T&Ps needed badly!

cg0112358 · November 2012

On Wed (11/15) I received a phone call that doctor had discovered a tumor in BIL's brain. I drove down Thursday morning to support SIL (b/c she had to leave her mom at hospice where she was only given 24-72 hours to live) as her husband went through surgery. The doctors removed a tumor 1.5 times the size of a golf ball BIL and seemed confident that they got all of it. BIL went home on Mon (11/19) and recovery, although painful, seemed to be going well. SIL's mother did end up passing a few days later. I just got a text from DH and now it looks like BIL has a 75% chance of living another 5 years, 50% chance of making it to 10 years, and it just goes down from there. He is not even 40 years old yet, has two sons (9 and 11) and it looks like he won't even make 50. I am crying right now as I right this, I cannot even imagine how the others are handling this...

I know life is not fair but this just goes so far beyond that right now. DH just lost his oldest brother barely two years ago and now is having to deal with losing his other brother. My SIL lost her mother barely a week ago and now has to face the eventuality that she will lose her husband while her two sons will be losing their father. My MIL and FIL have already lost one son and now face the fact that they will lose another. I know sometimes miracles happen and my classes (I teach at a catholic HS) are praying for them daily but any thoughts or prayers for BIL, SIL, DH and their family would be appreciated.

tarebear9891 · November 2012

Thoughts and prayers headed your way. I'm so sorry, that is very frightening.

About 17 years ago my cousin was diagnosed with a brain tumor. He was given similar odds and now he is in complete remission. It's been a long road for him but I just wanted to let you know that there is always hope!

LadyXaverian · November 2012

Thoughts and prayers for your family.

RondackHiker · November 2012

I'm so sorry.

I have a friend with similar odds. Terrifying, isn't it? For awhile, I freaked because it felt like her whole life was going to be determined by the flip of a coin. But then I remembered that 50% chance of death is 50% chance of LIFE. I know right now that isn't enough, but I hope you can get to the point you can focus on the positive.

Remember that in a few years, they could come up with more treatments, that improve his odds. And a few years later, even more. Try to stay positive.

Be sympathetic and supportive and cry with them, but keep the hope alive if you can.

Again, I'm so sorry. I'll be praying.