Ok DH is super upset.
Just stumbled upon BM and his daughter in a picture in the local paper. The caption has my husband's daughter listed as wrong 1st name (listed with name BM WANTED to name child but they decided against) AND BM's new married last name.
How would you handle? DH has shared custody but we are long distance.
Re: BM and SD in newspaper with WRONG NAME WTF?
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This is what I thought too. I would have DH calmly contact her and ask why. Don't involve a lawyer when she might have just been protective. But make sure schools use her right name.
But thank you for the different perspective.
I think it sucks, but I don't really see what there is to do about it. If he feels the need to say something, he could tell BM that he noticed and does not approve. I think you should certainly document it and note it in whatever records you keep.
I don't believe that a honest mistake was made, but I'm mentioning this anyway--occasionally people assume that DS has DH's last name (similarly, people also sometimes assume I have DS's last name) and we just don't bother correcting them. I grew up with an impossible-to-pronounce last name and my married name is mispronounced frequently, so I'm just in the habit of ignoring it.
If XH ever found something with DS's first name and DH's last name on it, it wouldn't be because of any parental alienation on our part. Just laziness.
Thanks for the responses, it is always good to run it by you guys before the emotions get too crazy. We always appreciate the advice and thoughts from this forum.
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Why the need to be so rude? If you have no opinion, don't post.
OP, this sounds like a passive aggressive attempt to get your H's back up. Cut the picture out for your kiddo to keep (it's exciting to be in the paper), but pretend you didn't even notice the name error.
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I would be pissed about the last name. DS has my last name, and it bothers BD. BD's XGF used to tell him his name was DS BD'slastname and it confused the heck out of DS.
Whatever the kid's last name is is what it is, and parents shouldn't be calling them something else.
I would contact your lawyer to see what he/she thinks you should do.
OP said her H was upset about it. I think that answers both your "Who cares?" and the "Why does this matter?"
Other than that, you said nothing. So why post at all?
There is no way a newspaper person would get the first and last name both Wrong to coincide with the name they did not choose and the BMs new last name. Or at least that would be one weird coincidence. How old is the kid?
Hey girl, long time no see. I will say that my concern is that BM is using this other name which is not the kids name IRL and bit just in the newspaper.
HAB, you have to have been around to understand the underlying issues here. The BM in this instance has been using very clear Parental Alienation tactics, as well as not following the court order in regards to the child's legal name or access for the BF.
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What do you want to do have the paper issue an apology for listing the wrong name? There isn't anything to be done.
Roll your eyes and cut the article out because your H's DD was in the paper and regardless of what her name is listed as I'm sure she's excited about it.
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