Hi from a newbie

amy8686

Hi all,

 I've been reading through your posts and I'm so glad to be a part of this community! 

 I'm 32, and my husband and I have been trying for 15 months. My blood tests and my husband's tests have all come back normal, and I ovulate, so we're in that frustrating stage of not knowing what's wrong. I'm on my first month of Clomid right now, and while my period would still be a few days away, I'm feeling it coming on. So unless these are early pregnancy symptoms that are exactly like my usual PMS symptoms, I'm thinking that I'm not pregnant.

We'll keep this up for the usual 4-6 months and hope for the best, but I'm starting to indulge the "what if it doesn't work" voices in my head and look into the next steps. I don't think I have it in me to do the more invasive/expensive/risky tests or treatments. If they came with a guarantee of a baby, I'd be all for it. But I can't stand the idea of going through the roller-coaster of infertility treatments and still potentially end up where I am now (but poorer and more emotionally drained). I've never been good at handling risk.

I think, instead, I'd go the adoption route. I've always wanted to adopt after raising biological kids, and I think I could make peace with going without the biological kids. Of course, that carries a whole other set of questions and stresses. There are the obvious risks associated with finding a child and going through the process to finalize an adoption. Then there's the fact that although my husband wants kids as much as I do, he would also love another few years to focus on things other than kids. He agreed to start TTC because of my age, but if we adopt, he'd rather wait a bit. (I'd want to have a kid in our house, like, yesterday.)  And then there's the fact that we may be moving states sometime within the next couple of years. I'd really want to adopt a child from foster care, and the whole certification process would get trickier if we move states in the middle of it.

Yeah, I realize I'm several steps ahead of where I need to be, and I should be focusing on the promise that the Clomid will work, as it has for so many women. But my mind is going other places, and hopefully share it with you all will calm it down a bit!

 Thanks for reading, and good luck to you all!

-Amy 

PrettyAccountant

Hi there. I'm glad you are finding our posts helpful. To be honest with you, almost all the women on this board are way past clomid cycles and many if nit most are already on to IVF. You might find more women on the trying to conceive or TTTC boards that will share your current and near future experiences.
Good luck

ctnl81

Welcome! I can definitely understand wanting to figure out what comes next even when you're in the middle of trying something - I definitely have a set plan of "if this doesn't work, and that doesn't work, and that doesn't work" in my head, even while I'm trying to be hopeful about what I'm dealing with at the moment.

 

If you haven't already, you might want to check out the Trouble Trying to Get Pregnant community, because a lot of the women there are doing clomid and timed intercourse or IUIs, while a lot of us have moved on to IVF.  It sounds like you're doing timed intercourse with the Clomid? 

 

I'm curious as to who put you on clomid - I'd encourage you to make sure you're being monitored regularly, which may not happen if it was an OBGYN that put you on it.  It's possible that you are, but I know that sometimes people get put on Clomid without the proper monitoring, so I figured I'd throw that in just in case that's the case for you!

 

Best of luck!