"My 8-year-old SD is a b*tch"

IrishCoffee7

Also, nice little SAHM/WM debate on the side.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/70609710.aspx

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100X more interesting thread than the one on this board.

ATMmom324

Ugh.  The anti step children threads and posters make me stabby like nothing else.  I want to shake people and yell "Don't effin marry someone unless you can accept their children as your own"

grr_aargh

I can't imagine why a child being raised by her grandparents while her Daddy makes a new family with a new woman would have issues that made her talk back to her stepmother. 

Nope.  Can't see any circumstances where that might happen.

 

As a girl who got a stepmother around that age, that post makes me so totally and completely sad.  I'm thankful my stepparents were wise enough to understand the fragile nature of watching a new family rise up from the ashes and wondering where your place is in it all. . . 

MandaPanda518

Wow. Seems like a typical 8 year old girl to me. She better learn some patience real quick. Is she going to call her baby a biitch too for crying in the middle of the night?

shadypines

Takes one to know one....

Sad...

CoffeeBeen

That entire thread makes me want to roll my eyes. 

RayRay007

Wow. Sounds like she's acting like a typical 8 y.o. I recognize that SN...

lildevil968

Dear Lord, my blood is boiling right now.

MrsWindyCity

ashleysyn2:

July 3013 seems really fun.

certainly blows my lame BMB out of the water. 

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Why is the 8 year old step daughter living with the grandparents?

Under what circumstances does that make any sense.

lildevil968

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Why is the 8 year old step daughter living with the grandparents?

Under what circumstances does that make any sense.

I'm half tempted to tell her that if she doesn't approve of the job that the GRANDPARENTS are doing raising her DH's child, maybe they should get custody, and raise her themselves. Maybe then she would see just how hard it is to raise a pre-teen.

Libby1978

What a terrible thing to say!

My thoughts are, if you can't handle being a loving step-parent then don't marry someone that already has kids.  End of story.

I know I could not be a good step-parent.  So I'll never marry someone with kids that aren' t mine.

I'll actually never marry again if this one doesn't work out, but that's a whole other story.

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Inkogneetoh:

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Why is the 8 year old step daughter living with the grandparents?

Under what circumstances does that make any sense.

Maybe it's her mothers parents and H doesn't have full custody?  

I've seen posts on here saying "My toddler is an a**hole" in a joking manner.  I'm assuming this woman may have been trying to be funny and failed??

I like to give people the benefit of the doubt though. 

Even if the mother is dead I don't see how the grandparents end up with even partial custody unless the dad has some serious issues (or there are other issues inside the household).

Marc's Mrs.

Evil stepmother personified.

MrsWindyCity

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Why is the 8 year old step daughter living with the grandparents?

Under what circumstances does that make any sense.

Maybe the girl's mom lives with her parents.  Or maybe not. I lived with my grandparents until I was 10. My "circumstances" were that my parents were divorced, my mom worked a TON and got an apartment outside of my school district. My grandparents lived in the school district. 

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MrsWindyCity:

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Why is the 8 year old step daughter living with the grandparents?

Under what circumstances does that make any sense.

Maybe the girl's mom lives with her parents.  Or maybe not. I lived with my grandparents until I was 10. My "circumstances" were that my parents were divorced, my mom worked a TON and got an apartment outside of my school district. My grandparents lived in the school district. 

Here's a C&P update from the poster in question:

Yes they were 16. H is 25. X-wife cheated on him, hancuffed him to stair rail banisters, shot him in the temple with paint ball guns. The list goes on. He moved to vegas ( hence the grandparents having cutody which has now turned into adoption) They weren't together for A LONG time before we started dating. Her mom tells her she is going to need a nose job in a few years because she will look like her dad repeatedly. She has a drug problem currently, bi-polar and other "medical" issuse. SD acts 10x worse when she comes back from seeing her mom everytime. 1 step -forward 20 steps back every time. I'm tired of starting over.

It actually doesn't explain why the grandparents adopted the child.

CoffeeBeen

That makes it even worse!! That poor little girl needs a loving, positive influence in her life. I'm sure she brings a lot of baggage, but think of what shes grown up with. And shes only 8 :

insertclevername

GhostMonkey:

RayRay007:

Wow. Sounds like she's acting like a typical 8 y.o. I recognize that SN...

As do I, and not in the "oh hey, that's where she's been posting" but in the "oh Christ, her" kind of way.

 

Yes.  Her true colors were revealed on TTGP before she ended up on her BMB.  I really hope that 8 year old girl has some positive role model in her life and at least one relative or friend that loves her unconditionally.

MesmrEwe

AshPal61:

I can't get past someone not liking Christmas Vacation.

Ditto!  Especially with a Scrooged Siggy!! LOL

MrsWindyCity

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MrsWindyCity:

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Why is the 8 year old step daughter living with the grandparents?

Under what circumstances does that make any sense.

Maybe the girl's mom lives with her parents.  Or maybe not. I lived with my grandparents until I was 10. My "circumstances" were that my parents were divorced, my mom worked a TON and got an apartment outside of my school district. My grandparents lived in the school district. 

Here's a C&P update from the poster in question:

Yes they were 16. H is 25. X-wife cheated on him, hancuffed him to stair rail banisters, shot him in the temple with paint ball guns. The list goes on. He moved to vegas ( hence the grandparents having cutody which has now turned into adoption) They weren't together for A LONG time before we started dating. Her mom tells her she is going to need a nose job in a few years because she will look like her dad repeatedly. She has a drug problem currently, bi-polar and other "medical" issuse. SD acts 10x worse when she comes back from seeing her mom everytime. 1 step -forward 20 steps back every time. I'm tired of starting over.

It actually doesn't explain why the grandparents adopted the child.

I need to catch up with the thread. That was posted the first time I read, so I'm sure there's more. Do we know which set of grandparents? Off to catch up... 

Fianschneid

ATMmom324:

Ugh.  The anti step children threads and posters make me stabby like nothing else.  I want to shake people and yell "Don't effin marry someone unless you can accept their children as your own"

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Those kids were there before you. If you resent them for that, you're a true a$shat.

(Speaking as the child of an excellent stepfather and a cr@ptastic stepmother.)

ali_bl-nov05

Poor kid 

missyishere

I couldn't get all the way through it, but what a huge shame on her. I have a 10 yr old SD. I know it's tough being a step parent. Your arms are tied sometimes, and you're at the mercy of others' choices. However, there is a nice, comfy place where you can be supportive and not step on the other mother's toes. Sure, I'm definitely not perfect as a step parent, but I would never think to be that mean toward my SD. And I still don't understand why gparents are raising her...