Hello! My fiance and I are getting married this April. We have been engaged for a year already and have wanted to ttc but were worried about me being very pregnant and uncomfy at the wedding and on the honeymoon. Now we are 3.5 months away. I want to lose the 12 pounds I have gained over the holidays before ttc so I fit into my dress again : we are thinking of ttc in march so I would be 1 month pregnant for the wedding. Maybe we will wait until after the wedding, but we are just excited to try! I am 32 so it might take awhile to get pregnant, im not sure. Anyone else ttc before your wedding?
Re: Hi! Ttc before wedding?
If I were you, I would wait. If you became pregnant, you don't know how you would feel during that first month and if you are going overseas, you don't want to take the risk of being in a different country, trying something new, getting sick and being pregnant on top of that. You could ttc on the honeymoon, that would make things extra special. Good Luck and congratulations on the wedding!
All of this, but also because it would just be a heck of a lot simpler to just wait.
In my first trimester, I...
-Was an emotional/hormonal wreck. I cried every.single.day. For different reasons. There was no telling what was going to set me off. Then I'd get really angry at stupid things and throw little tantrums. (And I'm normally not a drama queen).
-Was freaking tired. All the time. Like, 14 hours of sleep a day/night tired, including naps, of course. When I wasn't crying, I was sleeping. (Only a slight exaggeration).
-Got super, duper, ridiculously bloated. More then than I am now at 32 weeks. I've gained pregnancy weight, but bloating is different. And it made me feel grossss.
-Had morning sickness. Afternoon sickness. Evening sickness. It can hit you at any time for any reason, and last as long as it wants (days, weeks, months- it doesn't care).
-Experienced significant hair/skin changes. My hair was full and wavy and then fell flat almost as soon as I got KU. I did NOT have that beautiful "pregnancy glow" (that fairy still hasn't visited me *sigh*), but instead had extra, extra pasty white skin and pimples. Like, worst-PMS-pimples-ever pimples.
-Had food cravings and aversions. It would suck to have some of your favorite foods at your wedding reception, or available at your honeymoon, but not be able to enjoy them because they suddenly smell and taste icky :
And like PPs said, ya can't drink. That part doesn't matter if you're not a drinker, but if you are, even to some degree, you probably want at least ONE night on the HM where you can get tipsy and act a little silly with your new hubby.
Also, hormones mess with your sex drive. You never know if you're going to want it or not after conceiving. It varies from woman to woman, and it seems that their pre-pregnancy libido has little to do with how the hormones affect them at different times throughout their pregnancy. It would suck to be on your honey moon and make your new hubby just sit on the bed watching ESPN while you cried and popped pimples.
This may sound extreme, but I'm just trying to say... I'd wait, if I were you
Definitely wait. All I can imagine is a woman all ready in her beautiful white dress when the first bout of morning sickness really hits and you can't find a washroom in time. If you do end up getting ms with your future pg, it can hit at the most random times and smells. Not worth it IMO.
I got pg right after my wedding and actually found out right as we left for our honeymoon. Our honeymoon was very busy (hiking/swimming/biking) and I was exhausted. I definitely didn't get to enjoy like I wanted to. I don't regret getting pg, but in hindsight I might have pushed it off the one month.
Sorry I don't usually post on this board, but thought I would throw my two cents in. Good luck OP!
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we ditched the condoms 3 days before the wedding. LOL.
(then it took us 20 months and lots of intervention to finally get KU)
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U/S #3, 1/9: BPM in the 180s, IT'S HAPPENING!!!
Considering how close you are to the day, I wouldn't think it to be a good idea :{
My fiance and I are currently about to begin TTC in a few months, but that's only because the date of our wedding is up for debate, and also quite a ways off... so it wouldn't really interfere with the day itself, you know? And I mean, it wouldn't be good to be suffering from morning sickness during your festivities!