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mccall0113

Everyone tells me to keep documenting all the violations XH makes against the CO.  I would love nothing more for sole custody.  How do I know i have enough documentation to file?  He drops kids off early, refuses to pay child support, doesn't use booster seat, refuses to take them on some saturdays, makes physical threats against my SO....   Also not really sure what the kids' law guardian is supposed to do, so far its nothing.  Over whelmed and very frustrated this week. 

Holly_1007

typically its not just the quantity that a judge will look at, its behavior over time.  so if you have all this evidence over 12+months, definitely file a modification, if its just a few months I would give it some more time. 

if he is threatening your SO he should file a restraining order, that will only further help your case.  

have you contacted the law guardian with these issues?

lookame3639

You should file for a RO for your SO. Even if your SO feels he can take him it's not worth a physical fight.

How long have your issues been going on? Has he skipped several visits in a row? In my CO we have my pickups at a police station so if ex doesn't show I run in file a quickie report and go on my way, sometimes he provides me the evidance easily in text message. Anything hard core like that really helps(text messages from your ex and police reports)

Our law guardian also hasn't done much. At our first meeting he promised to do so much and investigate everything as time went on I found a simple schedualed home visit is sufficiant for him(even with SEVERAL issues which require further investigation, some of them coming from my exs girlfriends mouth). I would still contact the law guardian and see if they will do something more...

Ginlyn0

Honestly, I had a huge notebook of documentation against my Ex including a ton of police reports and recorded death threats against myself, DH and my SKs (it's permissible to record calls in my state) and the only thing it got me was a protection order for myself. We have the standard order in my state and it's hard to get that changed. Other states may be different. Getting that protection order snapped my Ex into line though and I haven't had problem with him since it expired in 2006. We get along fine now.

I would definitely recommend that your SO file reports against him and try to get a RO though.

mccall0113

The law guardian sent me a snarky email, implying i need to put my children's need first.  And that she is their attorney, not mine.  I have told her about the above issues with no help.  She hasn't bothered to meet with my son's psychiatry team to gather all the info.  

The threat against my SO happened at work, they work together    my SO is filing a complaint with the necessary people at work.  I would love for his to get RO, but feel like I am game playing at this point. 

I only want the best for my children.  I though their father did as well.  I suppose I am seeing his true character, and i don't care much for it.   

FutureMrsWittig

We had a crappy guardian ad litem.  Our lawyer filed to have a new one appointed and BMs lawyer agreed.