Tacky Police, I need your help

Bride-hilda

A friend of mine is throwing a church shower for me. It's my first, and it's a boy. 

However, my brother just had a baby boy, and has donated to us all of the clothes he's already outgrown, and it's a LOT! We REALLY don't need any clothes from 0-3 months.

Now my friend has already sent out invites, but would it be okie dokie to tell people, "She doesn't need any clothes from 0-3 months." or even, heaven forbid, ME to say, "I don't need any 0-3 months clothes."

I think she's including a link to my registry, and on my registry it says 6 months + on everything, but... IDK. Am I worrying about something stupid? Don't most people include gift receipts anyway? 

jeffsjayme

Don't sweat it.  You get what you get.  If you get too much, pass it on along to someone else who needs it.  There will be another mom in your church that will have a baby and you'll be in the position to bless her.

Plus, the 0-3 month clothing you have might not be the right season.  You just never know. 

Plus: Will your brother just continue to hand-me-down clothes?  So won't you be in this same position with the 6+ month clothing?

Just smile, say thank you, return what you can that you really don't need and bless others with your extras. 

LatteLady5

jeffsjayme:

Don't sweat it.  You get what you get.  If you get too much, pass it on along to someone else who needs it.  There will be another mom in your church that will have a baby and you'll be in the position to bless her.

Plus, the 0-3 month clothing you have might not be the right season.  You just never know. 

Plus: Will your brother just continue to hand-me-down clothes?  So won't you be in this same position with the 6+ month clothing?

Just smile, say thank you, return what you can that you really don't need and bless others with your extras. 

This.

ChevyFam717

LatteLady5:

jeffsjayme:

Don't sweat it.  You get what you get.  If you get too much, pass it on along to someone else who needs it.  There will be another mom in your church that will have a baby and you'll be in the position to bless her.

Plus, the 0-3 month clothing you have might not be the right season.  You just never know. 

Plus: Will your brother just continue to hand-me-down clothes?  So won't you be in this same position with the 6+ month clothing?

Just smile, say thank you, return what you can that you really don't need and bless others with your extras. 

This.

Yup... but I also wouldn't be shy about telling people that u already have tons of clothing from your nephew.. not that you don't need something... just that you already have it... maybe people wail connect the dots!

wittyschaffy

You've done all you really need to do.  You've registered for larger sizes and if people ask you about why you haven't registered for newborn clothes, then you can tell them about your brother's generous gift.  If you get them at your shower, you certainly can return them for something you do want instead.  Don't get me wrong, hand-me-downs are great and help you save gobs of money, but you may decide that you want a few new outfits for your LO when the time comes so don't dismiss it totally out of the gate. 

rhubarb123

wittyschaffy:

You've done all you really need to do.  You've registered for larger sizes and if people ask you about why you haven't registered for newborn clothes, then you can tell them about your brother's generous gift.  If you get them at your shower, you certainly can return them for something you do want instead.  Don't get me wrong, hand-me-downs are great and help you save gobs of money, but you may decide that you want a few new outfits for your LO when the time comes so don't dismiss it totally out of the gate. 

I agree with this.  Even though I had a 2nd boy and used almost all of his older brother's clothes it was nice to put a "brand new" baby in "brand new" clothes.  KWIM?

EmarieDuke

I received a lot of newborn outfits when I knew my LO would likely only fit in them for a week maybe two, so I just exchanged them for the same outfit in a bigger size. Most stores were willing to do this even without a gift receipt since I wanted the same thing just in a different size. It also helped when things were given that wouldn't fit in the right season.

I agree with PP about wanting a few new outfits too, especially for going out and showing LO off.

GoMaltby18

In my experience, most people don't buy a lot of clothes for baby boys like they do for baby girls.  Also, if I buy clothes as a baby gift I always try to buy 6-9 month or even 9-12 just because I figure they will have a ton of newborn stuff already.

If you do get a bunch extra, either use gift receipts (I always give them, and I get them about half the time) to exchange, or keep them and weed through what you already have to see what you can donate. 

watermellens

GoMaltby18:

In my experience, most people don't buy a lot of clothes for baby boys like they do for baby girls.  Also, if I buy clothes as a baby gift I always try to buy 6-9 month or even 9-12 just because I figure they will have a ton of newborn stuff already.

If you do get a bunch extra, either use gift receipts (I always give them, and I get them about half the time) to exchange, or keep them and weed through what you already have to see what you can donate. 

I got lots of baby boy clothes at my shower, but I don't have a girl so it's tough to compare. I think it just depends on  your circle of friends/family.

OP - just return what you can or pass along the clothes. I think it's tacky to say something. If someone asks your host though, then by all means.

sthomas1222

If anyone directly asks what you need or don't need I'd mention that. Otherwise pray it has tags on it so you can take it back for store credit or exchange for a bigger size. Target is the best with returns btw, no questions asked just loaded everything to a gift card

PunkyBooster

You get what you get. Smile and say thank you. 

You can always re-gift, return, and hell, your baby may never even wear 0-3 mo stuff. DS was in NB sized stuff for FOREVER then wore 0-3 mo stuff for maybe 3 days before he hit another growth spurt and I put him right into 3-6. GL!!

 

 

elizdg

jeffsjayme:

Don't sweat it.  You get what you get.  If you get too much, pass it on along to someone else who needs it.  There will be another mom in your church that will have a baby and you'll be in the position to bless her.

Plus, the 0-3 month clothing you have might not be the right season.  You just never know. 

Plus: Will your brother just continue to hand-me-down clothes?  So won't you be in this same position with the 6+ month clothing?

Just smile, say thank you, return what you can that you really don't need and bless others with your extras. 

this, especially the bolded. My baby ended up being a preemie, so none of the clothes I got at my shower were the right season. You really just never know, I ended up just going out and buying the correct size/season and donating or exchanging the gifts. It's really no big deal. 

gamergirl522

EmarieDuke:

I received a lot of newborn outfits when I knew my LO would likely only fit in them for a week maybe two, so I just exchanged them for the same outfit in a bigger size. Most stores were willing to do this even without a gift receipt since I wanted the same thing just in a different size. It also helped when things were given that wouldn't fit in the right season.

I agree with PP about wanting a few new outfits too, especially for going out and showing LO off.

This. Esp the bolded. No need to tell people you have enough newborn clothes.

MelissaRae1525

watermellens:

GoMaltby18:

In my experience, most people don't buy a lot of clothes for baby boys like they do for baby girls.  Also, if I buy clothes as a baby gift I always try to buy 6-9 month or even 9-12 just because I figure they will have a ton of newborn stuff already.

If you do get a bunch extra, either use gift receipts (I always give them, and I get them about half the time) to exchange, or keep them and weed through what you already have to see what you can donate. 

I got lots of baby boy clothes at my shower, but I don't have a girl so it's tough to compare. I think it just depends on  your circle of friends/family.

OP - just return what you can or pass along the clothes. I think it's tacky to say something. If someone asks your host though, then by all means.

Almost everything I got at my son's shower was clothes. A few blankets and a bouncer and a diaper bag were the only things I got besides clothes, and like you OP I have pretty much his whole first year stocked in very nice hand me downs. Nothing you can do but accept the generosity of others.

1026pumpkin

I wouldn't inform guests that you don't need clothes, just don't register for any and if anyone asks you/the host directly, you can mention that your brother is giving you hand me down clothes, so you're stocked.

As PPs have mentioned, if you do get clothes, you can always exchange for something seasonally appropriate or something special for pictures, etc.

I don't think there's any way to tell people what you would like/not like (unsolicited) as a gift without sounding tacky.