baby's bday

Ladydianna

So this will be our 3rd baby and also my 3rd c-sec.  I know my OB is going to schedule me for 1 week before baby's due date, which right now looks like August 18th.  That is our anniversary. Is it silly to not want my c-sec that day? I was going to try for a vbac w/ dd 2 but at 41 weeks had made no progress and after reading up on induction's and vbac I decided to go for the Rc-sec. I'm wondering if they'll let me go to 40 weeks even though they will not give me the iption of Vba2c

cinderin

our anniversary is 7/23 and our EDD is 8/7 (was 8/1 before first u/s) which is pretty close. 

I wouldn't want them on the same day. Your child will have bday parties and you will be busy planning them, so it may not be as easy to find a day to celebrate your anniversary.

Another thing I was thinking is that DH and I might want to have a weekend away on our anniversary one year (leave kiddo with grandparents or my sister) and if it is kiddo's bday, that won't be a possibility.  

 

 

kateisgreat

I absolutely wouldn't want my anniversary and LO's b-day on the same day, but I know they schedule the c-section at 39 weeks for a reason if you cannot attempt vbac. Can they shift it by a day or two at least?  

gscoville

Not to sound insensitive, but anyone having a baby vaginally and unscheduled would just have to deal with the possibility of baby arriving on other special days, they tend to come when they come. So while you might have the luxury of asking your doctor to adjust the date to your wishes, ultimately the safety of you and your baby will be your doctor's first consideration, and should be yours too. In my experience with friends who have had scheduled C-sections, their doctors haven't typically been very receptive to requests to change the schedule for the sake of convenience.

Ultimately, even if your baby is born on your anniversary, it's not the end of the world. So you might have to take your anniversary trip on another weekend or just share your special day with your child - big deal. Kids born naturally on Xmas grow up learning to deal with either being overshadowed by the day or having their bday celebration another time, if a child can do it we as adults should be able to deal with it too.

TurtleMomma

gscoville:

Not to sound insensitive, but anyone having a baby vaginally and unscheduled would just have to deal with the possibility of baby arriving on other special days, they tend to come when they come. So while you might have the luxury of asking your doctor to adjust the date to your wishes, ultimately the safety of you and your baby will be your doctor's first consideration, and should be yours too. In my experience with friends who have had scheduled C-sections, their doctors haven't typically been very receptive to requests to change the schedule for the sake of convenience.

Ultimately, even if your baby is born on your anniversary, it's not the end of the world. So you might have to take your anniversary trip on another weekend or just share your special day with your child - big deal. Kids born naturally on Xmas grow up learning to deal with either being overshadowed by the day or having their bday celebration another time, if a child can do it we as adults should be able to deal with it too.

THIS.

raffsen

TurtleMomma:

gscoville:

Not to sound insensitive, but anyone having a baby vaginally and unscheduled would just have to deal with the possibility of baby arriving on other special days, they tend to come when they come. So while you might have the luxury of asking your doctor to adjust the date to your wishes, ultimately the safety of you and your baby will be your doctor's first consideration, and should be yours too. In my experience with friends who have had scheduled C-sections, their doctors haven't typically been very receptive to requests to change the schedule for the sake of convenience.

Ultimately, even if your baby is born on your anniversary, it's not the end of the world. So you might have to take your anniversary trip on another weekend or just share your special day with your child - big deal. Kids born naturally on Xmas grow up learning to deal with either being overshadowed by the day or having their bday celebration another time, if a child can do it we as adults should be able to deal with it too.

THIS.

I also agree, and am in the same boat.  According to my LMC my due date is 8/14, but I am measuring due 8/19...our anniversary is 8/9.  I know that is earlier than both dd but both my DH and I were over 2 weeks early, and all four of my mom's kids were at least 2 weeks early.  Now it would be nice to have separate days, but I also figure it would be the best anniversary present ever!  It took us about 2 years to get pregnant,  so my little on is a blessing I have been waiting for!  Cheers to happy-healthy pregnancies AND babies for everyone!!!

 

cinderin

gscoville:

Not to sound insensitive, but anyone having a baby vaginally and unscheduled would just have to deal with the possibility of baby arriving on other special days, they tend to come when they come. So while you might have the luxury of asking your doctor to adjust the date to your wishes, ultimately the safety of you and your baby will be your doctor's first consideration, and should be yours too. In my experience with friends who have had scheduled C-sections, their doctors haven't typically been very receptive to requests to change the schedule for the sake of convenience.

Ultimately, even if your baby is born on your anniversary, it's not the end of the world. So you might have to take your anniversary trip on another weekend or just share your special day with your child - big deal. Kids born naturally on Xmas grow up learning to deal with either being overshadowed by the day or having their bday celebration another time, if a child can do it we as adults should be able to deal with it too.

My Bday is Christmas.

It is kind of nice in some ways. I am the firstborn and my mom always said I was her Christmas present. I am also the first grandchild on her side, so that is nice too, my grandma always said I am her Christmas present too.

I always get to see everyone on my Bday. I don't have to work on my Bday. It was extra special this year because we told family we were PG on Christmas.

It sucked as a kid. All the other kids/families are busy so you don't really get much of a party. You don't get a day "just for you" (I don't know what that feels like). As an adult is better, except that now every other year I am cleaning and cooking and entertaining my ILs for Christmas. Not the top of my list of things I would prefer to do on my Bday. 

Anyway - I answered above.

*If* I could avoid it, it would be preferable. I hope my baby is not born on (or within a couple days of) our anniversary. If it happens, it happens. It's not like I am going to be sad or unhappy I have a baby, it is just nice to have each occasion separate if possible.  

cinderin

I also wanted to add - I am *super* excited to be due in August! 

I think August is a great time to have a birthday. The weather her in Seattle is great, so you can always have a nice outdoor party!

I have had a couple people comment how I will be big when it is hot here (which is true) but it is just for one year and kiddo will get tons of great bday options in the years to come!  

coraggiosa

gscoville:

Not to sound insensitive, but anyone having a baby vaginally and unscheduled would just have to deal with the possibility of baby arriving on other special days, they tend to come when they come. So while you might have the luxury of asking your doctor to adjust the date to your wishes, ultimately the safety of you and your baby will be your doctor's first consideration, and should be yours too. In my experience with friends who have had scheduled C-sections, their doctors haven't typically been very receptive to requests to change the schedule for the sake of convenience.

Ultimately, even if your baby is born on your anniversary, it's not the end of the world. So you might have to take your anniversary trip on another weekend or just share your special day with your child - big deal. Kids born naturally on Xmas grow up learning to deal with either being overshadowed by the day or having their bday celebration another time, if a child can do it we as adults should be able to deal with it too.

This. My anniversary is not in August, but I certainly wouldn't be upset if I was due on it. You can always celebrate your anniversary the following week or something.  

aessary03

At the very least, I can't imagine them not giving you leeway of a couple days!    Good luck!

 

Jomojack2

And to be honest you are going to have the same scheduling difficulties I the baby is born around the day as well. Even a week later you could still run into the same things especially when the days fall on a week day.

bananatiff

Are they really scheduling appointments that far out?  If that's the case, surely they'd be willing to move it one day in either direction.

Our EDD is 2 days after our anniversary, so it's a real possibility for us.  We're both fine with it, but if we had a say, we'd probably elect a different day just because. 

kmr333

The bright side of having a child with the same birthday as your anniversary is that your kids would always remember your anniversary! 

Rachey1082

My anniversary is August 11 and my EDD is August 12.

I could care less if he/she is born on our anniversary. It would just make that day more special. We can always take a trip before of after baby's birthday.

quitexcontrary

We scheduled my CS for my son the day after our anniversary. 

Ladydianna

Thanks for the input ladies.  The first thing I said to DH was wouldn't it be a cool present. But he does not agree at all, and after thinking about it i would like to have seperate days. It is standard practice in my OB's office to schedule a RC-sec at 39 weeks. I definitely won't question the day they give me. Although to be honest I do wish they would let me go to 40 weeks just because I think it's safer. 

emme+3

If you feel more comfortable waiting until 40wks, there is absolutely no reason why you can't. I wouldn't request an earlier or later date for convenience, but I sure as heck would speak up for safety. In most cases, there is no reason why you can't go to 40wks, or even wait until your body starts labor on its own to go in for the c/s. I'm VBAC, but if I had to have a RCS I'd still want my baby to come when ready, so I totally get that. Definitely talk to your dr about your feelings and concerns.