My dad's been practically begging to babysit. He's watched DD once before for a brief period of time (~1 hr). Yesterday was my birthday, so we asked my dad to watch DD for a few hours tonight so DH and I could go out to celebrate.
In the past, my dad has questioned our parenting choices to the point that he gets into arguments with us. He argued for 10 minutes once about why we don't use powder. Whenever we mention something we want to do, it takes forever to justify our choice to him.
I fed DD at 4:30, and my dad came over at 5. We showed him how to use our glass bottles, and told him that we only have 9 bottles in the freezer, to give her one between 6:30 and 7:30, but try not to use a second one unless necessary. We went out and had a great time.
We got home at 9, and he said she just ate at 8:30 and that she only took half a bottle. He chastised us for leaving a frozen bottle. He said that she was screaming, and that it wasn't warming fast enough in the water. He said we need to leave a liquid bottle so that he can microwave it, which we told him not to do. I don't know if he actually microwaved her bottle tonight or not.
When I asked why he waited so long, he mockingly said that we told him to treat those bottles like gold, that I was whining about pumping. He said that it wasn't that hard to pump. That he went through it with me, and he knows what he's doing. He didn't actually pump (obviously), but it can't be that hard and that my mother did it.
Every time I tell him how we do things, I do it in a respectful way. Instead of doing what we ask, he shoots back with retorts of "it worked for you". I called my mom (they divorced a few years ago) and she told me he was the same way when I was little - he'd never listen to her, just do what was convenient for him. He actually gave me formula bottles when he took care of me, and that she never pumped. He refused to put me in cloth diapers when I was little, he'd buy a special pack for when he had to deal with me on his own.
So right now I'm really frustrated. He gets upset when we don't ask him to babysit. When we do ask him to babysit, he stresses us out and challenges our choices. Would you let him babysit again with clear, written instructions, or would you just ask the other 3 local grandparents next go around and put him off as long as possible?