Talking to my sister about adopting her baby

christielovesnathan

I think I'm going to talk to my sister about adopting her baby. She always says things like the baby ruined her life and she leaves her with my parents all the time to go party. I'm sure my parents are happy to see her all the time and they take good care of her but I know my sister doesn't and that precious baby deserves a full time stable home. I know it could go either way but I think I'm going to take that leap to try and give the baby a better home.

hey_its_jenn

GL!  I think that's an incredibly brave and very loving thing to do.  In your words, it could go either way but I hope it goes as best as possible! 

Foster1Mom

Has she brought up the topic before? Seems odd to jump to that if not.

DaisyZH

That is a very difficult situation, does your sister want to place her baby for adoption?  I know it has to be so hard hearing her say things like the baby ruined her life, but unfortunately some people lash out and say things they don't mean.  She might also be happy with her arrangement with her parents. 

I of course don't know the whole situation, and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and your precious niece.  I know you've been through so much lately, and I am so sorry for your pain.  (( Hugs )) 

Gwyneddlesliegrace

If she does want something like this, you will need to get EVERYTHING in writing. You wouldn't want the baby to adjust to your home and in a few years have your sister try and take it back.  Be sure to do everything legally. 

christielovesnathan

DaisyZH:

That is a very difficult situation, does your sister want to place her baby for adoption?  I know it has to be so hard hearing her say things like the baby ruined her life, but unfortunately some people lash out and say things they don't mean.  She might also be happy with her arrangement with her parents. 

I of course don't know the whole situation, and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and your precious niece.  I know you've been through so much lately, and I am so sorry for your pain.  (( Hugs )) 

It's not just one time that she's said the baby ruined her life. She's said it multiple times. I think if I expressed interest she would let us adopt the baby.

Rachel Sonnier

I think you know your sister better than any of us, so please take this with a grain of salt, but I would be very hesitant to go down this road if she hasnt mentioned this as an option for her and her baby already. I think we probably all have people in our lives that we wish were better parents, but there are some huge boundary issues involved here.
However, if you are sure that you want to bring this up, I'd tread SUPER lightly. It's kind of a huge deal, and if you come off as if you are implying that she's an unfit/ungrateful mother, there could be some serious damage done to your relationship, and the way that she views you as an aunt and sister. Good luck and I hope things work out well for the LO either way!