why...? (vent/nbr)

Nicole0012

Why is the single parenting board filled with a bunch of uneducated silly girls who had one night stands and got pregnant or relationships that were literally torn apart by drugs, abuse, alcohol, etc.? It's all very dramatic, depressing, and the women over there HATE their exes. I so badly would love to be part of a community board that has strong, smart, women (or men) to chat about the every day challenges of single parenting, but I just can't bring myself to post over there. Gah...

Sorry to vent  

ETA: Sorry to sound mean... maybe I shouldn't complain about this  

sdpookie13

You absolutely should have a nice supportive group to talk to!  It stinks that you're not finding what you need there.  I'm sure we all wouldn't mind your single mom discussions even if we can't always relate.   

EMOmamma

That sucks.  I really like the Working Mom's board.  There are some single ladies over there too, and at least a few Dec10 moms you'll recognize.  

Nicole0012

EMO-mamma:

That sucks.  I really like the Working Mom's board.  There are some single ladies over there too, and at least a few Dec10 moms you'll recognize.  

 

Maybe I'll check them out  

Nicole0012

letranger:

I think you are being a little rough on other moms, everyone has differnet circumstances. I'm Sure if you posted they would be supportive of you even if circumstances differ, if you are looking for co parenting discussions you should start a thread and ask advice that way.

I know, you're right. I just get frustrated that there are so few who find themselves in amicable relationships with their ex-spouse. I guess it makes sense, and I'm the odd ball out, but you're right - I'm sure they would have a lot to offer with the experience they have doing it on their own.  

JoJoMama730

EMO-mamma:

That sucks.  I really like the Working Mom's board.  There are some single ladies over there too, and at least a few Dec10 moms you'll recognize.  

Me too.  It's also pretty positive and supportive over there.

JoJoMama730

Nicole0012:

letranger:

I think you are being a little rough on other moms, everyone has differnet circumstances. I'm Sure if you posted they would be supportive of you even if circumstances differ, if you are looking for co parenting discussions you should start a thread and ask advice that way.

I know, you're right. I just get frustrated that there are so few who find themselves in amicable relationships with their ex-spouse. I guess it makes sense, and I'm the odd ball out, but you're right - I'm sure they would have a lot to offer with the experience they have doing it on their own.  

Yes, you are the oddball.  I know, because I am too!  I get along pretty well with DH's ex-wife (for the kids' sakes), and pretty much nobody else I know can relate.  The blended families board is pretty dramatic too.  I think single/blended family situations often include a lot of conflict, so when you're in a situation that doesn't, it's unusual and not the norm.  I say go ahead and give the single parents board a chance, though.  You might be surprised by the support you receive, and you might even encourage some lurkers like you to come out.  And if not, well, no harm done.

lrn327

Nicole0012:

letranger:

I think you are being a little rough on other moms, everyone has differnet circumstances. I'm Sure if you posted they would be supportive of you even if circumstances differ, if you are looking for co parenting discussions you should start a thread and ask advice that way.

I know, you're right. I just get frustrated that there are so few who find themselves in amicable relationships with their ex-spouse. I guess it makes sense, and I'm the odd ball out, but you're right - I'm sure they would have a lot to offer with the experience they have doing it on their own.  

I think your situation is probably fairly rare but I'm glad that Miles and you have that!  I too like looking at WM sometimes.  It seems like a nice group!  You can always ask us here though.  Even though most of us are living with our spouses/partners, many (including myself) came from single parent homes so always have that perspective.  

jarebearsmom

lrn327:

Nicole0012:

letranger:

I think you are being a little rough on other moms, everyone has differnet circumstances.

I'm Sure if you posted they would be supportive of you even if circumstances differ, if you are looking for co parenting discussions you should start a thread and ask advice that way.

I know, you're right. I just get frustrated that there are so few who find themselves in amicable relationships with their ex-spouse. I guess it makes sense, and I'm the odd ball out, but you're right - I'm sure they would have a lot to offer with the experience they have doing it on their own.  

I think your situation is probably fairly rare but I'm glad that Miles and you have that!  I too like looking at WM sometimes.  It seems like a nice group!  You can always ask us here though.  Even though most of us are living with our spouses/partners, many (including myself) came from single parent homes so always have that perspective.  

I completely agree with lrn. We may not can give single advise from the parents perspective but we can from the kid's perspective. You know we are always here :

onlymeggan

I agree that I really like the working mom's board.  I also am from a single mom household and can offer up prospective that way.  I also help my bestfriend who is a single mom.  You can always post here.  We're here for you!! 

xxbabycakesxx

Could you lurk other message boards off TB? Like baby center or whatever?

Nicole0012

Thanks friends

I checked out WM and will respond to a few posts over there. They really do seem nice. I might check off TB boards, too, to see if there is anything out there.

And, I really do kind of feel bad about my original vent. It was mean to those going through challenging situations. Sorry  

lrn327

Nicole0012:

Thanks friends

I checked out WM and will respond to a few posts over there. They really do seem nice. I might check off TB boards, too, to see if there is anything out there.

And, I really do kind of feel bad about my original vent. It was mean to those going through challenging situations. Sorry  

Hugs, don't worry about it girl.  ;-)  Seriously, you're one of the nicest people I *know*.  You didn't mean anything harsh by it.