February 2013 Moms

Kind of bummed even if it's best

Our hospital has put a ban on kids being allowed on the premises who are not there as patients due to the whole flu thing.  NC was one of the first states to get the outbreak and got hit extremely hard right before Christmas (I witnessed it first hand working in a pediatricians office).  Now with the next outbreak on the rise and that 17 yr old who died from it nobody's taking any chances.

 I'm totally understanding, just kind of keeping my fingers crossed they lift it in the next few weeks.  I have a 14 mo old who I am DREADING being away from over night when I go into labor.  I don't even want to consider not seeing her for two to three days. I seriously just teared up typing that last sentence. Not to mention I don't want to wait 3 days to introduce her to her new brother.

Don't think I'm being an irresponsible mom, I of course want to protect her....just a little bummed at the thought of being without my Elie Belie for that long.

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  • Totally understand.  I'm in NC too (delivering at Duke) and they put up the same guidelines a few weeks ago.  I really wanted to have that experience of DS1 meeting his little brother for the first time shortly after he was born -- looks like that won't be happening now unless something changes suddenly abou the visitation rules.

          DS1: Quinn - 10.22.10 and DS2: Cole - 01.18.13

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  • Are you having a c/s?  If not, you can be released as soon as 24 hours after the birth.  I was in the same position when I had #2, although the hospital didn't have a policy, I didn't really want #1 up at the hospital because of germs and the fact that he was so young and restless.  I left DH at home with DS1 and I was pretty much alone at the hospital, so I decided to leave as soon as I possibly could, which was after 24 hours.  I didn't really feel like I missed much.

    But I will say that it was a huge reason for me choosing to have HBs with future children.  With #3 it was nice to just be at home with the rest of the kids.

        
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  • That would make me really sad too. I have never spent a night away from my youngest and if she couldn't at least visit me at the hospital it would make it even harder. Plus I agree I my kids are the first people I want to introduce to their new sister so if they had to wait a few days I would hate that.
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  • image+adamwife+:

    Are you having a c/s?  If not, you can be released as soon as 24 hours after the birth.  I was in the same position when I had #2, although the hospital didn't have a policy, I didn't really want #1 up at the hospital because of germs and the fact that he was so young and restless.  I left DH at home with DS1 and I was pretty much alone at the hospital, so I decided to leave as soon as I possibly could, which was after 24 hours.  I didn't really feel like I missed much.

    But I will say that it was a huge reason for me choosing to have HBs with future children.  With #3 it was nice to just be at home with the rest of the kids.

    I know this is strange but I wish the hospital stay was longer lol. The second I left with number 1 I went from super chill-happy-thrilled new momma to basket case....literally before we got off the hospital eleavator.  I guess that won't be the same this time since I have a toddler to go home to though...

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    image+adamwife+:

    Are you having a c/s?  If not, you can be released as soon as 24 hours after the birth.  I was in the same position when I had #2, although the hospital didn't have a policy, I didn't really want #1 up at the hospital because of germs and the fact that he was so young and restless.  I left DH at home with DS1 and I was pretty much alone at the hospital, so I decided to leave as soon as I possibly could, which was after 24 hours.  I didn't really feel like I missed much.

    But I will say that it was a huge reason for me choosing to have HBs with future children.  With #3 it was nice to just be at home with the rest of the kids.

    I know this is strange but I wish the hospital stay was longer lol. The second I left with number 1 I went from super chill-happy-thrilled new momma to basket case....literally before we got off the hospital eleavator.  I guess that won't be the same this time since I have a toddler to go home to though...

    I was the same exact way.  It was way different for me with #2 though.  I missed him and just wanted to get home to get back to my normal routine with him.

        
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    imagemrsdugger:
    image+adamwife+:

    Are you having a c/s?  If not, you can be released as soon as 24 hours after the birth.  I was in the same position when I had #2, although the hospital didn't have a policy, I didn't really want #1 up at the hospital because of germs and the fact that he was so young and restless.  I left DH at home with DS1 and I was pretty much alone at the hospital, so I decided to leave as soon as I possibly could, which was after 24 hours.  I didn't really feel like I missed much.

    But I will say that it was a huge reason for me choosing to have HBs with future children.  With #3 it was nice to just be at home with the rest of the kids.

    I know this is strange but I wish the hospital stay was longer lol. The second I left with number 1 I went from super chill-happy-thrilled new momma to basket case....literally before we got off the hospital eleavator.  I guess that won't be the same this time since I have a toddler to go home to though...

    I was the same exact way.  It was way different for me with #2 though.  I missed him and just wanted to get home to get back to my normal routine with him.

    I figure it will be different this time especially since I HATE being away from dd.  My mom gets mad I won't let her spend the night, but I just can't do it!

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  • It is the most adorable thing to see your toddler with his or her newborn sibling.  I remember the little look of wonder on the older sibs face, so I truly feel for all the ST+M's who are going to be blocked because of hospital rules.  This time around I won't have my older children there to greet the new baby since it is their father's weekend (divorced and a 50/50 split) and he is not a nice man so will not bring them or allow them to be picked up even by my parents for a visit.  They won't see their new sister for four days.  So I completely understand how much it is going to suck.  They are so excited but we have all sat and talked about it and I am lucky to have understanding children.  If you are lucky, maybe the children ban will be lifted by the time of delivery.
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  • This may sound horrible, but I really wish our hospital would enforce a rule like this, maybe not nessecarily kids but people in general that have obvious flu symptoms. Both my ILs and my side of the family aren't very smart about things, like if you feel ill stay home! And I just know someone will be sick and hacking their lungs up and try to come hold LO.
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  • imageamberrae45:
    This may sound horrible, but I really wish our hospital would enforce a rule like this, maybe not nessecarily kids but people in general that have obvious flu symptoms. Both my ILs and my side of the family aren't very smart about things, like if you feel ill stay home! And I just know someone will be sick and hacking their lungs up and try to come hold LO.

    I kind of have to agree with you.  I can totally understand the S+TM not wanting to be away from their other children.  But for me, this is my first so I don't really have that.  As soon as the CDC declares this flu season to be an "epidemic" our hospital will go into sort of a lock down.  No visitors at all.  May sound selfish of me, but I kind of like the idea of it only being me, DH, and our new LO for that entire time.  Not to mention I have a feeling my brother might try to come to the hospital (if we don't have a lock down), even after I explicitly told him that since he's not getting the flu vaccine, he's not allowed around LO for the first 6 months.  My brother has a horrible immune system so he gets sick ALL the time... yet still refuses the vaccine. 

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    imageamberrae45:
    This may sound horrible, but I really wish our hospital would enforce a rule like this, maybe not nessecarily kids but people in general that have obvious flu symptoms. Both my ILs and my side of the family aren't very smart about things, like if you feel ill stay home! And I just know someone will be sick and hacking their lungs up and try to come hold LO.

    I kind of have to agree with you.  I can totally understand the S+TM not wanting to be away from their other children.  But for me, this is my first so I don't really have that.  As soon as the CDC declares this flu season to be an "epidemic" our hospital will go into sort of a lock down.  No visitors at all.  May sound selfish of me, but I kind of like the idea of it only being me, DH, and our new LO for that entire time.  Not to mention I have a feeling my brother might try to come to the hospital (if we don't have a lock down), even after I explicitly told him that since he's not getting the flu vaccine, he's not allowed around LO for the first 6 months.  My brother has a horrible immune system so he gets sick ALL the time... yet still refuses the vaccine. 

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  • imagePrplMonky5:

    imageamberrae45:
    This may sound horrible, but I really wish our hospital would enforce a rule like this, maybe not nessecarily kids but people in general that have obvious flu symptoms. Both my ILs and my side of the family aren't very smart about things, like if you feel ill stay home! And I just know someone will be sick and hacking their lungs up and try to come hold LO.

    I kind of have to agree with you.  I can totally understand the S+TM not wanting to be away from their other children.  But for me, this is my first so I don't really have that.  As soon as the CDC declares this flu season to be an "epidemic" our hospital will go into sort of a lock down.  No visitors at all.  May sound selfish of me, but I kind of like the idea of it only being me, DH, and our new LO for that entire time.  Not to mention I have a feeling my brother might try to come to the hospital (if we don't have a lock down), even after I explicitly told him that since he's not getting the flu vaccine, he's not allowed around LO for the first 6 months.  My brother has a horrible immune system so he gets sick ALL the time... yet still refuses the vaccine. 

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  • imagemrsdugger:
    imagePrplMonky5:

    imageamberrae45:
    This may sound horrible, but I really wish our hospital would enforce a rule like this, maybe not nessecarily kids but people in general that have obvious flu symptoms. Both my ILs and my side of the family aren't very smart about things, like if you feel ill stay home! And I just know someone will be sick and hacking their lungs up and try to come hold LO.

    I kind of have to agree with you.  I can totally understand the S+TM not wanting to be away from their other children.  But for me, this is my first so I don't really have that.  As soon as the CDC declares this flu season to be an "epidemic" our hospital will go into sort of a lock down.  No visitors at all.  May sound selfish of me, but I kind of like the idea of it only being me, DH, and our new LO for that entire time.  Not to mention I have a feeling my brother might try to come to the hospital (if we don't have a lock down), even after I explicitly told him that since he's not getting the flu vaccine, he's not allowed around LO for the first 6 months.  My brother has a horrible immune system so he gets sick ALL the time... yet still refuses the vaccine. 

     

    omg sorry about that...

    What I was trying to respond with was that I was under the impression the rule is to protect the children who would be coming to visit as they're more prone to getting the flu than adults and the hospitals are admitting a lot of flu patients.  Then again, to me it's common sense that if my child is sick she can't come to the hospital to visit...

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