So I have this cousin, who was like a brother to me. He met this fantastic girl and they got engaged. Due to a big f-up on various parts, he ended up scheduling his wedding on my wedding day. I haven't spoken to his wife since, but my cousin and I recently made up over facebook (very mature right?)
Anyway, I have been her facebook friend for awhile and i'm noticing a pattern in her status updates. I can read several of them with an IF tint. For example, today she posted "There is only one thing on my Christmas list this year"
I realize that I am overly sensitive to this type of thing but I can't help but wonder if she is going through this. If she is, even if we aren't close, I couldn't bear for her to go through it alone if I knew that I could maybe help her. Her sister in law just announced a pregnancy last week and if she is going through this shiit it probably really sucks for her.
I'm thinking about reaching out to her or my cousin. Kind of just saying - hey - I'm infertile...so if you want to talk about being infertile....let me know!
Is this crazy?
Re: Ok - this is crazy right?
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IVF #3 - May 2014 - Mini IVF - Retrieved 2 eggs, 2 fertilized, 2 Frosties - 6 and 8 in good condition.
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FET#2 - November 2014 - Transferred 2 embryos - BFN
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I agree with this. Do you think you could talk to your cousin before reaching out to his wife? Perhaps he would tell you if they really are having problems and if she would even be receptive. Good luck!
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Multiple clomid rounds from 11/2010 to 6/2011. ~ All BFN
IUI w/clomid 7/2011. IUI w/clomid & injectables 11/2011 & 1/2012. ~ All BFN
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This! I know some people who might post things like that not because they're having trouble, but because they just stopped contraception and are hoping they'll be pregnant by that time...before you go spilling your beans, especially to someone that you have had some drama with, I'd find out if there's anything to commiserate about! Don't set yourself up to get hurt again since you don't know if she may be just being coy about news she already knows....good luck!
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IVF #1 never made it to transfer
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Follistim/Menopur/Ganirelix
Cancelled mid-cycle due to high P4 levels early on.
OCPs again for IVF 2.5 mid-March. IVF 2.5 transferred two "gorgeous" 5-day blasts and BFFN. Even REI is baffled
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