Everyone thinks I'm crazy.

missbrittneynicole

For wanting a natural birth and it just irritates me. I get a few thumbs up from some people, but the majority don't understand why I would want to go through pain, when modern medicine can relieve that. Does anyone have any supporting articles or information to suggest that natural birth is better for baby??

tokenhoser

You can't reason some one out of something they weren't reasoned into. Stop having this conversation with so many people.

beachcomberbride

Honestly, if someone is against it, there isn't anything you can likely do to change their minds. It's your body, your baby, and I would just tell them that. It's really none of their business what you do with your birth experience.

mlrafiki

What both PPs said. There's plenty of data, but that won't convince them. Don't bother.

pepomntpat

Don't bother sending research. It just makes you sound like you are trying to prove how much better you are. Just be secure in your decision and stop expecting everyone to agree with you. 

missbrittneynicole

Fair enough. Thanks ladies.

It's my body & my pregnancy. 

CurbsideProphet

I was planning for a pain-med free, low intervention birth and that is basically what I ended up with. After I had my baby someone who knew that was my plan asked me about it. Her reply was "I'm sorry". I was very happy with how things ended up and was not sorry at all. I did what I felt was best for me and my baby. So even after i had the birth I thought I wanted and was happy with it, people still thought I was weird/off/crazy/whatever.

 There are risks associated with getting an epidural.  I also personally wanted to avoid a c-section if possible. I felt like one thing to help avoid a c-section was to avoid an epidural.

The thing I really don't understand is why anyone else cares. If I want to give birth without drugs, how does that impact you. 

 In any case, sorry people thing you are crazy. You are not crazy. Good luck!

BrideNamedMeg

I never offered up information on what I wanted to do for my birth, but if I was asked and got a negative reaction I would say something along the lines of "It's just something I want to experience, but we'll see how it goes" and would kind of end the discussion there.  

LaurelBee

I am planning a home birth and get TONS of responses, but I've learned to shrug them off. Just Bc my ideal birth doesn't involve Drs and medications and hospital policies, doesn't mean others are wrong for choosing that route. Yes, their rude comments and lack of knowledge gets really annoying, but I am OK with my choices and I don't feel the need to correct anyone anymore. 

(Except when one friend tried to tell me episiotomies are safer, heal easier, and should be given in every birth... had to steer her straight on that one! Lol)  

briannabeebug

When people give me the you'll see lecture I often jut roll my eyes.  I know arguing with them won't change anything, but I fully empathize with wanting to give them a piece of my mind.

I always liked the response of I know my body and I know my body can do it.

beckymason1988

i feel the same way u do about and although my husband thinks im nuts he also realizes that its still my body and if thats wat i think is best then hes cool with.luckily in my case i have some supportive pregannt friends who feel the same.

only u kno wats rite for u and ur baby and u will nevr convincce anyone else

clydic

I can sympathize. For the most part when people ask I'll tell them and they are supportive but when they also assume I'm going to get an epidural they try to talk me into getting one or tell me I'll be screaming for one. Which is disheartening but makes me want to prove them wrong also! I mean have you been over to babycenter and watched that video?! It's frightening! No thank you, DO NOT sign me up for that, I'm way to much of a wuss to get one. Bravo to you ladies that have gotten one, cos I can't do that! 

BLPL101

I really didn't tell people unless they asked. DH was my biggest supporter and that's all I needed.

kxp004

you can use Google scholar to find some good resources...  I don't usually send them to anyone unless they ate interested themselves but if someone says I'm crazy or weird I just calmly explain some of the benefits...however if the person isn't receptive to it, I just move along.... otherwise I try to give good information

I think that the biggest reason people think natural birth is crazy is due to ignorance and fear... if more people talked about natural birth in positive ways, I believe people would be less judgmental about it 

pdilly2b

I like this article from Consumer Reports - https://www.consumerreports.org/cro/2012/05/what-to-reject-when-you-re-expecting/index.htm

 

#7 gets at why epidurals can be bad, especially when given early in labor. 

maginell

To each their own, but it amuses me that women are afraid of natural birth, or "pain".  I'm not looking forward to pain, but I'm more afraid of getting an epidural or being forced into a c-section, etc.  I don't do surgery!  If I face a life-threatening situation someday, that may change.  Natural birth doesn't scare me--it's NATURAL--the way it's supposed to happen, by design. That's enough for me.