Pity Party for me....

angeleyez1

We just recently moved to another state almost 3 months ago and I'm getting homesick in a bad way.  We had to move out of NJ because things are just way to expensive and we wanted to provide more for our DD.  My mom moved in with us in NC to help us out.  I just feel like I want to cry when I think about how my DD will not grow up with her cousins or other grandparents.  I feel like I have no one here.  I don't know what to do.  We'll go up often to visit but I guess I don't feel like I'm home yet.  We met some neighbors and I'm trying to get out there but I work from home remotely and it's not as easy to get out there.  She's still too little to really know but I just feel so guilty.  To the point where I feel like crying sometimes.  Please tell me I made the right move.  I just miss everyone and I don't want my daughter to miss out on anything because we're far away...But in NJ, all our money was going to bills and we were never able to put anything away.  Housing and everything is much cheaper down here and that certainly helps. 

 I'm sorry for blabbing but any words of encouragement will be great.  Hey and if anyone is on here from NC, please let me know where there are places I can take my DD to and where we can meet new people.  I sound pathetic....I'm sorry...just thought this would be so much easier....

marrymemylove

It will get better. Just don't expect to wake up one day with it gone, it isn't like that. It's like it becomes less often that you feel the ache.

We moved to NY from Australia and I really took a year to warm to NY. Unfortunately at the end of that year I only had a few months to enjoy it before we had DS and then I was back in another world again. But in the end we got comfortable there and after 4 years there we moved back home to Oz. I have to say I still miss the place even though I am in my home country now with friends and family suddenly close.

How easy could you get? Moving home to a country where you can work without needing a visa, where you have family and friends who have known you for decades, where you speak the same language as the neighbours (and I never really did speak American lol).

But I still miss NYC. Moving a long way is never easy unless you're too un-self-aware to realise.?