Parenting Question

iheartsippycups

My son, currently 2 1/2, does not listen AT ALL. Not to me, DH, nor my Mom who watches him during the week. I know the toddler years are rough, but is that what's to blame? Or am I doing something wrong? Please help me.

tarebear9891

This is going to sound ridiculous but when it's time to listen I make them do something silly.

I say "listening time...put your hands on your head!"

Once they do it, I get on their eye level and tell them how they are breaking the rules. If they do it again, they go to time out. Rinse, lather, repeat.

ByeBabyBunting

Brandi Bee:

When I have to correct Isla, it doesn't work unless I literally stop her physically, say really firmly "no".  If I just keep saying "No, don't do that" from across the room, she doesn't care.  I have to completely break her concentration for her to get it.

I have to stop him physically sometimes because he still does not listen a lot of the time, but he hates time out, and a if I say "do you want a time out?" he listens about half the time. They do time out at daycare too so he gets the concept.

MissNikki007

mine doesn't listen to anyone either. It's super fun. Weeeeee!

seahorse102410

Oh yes if I stop mine and make him look me in the eye he just hits me in the face.  Then he marches over to time out.  He truly does not care.

MissNikki007

HONEY BADGER DON'T GIVE A SHIIT.

RondackHiker

Paul is told no, then he is told if he does it again it is a time out, then time out and we talk about why he got a time out after.

You do have to draw their attention. I usually try to make eye contact and use my "serious voice", then redirect to something else in a "fun voice". I think that it is important to tell kids what to do, not just what not to do.

Like last night, DS tried to use the sleeping dog as a step stool to the couch. "No, sir! Paul, you just tried to stand on Frazier! Is that nice? Does that hurt him?" I was pretty sharp bc Fraz is the best dog and doesn't deserve to be stood on. "Let's tell Frazier you are sorry you hurt him and that you won't stand on him. Good, that's a nice hug. What's a nice way to play with Frazier? Oh, doing tricks is a good idea! Now, remember, if you are too rough with the dog I will put him up so you can't play an it will be a time out."

There were breaks as he responded, and listened. Usually I wait for the timeout warning till he repeats, but with physical stuff I remind him right away. And intentional blow is an automatic time out.

tarebear9891

seahorse102410:

Oh yes if I stop mine and make him look me in the eye he just hits me in the face.  Then he marches over to time out.  He truly does not care.

 With both of mine together, I have been slapped in the face more times than I want to admit. A few times this happened in public.

 Yesterday, when my DS1 wasn't listening I was carrying him out of the store. He started yelling "help me!" because he didn't want to leave. People most definitely thought I was stealing him.

 Parenting is hard.

hmp1

We use a good behavior chart so he doesn't just get punished for bad behavior but rewarded for good behavior. One of the things is listening. He gets a car sticker when he gets 4 stars on the chart. I also reinforce it every night when putting him to bed by saying "I like it when you use your listening ears. I like it when you help clean up"... and go through all the behaviors we are working on.

iheartsippycups

Glad to see I'm not the only one who gets smacked once at eye level.

Good idea with the rewarding good behavior...