That stung a little..

tlalli7106

I swear I've said I'm going to stop Facebooking at least ten times this month for various baby related posts by family and friends. This morning I log on and see that my second friend this week is pregnant with baby #2. I never thought I would be "lapped" for lack of better words lol! Does anyone else feel like absolute crap when everyone seems to be on baby #2, #3 when we are still trying for #1. Thanks for letting me vent ladies

megs3084

I know the feeling. Ive got a few friends that just had 2, my bff is trying for 2 a coworker just announced shes expecting 3.

sundowner85

Yes. I'm being lapped by dozens of people I knew from high school because I went to a Christian school where it seems like half the people got married to their high school sweethearts before they were even done with college. Some are on baby 3 or 4. And people who got married around the same time as me seem to have an average of 1, some with 2 though.

Only the people who are within a year or two of my age seem to bother me when they announce these days. Well, I take it back. People who are a few years younger than me gets my blood hot with rage at the world. I've been like you and taken AND broken several Facebook abstinence vows.

But the announcements don't bother me as much as the people who have young kids and complain all the time. Lately there haven't been so many announcements, but a million Mommy Martyrs. Two of my coworkers are my age and have 2 kids each. They both complain constantly about their kids on Facebook. The first thing in my news feed I just saw was a complaint about lack of sleep. Well, I'm over here getting a lack of sleep because I keep having nightmares about never having kids. Blergh. Eff 'em.

jfb29

HUGS!!!!  It completely sucks....

sueann911

That sucks. Most of my friends just had number 2. I have three that had them all within three months of each other. The pregnancy announcements bothered me the most. By the time the baby is born I can deal with it better.

sunflowers4AC

Big hugs!!! Being lapped is the worst,

Cara1024

sueann911:

That sucks. Most of my friends just had number 2. I have three that had them all within three months of each other. The pregnancy announcements bothered me the most. By the time the baby is born I can deal with it better.

This! I can handle seeing birth announcements and baby photos, but the pregnancy announcements kill me every time. And I've been lapped by several friends. Most on their 2nd, but one just announced their 3rd. Last week one announced their 4th and I just had to laugh out loud about that one. What the heck.....how are they one their fourth! (they started in high school)

nlscroggins

i'm currently being lapped by lots of people. it sucks! but we tend to just notice it so much more when ttc. i'm sorry at least you know you're not alone and it's pretty much a normal reaction! hang in there.  

katib77

A girl at work complained that her baby was turning one years old next week.  This is the second child she's had in the three years I've worked there (and we'd been TTC for a few months before I started working there) so yeah, I'd been not only lapped twice by this woman but that kid is now turning one.  (She knows of our struggles but is not the greatest in being sensitive) so I joked with her "Are you going to try for a third?" Thankfully she said no, but I told her I'd just need to mentally prepare myself for the idea of getting lapped a third time if they were going to try for more.

honeygirl500

Getting lapped does hurt more.    It always takes me a bit to get over the "lap" ones.  The sting is so much worse.  Vent away, that is what we are here for. 

MJ14323

I'm sorry. It's awful and makes things just that much harder.  I've blocked so many from my FB feed it's crazy. Hope it gets better for you!

conradtn

I'm sorry! I've been lapped too. One friend already has 3.

I am about to just stay away from FB for a while.  All the pregnancy announcements, all the Christmas postings with Santa, the u/s profile pics....

(((hugs)))

sundowner85

MJ14323:

I'm sorry. It's awful and makes things just that much harder.  I've blocked so many from my FB feed it's crazy. Hope it gets better for you!

Yep. I "hide" people from my news feed like it's my job.

luciddreamer106

I haven't been lapped yet, but one of my friends just had her baby yesterday. We were already trying for almost a year when they started TTC. The universe just sucks sometimes.

nicole336

sundowner85:

But the announcements don't bother me as much as the people who have young kids and complain all the time. Lately there haven't been so many announcements, but a million Mommy Martyrs. Two of my coworkers are my age and have 2 kids each. They both complain constantly about their kids on Facebook. The first thing in my news feed I just saw was a complaint about lack of sleep. Well, I'm over here getting a lack of sleep because I keep having nightmares about never having kids. Blergh. Eff 'em.

 THIS! I love the term "Mommy Martyrs." What a brilliant way to describe it. This has always bothered me more than happy pregnancy/birth posts. I can handle other people being happy- I can't STAND a person with a beautiful, healthy child bemoaning their existence.

sundowner85

nicole33647:

 THIS! I love the term "Mommy Martyrs." What a brilliant way to describe it. This has always bothered me more than happy pregnancy/birth posts. I can handle other people being happy- I can't STAND a person with a beautiful, healthy child bemoaning their existence.

I can't remember where I first heard the term "Mommy Martyr" so I don't know exactly where credit is due on that one. But I'm also going to "ditto" everything you just said because that is exactly the kind of stuff that makes my blood boil with hot rage. I find myself not feeling sad anymore so much as just pissed off. Maybe I'm entering the bitter phase. 

marianitamr

I know how you feel. We started to try before my brother did, and now he has 2 And..I hate Mommy Martyrs too! Oh man, do I know some of those...