Love my mom

nidawi6

Just got off the phone with my mom, told her the news. I lost it after I got off the phone. But she was so much more understanding than MIL, who, if you read my post below had practically accused me of doing something to cause it. My mom rocks. She told me for the first time that my aunt had trouble conceiving, for different reasons and had almost adopted before they were able to fix the issue she had. Now she has three children and 7 grandchildren. I'm not ready to give up on having my own child, but I have considered adoption before and didn't mind talking to her about it. It made me feel like I'm not going to fail her if it turns out to be impossible for me to stay pregnant. She said all the right things. I know she's upset, but she always surprises me with how strong she can be when she needs to be.

precious72381

I'm so glad she provided the support you needed! So important right now. Think we are all finding the people you can talk to and people you can't. I do not have any relationship with my own mother, we don't have enough space to go into that but it wasn't my choice, but have a wonderful relationship with my mil, who had 3 miscarriages before adopting my husband and sil. She learned she had a split uterus,think that it what it is called, this being almost 40 years ago, nothing they could do then. So she really understands how I'm feeling. My aunt, who was like a mother figure for me growing up, not so much, as I have already shared that in previous posts! Hope you continue to get the support you need through this healing process!

nidawi6

That's wonderful that you have somebody who understands. I don't need somebody to reason through it, or tell me it happened for a reason. My mom just kept saying how sorry she was and to keep my chin up. That's what I needed. I don't know how I could have gotten through today without that phone call. I felt awful this morning when I woke up. I feel like I may be able to function now. Yay for people who know what to say!

PeachyBella

Yay for great moms! I was so glad that I shared the good and bad news with mine, too. Her perspective has really helped me cope. We are blessed to have strong, thoughtful women to help us through this.

babysilver

We shared our good news with family and that same night I miscarried. My mom too was so amazing. She came over the next day cause my husband still had to go to work. She did all my dishes, cleaned my apartment, cried with me and snuggled with me as we watched a movie she brought. What would we do without our moms?