Mommy guilt

mommietobeto3

It's a terrible thing. We sacrifice so much for our LO's and most if us still feel guilty about something. I told myself I wouldn't do it but I'm having major guilt over failing at breast feeding a third time. I don't know why because the biggest problem was that my milk supply sucked from the beginning. In fact LO almost ended up back in the hospital with jaundice because I wasn't making near enough and didn't know it. He's been completely in formula since 10 days old and is a perfect healthy beautiful baby so I know it's stupid but I can't help it. Anyone else?

Reilly626

No guilt here while the formula is expensive my kids and happy and healthy and I'm sane! They also started sttn at 4 mo old. I love my sleep!

SM0524

I go through periods of guilt about it not working out.  I had the same problem of not having a good supply.  I just tell myself I tried and in the end I had to do what was best for DD and that obviously is feeding her so formula was the only option at that point.  I do with I hadn't given up pumping so early and would have at least what I did produce.  Happy and healthy is what reallty matters!

Mrs. Rohde

Sometimes I still feel guilty about not trying harder to bf with DD. I gave up after an obnoxious battle and some what i know now was PPD and started her on formula just after 8 weeks. She's done great and has grown up healthy and happy so I know that I shouldn't stress about it.
I am still bf DS. For some reason it just worked out this time. What's lame is that I will probably feel guilty once I'm done bfing. I'll probably stop at a year if not sooner and I feel that's good enough. Hopefully no one tries to make me feel bad about all that. My family tends to be a bit overbearing and nosy and think they know everything.

KimnBen

I feel guilty about the whole breast feeding thing too.  DD had latch issues, so I was EP and it was just too hard, then I got sick and my supply dropped.  I ended up throwing in the towel completely a few weeks ago.  What made it even more difficult was DD had issues finding a good formula.  She has a Milk protein intolerance, so that was a nightmare.  Another slap in the face is the formula cans even have on there that brest feeding is recommended.  I try not to be too hard on myself, but I have my days. 

mommietobeto3

KimnBen:

I feel guilty about the whole breast feeding thing too.nbsp; DD had latch issues, so I was EP and it was just too hard, then I got sick and my supply dropped.nbsp; I ended up throwing in the towel completely a few weeks ago.nbsp; What made it even more difficult was DD had issues finding a good formula.nbsp; She has a Milk protein intolerance, so that was a nightmare.nbsp; Another slap in the face is the formula cans even have on there that brest feeding is recommended.nbsp; I try not to be too hard on myself, but I have my days.nbsp;

Us too. LO is allergic to milk and soy. I think they had us try like 4 formulas before telling us just to go to nutramigen which is a God send. I'm sure I would have had to stop breast feeding because of this anyway but I still feel bad.

HoneyBunn24

mommietobeto3:

It's a terrible thing. We sacrifice so much for our LO's and most if us still feel guilty about something. I told myself I wouldn't do it but I'm having major guilt over failing at breast feeding a third time. I don't know why because the biggest problem was that my milk supply sucked from the beginning. In fact LO almost ended up back in the hospital with jaundice because I wasn't making near enough and didn't know it. He's been completely in formula since 10 days old and is a perfect healthy beautiful baby so I know it's stupid but I can't help it. Anyone else?

Breastfeeding didn't work at all for my mom, so I expected some difficulty, but I have the worst guilt about not being able to go farther than I did. I was EBF for almost a month. Nursing hurt so much that I cried every time Jacqueline would latch. We had thursh and yeast infections and I had torn nipples that are still divets now. One day Jacqueline would cry insanely after nursing for an hour and I would cry and my mom came into my room and she had a bottle with formula and told me to sleep and she would take care of Jacqueline. I slept for a few hours and I tried to nurse again when I got up and got the same result. From then I have been trying everything I can think of. I bought a pump, rented a hospital grade pump, bought a hand pump, took pills, ate oatmeal, drank juice...I don't want to give up and it kills me that I couldn't hang on. I keep trying to pump every day because I know that every drop of BM is a benefit...but I'm just about done.
DH tells me all the time not to beat myself up for not being able to EBF, or BF at all...but I can't help but feeling like I failed.