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Hi! Ttc before wedding?

Hello! My fiance and I are getting married this April. We have been engaged for a year already and have wanted to ttc but were worried about me being very pregnant and uncomfy at the wedding and on the honeymoon. Now we are 3.5 months away. I want to lose the 12 pounds I have gained over the holidays before ttc so I fit into my dress again : we are thinking of ttc in march so I would be 1 month pregnant for the wedding. Maybe we will wait until after the wedding, but we are just excited to try! I am 32 so it might take awhile to get pregnant, im not sure. Anyone else ttc before your wedding?

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  • Hmm. Interesting! Thank you. That is something to consider for sure!

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  • If I were you, I would wait.  If you became pregnant, you don't know how you would feel during that first month and if you are going overseas, you don't want to take the risk of being in a different country, trying something new, getting sick and being pregnant on top of that.  You could ttc on the honeymoon, that would make things extra special.  Good Luck and congratulations on the wedding!

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  • I would wait for the simple fact that I'd want to drink at my wedding and on my honeymoon. 

    Plus how sweet would it be to conceive ON your honeymoon? That'd be adorable. 
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  • All very good points. Judgement gets cloudy when you want something bad, huh? I like this board, I usually am just on the knot. Maybe I can stick around, or at least come back here in about 4 months! Any recs on things to do now while I wait? Prenatals? I am planning on walking and eating right...after tomorrows nye party! Anything else that will help prepare my body for my first baby? Thanks!

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    All very good points. Judgement gets cloudy when you want something bad, huh? I like this board, I usually am just on the knot. Maybe I can stick around, or at least come back here in about 4 months! Any recs on things to do now while I wait? Prenatals? I am planning on walking and eating right...after tomorrows nye party! Anything else that will help prepare my body for my first baby? Thanks!

    definitely start with the prenatals now. You should go to the TTGP board and look at the FAQs. You can learn about charting and temping, and give yourself the best chance possible on your first cycle trying. 
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    I would wait for the simple fact that I'd want to drink at my wedding and on my honeymoon. 

    Plus how sweet would it be to conceive ON your honeymoon? That'd be adorable. 

    All of this, but also because it would just be a heck of a lot simpler to just wait. :D

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  • I say GO FOR IT! It usually takes a while to conceive. :) It's fun, and it will only happen when its meant to anyway. DH & I did try before, and it didn't happen. We started again 5 months after the wedding and it took 4 months to conceive. Also, I say go ahead and start prenatals. Get in the routine, and it will do wonders for your hair and nails on the big day! HTH & GL!
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    I say GO FOR IT! It usually takes a while to conceive. :)No it does not. Most couples conceive within 3 months. It's fun, and it will only happen when its meant to anyway. Oh goody, this idiotic line. People with IF get to struggle for years or are unable to conceive is because they weren't meant to right? DH & I did try before, and it didn't happen. We started again 5 months after the wedding and it took 4 months to conceive. Oh, is that 4 months what you consider taking a while?  ::eyeroll:: Also, I say go ahead and start prenatals. Get in the routine, and it will do wonders for your hair and nails on the big day!  What a pile of bullshit. You realize that those don't do that for about half of women, right? Oh. HTH & GL!

     

    OP- do, don't. I personally wouldn't for many of the reasons you were given.

     


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  • Waiting one more month won't make a huge difference. Morning sickness is a b!tch, that I pray to never meet again, and its not like you would be announcing at your wedding. Enjoy you wedding day and honeymoon and start trying afterward. GL!
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  • I would wait if I was you. I had horrible morning sickness and I felt like a water logged blimp the first few months. I can completely understand the excitement of getting pregnant, but if I was you I'd focus completely on the excitement of your new marriage and the honeymoon! You can even start TTC on the first night of your honeymoon if you want! That would kind of be an exciting way to celebrate the marriage. At least I think :P 
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  • You also pee constantly!....and sometimes accidentally. Wait! Enjoy your wedding and honeymoon. There's plenty of time to make babies.
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  • I would probably wait! Its your BIG day and I think you would probably want to have as much fun as possible? But ya never know, many people get pregnant on their honeymoon?! But GL when you do decide
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  • I started TTC a month or so before my wedding, I wish I didn't. Getting my period on my honeymoon sucked enough, it was an extra bummer to have that as my first fail TTC period too.
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  • In my first trimester, I...

    -Was an emotional/hormonal wreck. I cried every.single.day. For different reasons. There was no telling what was going to set me off. Then I'd get really angry at stupid things and throw little tantrums. (And I'm normally not a drama queen).

    -Was freaking tired. All the time. Like, 14 hours of sleep a day/night tired, including naps, of course. When I wasn't crying, I was sleeping. (Only a slight exaggeration). 

    -Got super, duper, ridiculously bloated. More then than I am now at 32 weeks. I've gained pregnancy weight, but bloating is different. And it made me feel grossss.

    -Had morning sickness. Afternoon sickness. Evening sickness. It can hit you at any time for any reason, and last as long as it wants (days, weeks, months- it doesn't care). 

    -Experienced significant hair/skin changes. My hair was full and wavy and then fell flat almost as soon as I got KU. I did NOT have that beautiful "pregnancy glow" (that fairy still hasn't visited me *sigh*), but instead had extra, extra pasty white skin and pimples. Like, worst-PMS-pimples-ever pimples.

    -Had food cravings and aversions. It would suck to have some of your favorite foods at your wedding reception, or available at your honeymoon, but not be able to enjoy them because they suddenly smell and taste icky :

    And like PPs said, ya can't drink. That part doesn't matter if you're not a drinker, but if you are, even to some degree, you probably want at least ONE night on the HM where you can get tipsy and act a little silly with your new hubby.

    Also, hormones mess with your sex drive. You never know if you're going to want it or not after conceiving. It varies from woman to woman, and it seems that their pre-pregnancy libido has little to do with how the hormones affect them at different times throughout their pregnancy. It would suck to be on your honey moon and make your new hubby just sit on the bed watching ESPN while you cried and popped pimples. 

    This may sound extreme, but I'm just trying to say... I'd wait, if I were you ;)   

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  • You ladies are awesome! Thanks for your honesty! I think we will wait and ttc on the honeymoon for sure. I will start the prenatals now. Thanks again :

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  • Definitely wait. All I can imagine is a woman all ready in her beautiful white dress when the first bout of morning sickness really hits and you can't find a washroom in time. If you do end up getting ms with your future pg, it can hit at the most random times and smells. Not worth it IMO.

    I got pg right after my wedding and actually found out right as we left for our honeymoon. Our honeymoon was very busy (hiking/swimming/biking) and I was exhausted. I definitely didn't get to enjoy like I wanted to. I don't regret getting pg, but in hindsight I might have pushed it off the one month.

    Sorry I don't usually post on this board, but thought I would throw my two cents in. Good luck OP!

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  • I would wait. You could have severe morning sickness and feel awful for your wedding. Of course people do ttc before getting married and everything works out fine. I just personally would wait.
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  • I also recommend just waiting until after the wedding. Unbeknownst to me, I was pregnant on my wedding day. I found out 5 days later on my honeymoon when, after all the wedding craziness and excitement, I realized how late my period was. While we were thrilled and in retrospect wouldn't change a thing, it did put a damper on our honeymoon. I was EXHAUSTED and nauseus the entire time. By 2pm everyday I had to go back to our hotel to nap for 2 or 3 hours and then I was ready for bed by 9pm every night. My DH was a good sport, but I'm sure it wasn't exactly what he had in mind when he planned our romantic Italian honeymoon.
  • My husband and I started TTC years before we got married, not that it did any good.
  • Enjoy that honeymoon!  You only get one...hopefully.  = )  You will have lots of time for baby making after.  Soak in all your wedding bliss now...then later you can soak in baby bliss.  No reason to rush all these exciting life events.
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  • we ditched the condoms 3 days before the wedding.    LOL.   

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  • In addition to starting pre-natals, I'd go ahead and start charting if that's something you're thinking of doing (read the newbie link on TTGP). At this point, unless you already are, you don't know when you're going to ovulate anyway, so a honeymoon baby could be out of the question (was for me, CD1 fell on my wedding day). We stopped TTA during my last FW before the wedding (about two weeks before) so I probably wouldn't have tested until the week after the wedding anyway had I not gotten my period. We also weren't planning any sort of honeymoon, so I didn't have to worry about travel. We've been TTC in earnest since then, and I'm kind of glad that my cycle before the wedding was kind of a lark, because my period after we started trying in earnest was really rough to take (yes, I realize that it can take a healthy couple up to a year, you only have a 20% chance every time even if everything's perfect, but I was naively hopeful) and I'm glad it wasn't my wedding day.



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  • Considering how close you are to the day, I wouldn't think it to be a good idea :{

    My fiance and I are currently about to begin TTC in a few months, but that's only because the date of our wedding is up for debate, and also quite a ways off... so it wouldn't really interfere with the day itself, you know? And I mean, it wouldn't be good to be suffering from morning sickness during your festivities!

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