp

I had 2 miscarriages last year and I am 10 and half weeks now as well. Here is what I keep telling myself... worrying about it, does me nor the baby any good. IF there is something wrong, there is nothing anyone on this planet can do to change the outcome. Just have faith. Miscarriages are rough but I do believe that everything happens for a reason. Your last miscarriage may have happened because THIS baby is what is meant to be in your life. I keep telling myself these things over and over again and it doesn't completly make me feel better, but its the best I got.   Best of luck to you and your little nugget!!!

SA1112

I'm so sorry. Being PgAL sucks. I have also had a previous mc and  I was doing the same thing with this pregnancy that you are (crying daily and I just knew something was wrong). It's hard to trust that everything is ok after you've had a loss. I pleaded with my OB to do an earlier u/s for me because I was so stressed and it turned out everything was fine. Maybe you could let your OB know how much anxiety it is causing you and see if they will do another u/s or doppler for a heartbeat. ((hugs))

brockerln

Shan134:

Haven't heard the hc yet. I think this is what is making things worse. Tried to go for a dating scan 2/3 weeks ago but they said it was to early for anything

 

Why not call your OB office and tell them that given your previous MC, you have been so worried and stressed and are hoping to get in to hear the HB this week. It will provide you some comfort. 

2MamazInSeattle

I'd call and ask for an ultrasound. We saw baby's heartbeat at 6w1d! At 10weeks its audible. My clinic will do them if you're really debilitated with worry. Worth an ask!

AmeliaKris

I'm in the same boat. My appt is the 23rd. I had a strong hb last time at almost 9 weeks only to have it stop a few days later. These last 2 days have been hard, especially since my morning sickness has disappeared. I'm also really concerned but try to take it day by day. Today I am pregnant and I love my baby. I made the conscious decision to love this baby in this moment because even if somehow it ends in heartbreak for me, I want my baby to feel how much I love him or her. Pgal brain is so incredibly hard. Hang in there. You are not alone.