intro and dilemma

justlld

Hi,

  I posted on the IF board and PAIF board while pregnant with my twins.  They're just starting to take nice long naps (at the same time), so I'm finally getting some time back to myself.  It's so great to see every one's babies!

  I've been lurking and seeing all the posts about ttc again, and it got me thinking.  DH and I are relatively young and our dx was unexplained.  I really don't want three under two, and the twins are still a ton of work, but I can't shake this anxiety about a "next baby".  DH and I always wanted three or four, but ideally we'd have another baby when the twins are around three.  I guess I'm torn because I really really don't want another baby right now, but I'm afraid that our best chance to get pregnant on our own is sooner rather than later.  Also, it seems stupid to waste money on condoms, but not preventing always makes me sad when my period comes.  Then some times with the boys are so hard I feel like I couldn't handle another baby.  Also, I really miss being pregnant and I'd love to have a more "normal" delivery experience, but then I know the best chance for a VBAC is if I wait longer.  I guess it's a bit "d*mned if you do, d*mned if you don't" situation.  We certainly can't afford another cycle of IVF right now, so that's at least off the table.   

imoverit

Congrats and welcome. I struggled with the same thing. We started trying on our own when DS was one. Then after three months went to an RE. This is my 3rd cycle with meds and I still struggle if Im ready for another one or if I should have started earlier. Either way its scary and quite the dilema.

TJ1979

Congrats and welcome! TTC again is such a hard decision. GL making it.

angela2004

Congrats welcome! TTC is a personal choice. DH and I waited then it took 4 years to get pregnant. My DD is only 13 days old and I am already worried about having another. My OB insists that we wait at least 6 months. Ugh! GL!

RoseHQ12

Welcome & congrat's on your LO's like pp's said it is a personal choice, you can see what I did from my siggy.  I feel like time is not on my side so I try not to waste it.  Given what has transpired over the last 6 month's I am glad I didn't wait any longer.  GL with your decision. 

Dragonfly1226

Congratulations and welcome! IMO, if you don't really want another baby right now then you don't need to worry about trying right now. Enjoy your twins!

sarabrn

Congrats on your twins! IF is so painful and trying. GL when you decide to try again

justlld

Thanks for the welcome!  Dragonfly, you have a really good point.  DH definitely wants to wait to try again, so it's off the table for now.  I think part of it, too, is that getting pregnant was pretty much the main focus of my life for almost two years (which I know isn't that long in IF land), but it's weird to let go of that, if that makes sense.