Infertility

When to stop trying?

We've got a lovely daughter already and I'm 32, we've been trying for a year for another child, I don't currently qualify for publicly funded IVF where I live and Im adamant I don't want a big age gap.

 

Ive recently had blood tests done to check my ovarian reserve so I guess I'll wait to see what happens.

 

I already feel that if I'm not pregnant by DD 3rd birthday that I'll give in and let it be.

 

Has anyone had to come to this conclusion? Advice on accepting and coping with this decision ? 

Re: When to stop trying?

  • I would talk to an RE before making any descisions. They will give you more than just blood tests to find out what is going on. You might find more people that are in a similar situation on the secondary infertility board though.
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  • I agree with the po. Most of the ppl here would go to the ends of the earth to have their first. I dont care how many years there are between my children. If i ever was able to have my first i would want to give him/her a sibling if at all possible. Try the secondary infertility boars. They might understand more. Right now i am facing a life cfnbc.
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    Come hang out with us over at Secondary IF.

    This is a common discussion.  How far to go? And how much money to spend when it could go to a living child, some of us had IF with the first and others are just experiencing it the next go round. Everyone is dealing with the issue of the family they envisioned not happening the way they had hoped.  

    TTC#1: 14 months on our own (did HSG, b/w, SA);
    BFP on Cycle 14--TWINS! Identical twin boys stillborn at 19wks(1/9/10)
    3 break cycles; took clomid 50mg, BFP #2 Beta #1 35, Beta #2 338!!! Owen was born 2/11/11! 
    TTC#2: 4 cycles on clomid: BFNs
    BFP #3: Cycle #5 100mg clomid; beta #1 21; beta #2 6=CP 
    Cycle #6 break cycle TTC no meds=BFN
    Cycle #7: 150 clomid+ovidril+IUI=BFN (switched to RE)
    Cycle #8: follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle #9 Forced break due to cyst
    Cycle #10 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle #11 follistem+ovidril+TI=BFN
    Cycle#12 Forced break due to cyst, went on BCP; did repeat HSG, Saline U/S
    Cycle #13 IVF: Follistim/Menapur ER 11-30 11 eggs, 5 mature, 4 fertilized and 3dt on 12-3; BFN
    Cycle #14: IVF#2 lupron/follistim/menopur ER 1-22, 19 eggs, 14 fertilized, 5dt on 1-27, BFP!! beta 1: 63, beta 2: 119; EDD 10-15-13; 1 frozen embie
    Miracle Surprise BFP, EDD 10-1-15; saw HB great Betas, 11weeks lost baby MC at home
    Moved forward with FET transfered solo frostie on 6-4-15, beta 1: 315, beta 2: 738, u/s showed one baby on track EDD 2-21-16
  • We don't have a first child yet, so for us it's different, but given that I have such low follicle counts I have imposed a limit for us of 4 iui cycles, then we will work on getting my partner pg.

    If we find out she has trouble getting pg we will probably then move on to ivf.... So maybe 8 iui cycles between us and a couple ivf? I can't imagine us having much more room financially for more...

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    queer couple - 32 (me) & 33 (my love) years old - donor sperm,

    Our IF/TTC journey since Nov 2012.

    Me: dx of DOR in Nov. 2012. Low AMH, AFC - 6, Normal FSH, SS-A (RO) Antibodies (Autoimmune issues), tubes clear, Sono (November 2013) NORMAL! <p>

    7 IUI's - December 2012-September 2013.  Medicated, Injected, Triggered.... all BFN.

    My Love:  (the amazing @Healz413)
    Normal AMH & FSH, AFC ~27, blocked tube dx'd via HSG in 2012.   Hydrosalpinx & ovarian cyst dx'd in May 2013.
    dx of Stage IV Endo & bilateral salpinectomy in June 2013.  

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    Partner IVF#1a- December 2013 - H's eggs, my Ute - CANCELLED due to low response
    Partner IVF #1b - February 2014 - H's eggs, my Ute - ER February 4 (10 retrieved, 3 fertilized), Transfer Feb 7 of one Grade 1 and one Grade 2 day 3 embryos.  1 - Day 3, Grade 1 frosty saved.   BFP - 6dp3dt via FRER, Beta #1 - 110, Beta #2 175, Beta #3 - 348, Beta #4 - 2222!, Beta #5 - 4255.  Ultrasound (6w1d) - 2 heartbearts!  

    We lost our beautiful Twin baby girls on June 18, 2014.  Tavin Sara and Casey Elizabeth were born at 21 weeks gestation and were absolutely beautiful, precious, amazing babies.  We miss our daughters every day and love them with all our hearts.

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  • Sorry, I didn't mean to offend anyone.
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