What is LO's bed time?

palma44

I am just curious what others LO's bed times are, and if it is even possible to "set" a bed time. My LO is going to bed around 10:00pm, which isn't bad but DH and I are ready to go to bed before this and I have had no luck attempting to move her bed time up to 9-9:30pm. That hour would make a huge difference for us but she will not go to bed until she is ready. If I try to put her in her crib before that magic moment when she is tried enough, she will just fuss until she full on screams and cries and I of course get her back up. So I am wondering what time other LO's at this age are going to bed and how the bed time routine works for you?

sunnyday016

He goes to bed at 6:30, and he's usually in full meltdown mode by then. 

Our routine is dinner, bath, pajamas + sleep sack, nurse to sleep or until very sleepy, rock for a little while, then I put him in his bed. Sometimes he's fully asleep when I put him down, and other times he is pushing me away as he's fighting being rocked.  

buzzbee24

between 6:45 and 7:30 depending on his sleepy queues. no later than 7:30, like pp, we will see meltdown mode if it's any later.

jcsntms06

My Lo is in bed between 7-8 p.m and she's 10 months old.

silvie25mar

Dd is 9.5 mos and has bath time at 8, followed by a nurse then is out like a light at 835. Not saying she doesn't sometimes wake up a couple hours later lol. Whatever works for you! But if you go back to work you may want to go down earlier. Start moving it up in 15min incriments every few days and it will eventually work. When dd was first born she would go down at 10! I bet you'll be surprised and lo will sleep better!

aeh72

Our son goes to bed between 9:30-10.  He gets his bath around 9, then we have quiet time until his last bottle at 9:30.  He usually falls asleep immediately following the bottle and is in his crib by 10.  He has shown no signs of wanting an earlier bedtime.  Sometimes he cat naps around 6:30 after getting home from daycare, but he's in full awake mode until right around the time we start the bedtime routine.  I know we're going to need to start transitioning him to an earlier bedtime but things are working for us (although we, too, would like a little more "me" time in the evenings) so we haven't had the courage to shake things up yet!

palma44

I am so jealous of those who are getting LO to bed at 6:30-7:00! I would LOVE 8:00, but I don't know how to even put her to bed 15 minutes earlier because if she is not totally ready, as in falling asleep while feeding or just falling asleep on my lap, the second I put her in her crib she sits or stands right up and cries until I get her out, hold her for a few seconds again, and then all the signs line up and bam she is ready. The only thing I can think of right now is trying to transition ever single thing in her day 15-30 minutes earlier, getting up, naps, everything, so hopefully her bed time with just naturally fit with that.

Mrs MoJoRisin

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mexicolombiana

Well DH and I don't get home from work til 6 so any bedtime before 8 wouldn't work at all for us.  Can you imagine I get home from work and boom she's asleep? Ha.  

So we eat dinner at 7 or 7:30 in our house and start bedtime routines around 8 or 8:30.  I put the baby down first around 8:30 and she's usually asleep by 8:45. Then I put the toddler to sleep and she's asleep right away.  They don't wake up til 7:30ish.

 

ktpaladino

We aim for 7:30 but lately it's been creeping closer to 8:00, and now with teething, it's usually 9:00 before he's fully asleep.

PinkPeony6210

It is definitely possible to establish a set bedtime. Routine is key. 

 I start our bedtime routine of bath, lotion, bedtime story/bottle at 7:00 (6:45 somedays). DH puts DD1 to bed, while I feed DD2. DD2 is in bed by 7:30, DD1 by 7:45. 

JenK1108

Between 6:30-7:00.  Anything past 7:00 and he's a mess!  Sleeps until about 6 AM. 

JenK1108

JenK1108:

Between 6:30-7:00.  Anything past 7:00 and he's a mess!  Sleeps until about 6 AM. 

 Forgot to add our routine:  We do bath, PJ's, read a couple of books while he holds his paci and blanket, and then he goes into his crib and goes to sleep.  We did Ferber at 6 months, so he goes to sleep on his own.  Sometimes he talks/whines for a bit, but most of the time goes right to sleep.  We don't do a bottle right before bed unless we didn't get to it earlier.  He has a bottle at around 3:00-4:00 at daycare, so he will usually take a couple of ounces between 5-7, but it's not associated with bedtime. 

mben1119

DS is asleep by 5:30 every night. I get home from work between 4:45 and 5, and by then DH has usually done his dinner and a bath. He gets some milk, then we have cuddle time until he falls asleep. He has to wake up by 6 every morning to get to day care, so at least he's getting 12 hours a night.

SteelCity44

sunnyday016:

He goes to bed at 6:30, and he's usually in full meltdown mode by then. 

Our routine is dinner, bath, pajamas + sleep sack, nurse to sleep or until very sleepy, rock for a little while, then I put him in his bed. Sometimes he's fully asleep when I put him down, and other times he is pushing me away as he's fighting being rocked.  

This is very much like us, except we aim for dinner to end at 6:30. As soon as dinner is over, he gets his bath, pjs, story or 2 (I let him pick from his bookshelf), and if he isn't pushing me away, a song or 2, and I lay him down awake or asleep. Our routine improved 100% when we stopped coming back downstairs after his bath. Now I take the fan/light remote with me to the glider before story time, so if he starts getting sleepy, I can dim the lights and eventually shut them off for the song(s). I turn Scout on to play "10 minutes of bedtime music," Scout tells Micah "Goodnight," and we're done. He's usually asleep by 7/7:15.

palma44

Well right now I am not working but hopping that will changing in the next few weeks. I am thinking our problem is that she goes to bed so late, 10pm and then sleeps in so late, between 8am and 9am. so hopefully when I get back to work and she is getting up between 6am and 7am, this will naturally get us into a better routine.

Shawnee11507

Typically at 9pm and he gets up at 9am.

He started fighting sleep at 9 months and crying. It would take me hours of me rocking him 20min, him waking and screaming as soon as I put him down, & repeat. Then I read never pick them back up, just let them know you are there for them, so I tried it- and it worked! If he started crying, I would stay in the room and sing to him and maybe rub his back 1 or 2x for a min. If he woke-up again as I snuck out of the room, I wouldn't go back in- I would sing over the monitor (it has two-way voice)- and he would go back to sleep. 

This worked great until 2-3 weeks ago when he figured out he could pull-up on the side of the crib. As soon as I put him down, he would pull-up and cry. He didn't know how to get down, so I would place him back down and do the singing routine again. Last week I figured out I could stop all this simply by placing him down on his back (I was putting him down on his stomach because he always sleeps on his stomach, so I was "saving him the trouble" of rolling over. lol). Now I place him down on his back and he looks around for a couple minutes, rolls onto his stomach, and then goes to sleep instead of pulling-up. 

If his eyes open for any reason, he immediately pulls-up and cries though. If I see him on the monitor and start with the singing, he will stop and start trying to go back to sleep mid-pull-up half the time at least. 

gothgrrl

Between 8:30 and 9:30.  After work we have dinner, playtime (sometimes broken up by a bath), pajamas, play or work on walking until final bottle feeding...then if she has not powered down during the bottle, we rock in her room with the lights low until she is ready for her crib.

jalaiaa

buzzbee24:

between 6:45 and 7:30 depending on his sleepy queues. no later than 7:30, like pp, we will see meltdown mode if it's any later.

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mwsquirrel

8:00

huskymomma94

8:30 pm

allisonmarie22v4

Solids @ 6:30pm, bath @ 7pm, bottle @ 7:30pm and usually asleep by 8-8:30pm. 

sam19

Usually around 6:30 ish. And yes, I think it's possible to set a bedtime but it's something that is done when they are much younger.

kderham

Bed time starts around 6:30 and he is asleep by 7. He starts to get fussy around 6:30 anyway. He wakes up around 6 or 6:30 in the morning. He would like to sleep longer but I have found that the best thing to do is set a consistent time to wake up. It is hard, especially on the weekend if he is sleeping well but that makes the entire day predicatble. Plus, he seems to love his schedule. Our bedtime routine recently changed (trying to night wean) but we do dinner, ten minutes of quiet play (no electronics), milk, pjs, story and bed.

If you want to change the bedtime, I recommend waking her up earlier in the morning and keep the amount of time spent napping consistent. It will make for a few challenging days for you but if that hour is important to you, it will be worth it. Check out Troublesometots.com. Alexis is awesome and always has tons of tips!