Why is everyone pregnant, including the Royal Family?

argonne

madasm0530:

Her maternity clothes are going to be fantastic. that's all!

This.

 

eyris

BrazilianPeach:

WashingtonQueen:

You know OP, from what I have heard Kate and Will have been trying to get pregnant since the day they got married (tradition). If that is true it took them over a year.

Imagine the pressure!! We are trying to have our kids. She's trying to conceive a Royal Heir! 

This is true.  I do remember seeing on the tabloid covers that she was having a hard time getting pregnant.

I do wish them the best.  No hard feelings, just some jealousy pangs.  

karda2011

eyris:

karda2011:

eyris:

How else to convey sarcasm/joking on a message board, then?  Where's that sarcasm font everyone is always talking about?

Winks work sometimes but when you whole post is about everyone except me is pregnant and I have been trying a whole 3 months wah wah and then you call yourself a bitter hag with a winky....doesn't really work.  No one else's fertility has anything to do with yours.  It's not like William and Kate are taking the last baby to be born for the next 50 years.

I'm not complaining about trying for three months.  I realize that is a short amount of time.

It's more the fact that I had a June 4 due date and had a miscarriage and most of the pregnancy announcements right now are June due dates.  I said this in my OP.

I guess I thought I was "over" the miscarriage but the pregnancy announcements are making the wound fresh again in a way.

I also realize that someone else getting pregnant has no bearing on my ability to get pregnant. 

Sorry my post offended you. 

I don't think I was really offended by your post.  I just wanted you to kind of take a step back.  I truely am sorry that you have suffered a loss and I really hope that your heart heals.  I agree with what PP have said about FB.  I have a few of my friends posts blocked because of their baby updates/BF posts/parenting posts etc.  I hope your day gets better.

kelle017

Svenny1011:

WashingtonQueen:

You know OP, from what I have heard Kate and Will have been trying to get pregnant since the day they got married (tradition). If that is true it took them over a year.

 

Yep, this is what I was thinking too.

OP, because a lot of people keep their TTC journey / issues a secret, you never know if they have had struggles or not. Especially people on FB that you don't keep up with on a daily basis or who aren't very close to you. You cannot just assume that everyone has had it easy and then get jealous. You don't know how long it actually took them, or if they struggled with some form of infertility.

This. I will never assume it was easy for people again.  

orangemell2012

I get where you are coming from! While I am very happy for them I wish it was me too. It is hard when you want something and its not happening, even if it is only a few months.

 

Everyone's TTC journey is different but it would be so much better if it happened on the timing they wanted. That isn't realistic but that would be so much nicer. 

eyris

karda2011:

eyris:

karda2011:

eyris:

How else to convey sarcasm/joking on a message board, then?  Where's that sarcasm font everyone is always talking about?

Winks work sometimes but when you whole post is about everyone except me is pregnant and I have been trying a whole 3 months wah wah and then you call yourself a bitter hag with a winky....doesn't really work.  No one else's fertility has anything to do with yours.  It's not like William and Kate are taking the last baby to be born for the next 50 years.

I'm not complaining about trying for three months.  I realize that is a short amount of time.

It's more the fact that I had a June 4 due date and had a miscarriage and most of the pregnancy announcements right now are June due dates.  I said this in my OP.

I guess I thought I was "over" the miscarriage but the pregnancy announcements are making the wound fresh again in a way.

I also realize that someone else getting pregnant has no bearing on my ability to get pregnant. 

Sorry my post offended you. 

I don't think I was really offended by your post.  I just wanted you to kind of take a step back.  I truely am sorry that you have suffered a loss and I really hope that your heart heals.  I agree with what PP have said about FB.  I have a few of my friends posts blocked because of their baby updates/BF posts/parenting posts etc.  I hope your day gets better.

Thanks.

Sorry, "offended" was probably not the word I was looking for.

The perspective was actually needed and going through this thread and seeing everyone's signatures and the process others have gone though, I feel a little silly about being upset. 

I cried yesterday morning at a nature show where they were releasing rehabilitated seal pups back into the ocean.  I'm going to blame hormones for all of this.  <--- Winky means this statement is light-hearted. 

brookelynpaisley

darjeeling:

That's going to be one good looking, well-dressed kid, too!

That's what they said about Shiloh and meh.

caramia582

OP, for all we know, they could have been trying since they got married!  You never know what happens behind closed doors (pun intended, lol).  Good for them...

Edit: didn't read all the replies and it looks like they have likely been trying for a while... 

caramia582

BrazilianPeach:

WashingtonQueen:

You know OP, from what I have heard Kate and Will have been trying to get pregnant since the day they got married (tradition). If that is true it t took them over a year.

Imagine the pressure!! We are trying to have our kids. She's trying to conceive a Royal Heir! 

No kidding!! I don't know how she does it... 

kat81again2

I already said it in my post but I'm going to dig deeper because some of these replies are bothering me. 

In short, the OP had a freaking miscarriage. Give her a break.

As for the use of the wink, well, it was clear that the post was mainly a "woe is me" but she poked fun at herself for complaining by calling herself out on it. Well done, in my mind! It was not at all difficult for me to tell that the "bitter hag" part was a joke, and the rest was real but also that the OP has perspective (is frustrated, but has perspective). 

As for the "if you are a bitter hag 3 months in, you're in for a long ride" type of comment, I disagree. She is having a rough month because people are announcing BFPs with the same due date as her miscarriage. My guess is she'll feel better next month, not worse, even if she gets more BFNs.

As for the "3 months along with no known fertility issues is nothing, so any whining on your part, sarcastic or not, is not justified" comment, I think that 63 day cycles and a miscarriage count for something. 

Giving perspective is a great thing. But sometimes we need to lighten up. 

karda2011

eyris:

Thanks.

Sorry, "offended" was probably not the word I was looking for.

The perspective was actually needed and going through this thread and seeing everyone's signatures and the process others have gone though, I feel a little silly about being upset. 

I cried yesterday morning at a nature show where they were releasing rehabilitated seal pups back into the ocean.  I'm going to blame hormones for all of this.  <--- Winky means this statement is light-hearted. 

It's ok to be upset.  Everyone has feelings.  And trust me, I know what it is like to just cry.  Clomid made me crazy emotional and I would cry for no reason.

karda2011

kat81again2:

I already said it in my post but I'm going to dig deeper because some of these replies are bothering me. 

In short, the OP had a freaking miscarriage. Give her a break.

As for the use of the wink, well, it was clear that the post was mainly a "woe is me" but she poked fun at herself for complaining by calling herself out on it. Well done, in my mind! It was not at all difficult for me to tell that the "bitter hag" part was a joke, and the rest was real but also that the OP has perspective (is frustrated, but has perspective). 

As for the "if you are a bitter hag 3 months in, you're in for a long ride" type of comment, I disagree. She is having a rough month because people are announcing BFPs with the same due date as her miscarriage. My guess is she'll feel better next month, not worse, even if she gets more BFNs.

As for the "3 months along with no known fertility issues is nothing, so any whining on your part, sarcastic or not, is not justified" comment, I think that 63 day cycles and a miscarriage count for something. 

Giving perspective is a great thing. But sometimes we need to lighten up. 

You can dig deeper all you want but I feel the whole thing is pretty much over and done with...

SittingOnAMtnTop

eajeanthebean:

madasm0530:

Her maternity clothes are going to be fantastic. that's all!

I am kind of excited that she got KU before me, now when it's my turn I have someone to get awesome clothing ideas from.

This! 

ac5008

OP, I'm sorry today isn't a great one for you. Although I wouldn't want to be Kate for anything (holy public scrutiny, no thanks!) I have seen an excessive amount of announcements the last week. I'm genuinely happy for anyone who is getting BFP's, the loss makes it sting a little. Not because of them, but because it reminds me of what I should have right now that I don't. I agree that it probably won't always hurt this way, but our losses being so fresh make it pretty bad. I hope your day gets better and that you get a small reprieve from announcements for just a bit!  

DA682

OP- I don't think you need to apologize or defend your post. You had a miscarriage and I am sorry for your loss. I can't begin to understand how hard that is. I think your feelings right now are natural. Nobody should snark on a poster who mentions a loss and is having a bad day. 

Lue94

kat81again2:

I already said it in my post but I'm going to dig deeper because some of these replies are bothering me. 

In short, the OP had a freaking miscarriage. Give her a break.

As for the use of the wink, well, it was clear that the post was mainly a "woe is me" but she poked fun at herself for complaining by calling herself out on it. Well done, in my mind! It was not at all difficult for me to tell that the "bitter hag" part was a joke, and the rest was real but also that the OP has perspective (is frustrated, but has perspective). 

As for the "if you are a bitter hag 3 months in, you're in for a long ride" type of comment, I disagree. She is having a rough month because people are announcing BFPs with the same due date as her miscarriage. My guess is she'll feel better next month, not worse, even if she gets more BFNs.

As for the "3 months along with no known fertility issues is nothing, so any whining on your part, sarcastic or not, is not justified" comment, I think that 63 day cycles and a miscarriage count for something. 

Giving perspective is a great thing. But sometimes we need to lighten up. 

Nicely put. Some of the replies bothered me also.

OP- Whine away. It's nothing wrong with having a woe is me day and I don't mind when people post about them.

Sorry for your loss and good luck. 

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eyris

I'm glad someone understood the tone of my original post!

Thanks for the support.

I will survive the criticism.  Truthfully, I did not expect all positive responses and that's ok.  It's kind of why I like this place. 

ETA:  Oops!  Meant to quote kat81again2! 

Svenny1011

kat81again2:

As for the "3 months along with no known fertility issues is nothing, so any whining on your part, sarcastic or not, is not justified" comment, I think that 63 day cycles and a miscarriage count for something. 

Giving perspective is a great thing. But sometimes we need to lighten up. 

My point was simply that whining about not being pregnant is not justified. Being frustrated or sad is okay, but whining about other people being pregnant when you are not is definitely not okay in my opinion.

I've had 2 losses and been TTC for 16 cycles now. I have PCOS. I don't whine about it. Do I get annoyed with my body and it's jacked up ways? Yes. Do I get sad when past due dates or other milestones happen? Yes. Do I vent about things that bother me or things that people have said that upset me? Yes. But I don't get jealous and I don't feel sorry for myself. I find that to be counterproductive and doing so does not help you move forward. 

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eyris

DA682:

OP- I don't think you need to apologize or defend your post. You had a miscarriage and I am sorry for your loss. I can't begin to understand how hard that is. I think your feelings right now are natural. Nobody should snark on a poster who mentions a loss and is having a bad day. 

 

Thank you.  

However, I don't feel like me mentioning a loss is a free ticket to no snark/criticism. I wouldn't want it to be.

I'm a big girl and I will not crumble over a couple of negative responses.  I respect everyone's opinion and their right to share it since I did post this in a public internet forum.

 

rmcgibbon

Oooooh I can't wait to see what maternity duds she wears!! Super excited for them

eyris

Svenny1011:

kat81again2:

As for the "3 months along with no known fertility issues is nothing, so any whining on your part, sarcastic or not, is not justified" comment, I think that 63 day cycles and a miscarriage count for something. 

Giving perspective is a great thing. But sometimes we need to lighten up. 

My point was simply that whining about not being pregnant is not justified. Being frustrated or sad is okay, but whining about other people being pregnant when you are not is definitely not okay in my opinion.

I've had 2 losses and been TTC for 16 cycles now. I have PCOS. I don't whine about it. Do I get annoyed with my body and it's jacked up ways? Yes. Do I get sad when past due dates or other milestones happen? Yes. Do I vent about things that bother me or things that people have said that upset me? Yes. But I don't get jealous and I don't feel sorry for myself. I find that to be counterproductive and doing so does not help you move forward. 

The biggest thing I've learned from this experience is that everyone deals with it differently.  I try not to judge how someone else deals with loss/TTC.

I did not think I would ever experience this myself and I am surprised at some of my feelings as well.  It's been two months now and I thought I was over it. Surprise, I'm not.  None of my friends have ever had a m/c and DH doesn't like it talk about it so, here I am.

As a PP said, I think I will feel better next month when we get past some of these June due date announcements.

ETA:  I am sorry for your losses and struggles, as well. 

 

Svenny1011

eyris:

The biggest thing I've learned from this experience is that everyone deals with it differently.  I try not to judge how someone else deals with loss/TTC.

I did not think I would ever experience this myself and I am surprised at some of my feelings as well.  It's been two months now and I thought I was over it. Surprise, I'm not.  None of my friends have ever had a m/c and DH doesn't like it talk about it so, here I am.

As a PP said, I think I will feel better next month when we get past some of these June due date announcements.

ETA:  I am sorry for your losses and struggles, as well. 

 

I'm sorry if it came off wrong. I wasn't criticizing you for how you are dealing with your loss. You will never know how you'll deal with losses - they suck. I dealt with both totally differently - they were night and day. And if I have another, I'm sure it will be another unique situation. You have every right to be upset, sad, confused, frustrated, etc. It also might take a day or it might take a year to get over it (actually, I don't think you ever get over losses, no matter how early). There is nothing wrong with how you are feeling. It was just the whining part that got to me - I guess I just am so anti-whining for myself, that it moves into how I feel in general.  

katharine25

It's been rumored (by tabloids, so RUMOR is the operative word) that Kate also had a  miscarriage.  It's also most likely they have been trying since the wedding. She probably also had a full fledged fertility work up done prior to them announcing their engagement.... that's a ton of pressure to be under.

Congrats to her. 

 

kat81again2

Svenny1011:

eyris:

The biggest thing I've learned from this experience is that everyone deals with it differently.  I try not to judge how someone else deals with loss/TTC.

I did not think I would ever experience this myself and I am surprised at some of my feelings as well.  It's been two months now and I thought I was over it. Surprise, I'm not.  None of my friends have ever had a m/c and DH doesn't like it talk about it so, here I am.

As a PP said, I think I will feel better next month when we get past some of these June due date announcements.

ETA:  I am sorry for your losses and struggles, as well. 

 

I'm sorry if it came off wrong. I wasn't criticizing you for how you are dealing with your loss. You will never know how you'll deal with losses - they suck. I dealt with both totally differently - they were night and day. And if I have another, I'm sure it will be another unique situation. You have every right to be upset, sad, confused, frustrated, etc. It also might take a day or it might take a year to get over it (actually, I don't think you ever get over losses, no matter how early). There is nothing wrong with how you are feeling. It was just the whining part that got to me - I guess I just am so anti-whining for myself, that it moves into how I feel in general.  

Svenny I will pop in here as well because I wrote the msg in support of the OP. I just wanted to say I'm really sorry for your losses. Also, if you ever do want to whine about them, I'd have no problem with that personally! But it's great that you have different ways of dealing with it. Best of luck to you both in getting your BFPs.  

eyris

Svenny1011:

eyris:

The biggest thing I've learned from this experience is that everyone deals with it differently.  I try not to judge how someone else deals with loss/TTC.

I did not think I would ever experience this myself and I am surprised at some of my feelings as well.  It's been two months now and I thought I was over it. Surprise, I'm not.  None of my friends have ever had a m/c and DH doesn't like it talk about it so, here I am.

As a PP said, I think I will feel better next month when we get past some of these June due date announcements.

ETA:  I am sorry for your losses and struggles, as well. 

 

I'm sorry if it came off wrong. I wasn't criticizing you for how you are dealing with your loss. You will never know how you'll deal with losses - they suck. I dealt with both totally differently - they were night and day. And if I have another, I'm sure it will be another unique situation. You have every right to be upset, sad, confused, frustrated, etc. It also might take a day or it might take a year to get over it (actually, I don't think you ever get over losses, no matter how early). There is nothing wrong with how you are feeling. It was just the whining part that got to me - I guess I just am so anti-whining for myself, that it moves into how I feel in general.  

No apology necessary.  Just wanted to explain myself. 

Contrary to my post, I'm pretty anti-whining as well.

I was literally not allowed to feel sorry for myself growing up.  My mom had a terrible story she used against whining/feeling bad for yourself.  Basic premise - if you think it can't get worse, it will.  It was a charming childhood tale*. (*sarcasm)

I don't do it often but I'm having a bad week.  Also, gave up alcohol this week, after reading a whole bunch of articles about how it can mess with your hormones/cycle. Coincidence?  

 

TrueBlue12

2Dash:

I'm thrilled Kate MIddleton is pregnant!&nbsp; When we get knocked-up we can expect new maternity fashions copying hers (she has awesome taste) - and when she has the baby everything she put him/her in will be what everyone wants on their kid.&nbsp; Should be fun to watch!

This exactly!!!!

shortstuff15

kat81again2:

I already said it in my post but I'm going to dig deeper because some of these replies are bothering me. 

In short, the OP had a freaking miscarriage. Give her a break.

As for the use of the wink, well, it was clear that the post was mainly a "woe is me" but she poked fun at herself for complaining by calling herself out on it. Well done, in my mind! It was not at all difficult for me to tell that the "bitter hag" part was a joke, and the rest was real but also that the OP has perspective (is frustrated, but has perspective). 

As for the "if you are a bitter hag 3 months in, you're in for a long ride" type of comment, I disagree. She is having a rough month because people are announcing BFPs with the same due date as her miscarriage. My guess is she'll feel better next month, not worse, even if she gets more BFNs.

As for the "3 months along with no known fertility issues is nothing, so any whining on your part, sarcastic or not, is not justified" comment, I think that 63 day cycles and a miscarriage count for something. 

Giving perspective is a great thing. But sometimes we need to lighten up. 

I agree.  One of my friends just announced that she is due in June and while I would have been a June 30th due date and she is an early June it still stings.  I can completely understand where the OP is coming from and 100% understood her post - sarcasm & all.

Luckbeababy

GhostMonkey:

Mrs Castillo:

I think it's because of the holidays. People are sexing it up more. 

Except those people wouldn't know they are pregnant, and most people are running from place to place or staying with relative/have relatives over. Not exactly helpful in the process. And most people don't make it FB official until 3 months at least, so those that are announcing got pregnant in September. Nothing to do with a holiday.

Don't ignore Labor Day! That is a big holiday in my part of the world (That is a joke for those that think the winky face does not imply that) I literally just finished reading an old Us Weekly issue about when they will have a baby, said their hopes were to announce around the holidays. Looks like Us was right again! I am pumped for them! Sorry OP you are having a down day though, I can imagine hearing about pregnancies that will have around the same due date as you would be difficult.

spacepotatoes

GhostMonkey:

Luckbeababy:

GhostMonkey:

Mrs Castillo:

I think it's because of the holidays. People are sexing it up more. 

Except those people wouldn't know they are pregnant, and most people are running from place to place or staying with relative/have relatives over. Not exactly helpful in the process. And most people don't make it FB official until 3 months at least, so those that are announcing got pregnant in September. Nothing to do with a holiday.

Don't ignore Labor Day! That is a big holiday in my part of the world (That is a joke for those that think the winky face does not imply that) I literally just finished reading an old Us Weekly issue about when they will have a baby, said their hopes were to announce around the holidays. Looks like Us was right again! I am pumped for them! Sorry OP you are having a down day though, I can imagine hearing about pregnancies that will have around the same due date as you would be difficult.

Interesting .

I think they ended up announcing earlier than they'd have liked because Kate is in the hospital. They may not have wanted it to come out through tabloids instead.

OP, I'm sorry you're having a down day. I'll admit that I felt a pang of jealousy when I saw this announcement too. I get where you're coming from.

jeffsjayme

I also agree that she's a fabulous dresser, but what I'm mostly looking forward to is their choice in names.  I love her name and wonder if she'll have pressure to pick a royal family name or go something more modern.  Could start a new trend.

JilllyBean

jeffsjayme:

I also agree that she's a fabulous dresser, but what I'm mostly looking forward to is their choice in names.  I love her name and wonder if she'll have pressure to pick a royal family name or go something more modern.  Could start a new trend.

I heard on the news that the 2 names that are likely (no idea why? Maybe the royals have to rotate?? Haha no clue) are Anne and George 

Sto71

You're still early on trying. I know it can be tough and I know ALL about the FB feeds..I have many friend who are due this month which I am very happy for them since most of them are having their first. Hang in there it'll happen

darjeeling

JilllyBean:

jeffsjayme:

I also agree that she's a fabulous dresser, but what I'm mostly looking forward to is their choice in names.  I love her name and wonder if she'll have pressure to pick a royal family name or go something more modern.  Could start a new trend.

I heard on the news that the 2 names that are likely (no idea why? Maybe the royals have to rotate?? Haha no clue) are Anne and George 

  I think they should spice it up a bit in the names dept.  I know my opinion matters to the royal family so obviously they will follow my advice.  

kerriw147

Not going to lie, although I'm thrilled for Will and Kate (yes we are on a first name basis) this morning when I got AF after a long LP that really got my hopes up and the first thing I hear when I get in the car to go to work is that their pregnancy was announced I couldn't help but feel jealous and it made CD1 today that much harder.I know it's silly and they were probably trying to get pregnant way longer than I have been but it just made my heart feel that much heavier today.

burmann

I find peoples obsession with the Royal Family odd.  Their love story is not anything special.  Sounds like a typical relationship.  Not sure what all the frenzy is about.