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ok. new vent. more of a question.
how can you/would you handle a situation of family over stepping? For example, on thanksgiving I left DD in her chair (around the table everyone was sitting at) I ran upstairs to get her puffs and I came down to see DD moved next to SIL and SIL peeling grapes with her teeth, biting them into pieces and feeding my 6 month old grapes and mashed potatoes.
I know DH and I are a little weird about germs, but it makes my stomach turn to have food that was literally in your mouth then being placed in my child's mouth. Also, I was peev'd because she'd never had grapes before. I think it's quite rude or a "known no-no" to not just give a baby who just started on solids new foods. Not so much for allergic reactions, but I'm not comfortable with her chewing grapes yet.
Anyway. What's up? Am I in left field about this?
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Re: ok. new vent. more of a question.
I'd just say something like, "oh, hey, we're still introducing DD to new foods, so please check with us before giving her anything.". Then you can dictate what, when, and how she tries new foods.
If your SIL doesn't have small kids or used a different solid food strategy then she might just not realize it was an overstep.
I will never understand why people feel the need to feed babies that are not their own. I would be really irritated if I were you. I was irritated at my MIL for feeding my 11 month old whipped cream and cheesecake every time I turned around. She even gave her a whole cherry (I was worried about the choking risk). I just don't get the novelty of it. What did you say?
She's a 36'ish year old mother of a 4 year old little girl.
She's very much a "by the book" mom.
Maybe she thinks she knows better than you? Not in a b!tchy way, but in a "I've been there already, so I already know what's ok" way. Like PPs said, just say something in a casual, non accusatory way. If it happens again after that, then maybe bring out the mama bear.
I could totally see my MIL doing this. My mom would ask first, then if I said no, she'd judge me. Not sure which is more annoying.
I vote for the solid anchoring shriek of "WTF ARE YOU DOING?!?!?!", but that's just me... While I'm not as much of a germ freak as many, but that crossed the
line IMNSHO... I honestly wouldn't feed someone else's kid without their permission in the first place, but secondary to that, there's no reason she did what she did with peeling and breaking them up in her own mouth, there are these things called KNIVES!
That is nasty.
I'd be super peeved.
That is nasty.
I'd be super peeved.
This. You should put something in your mouth and then put it in SILs. I'm sure she'd be totally cool with it and not find it gross at all. I wouldn't even do this with my own kid.
This. But I'd also kind of tiptoe around the issue by saying something about introducing foods and those haven't been fed to your kid yet and ohandplusalso it's really important that you do the feeding and "I'll ask if I need help. Thanks!"
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Sadly it's very real. She's fed both my kids food from out of her mouth and I usually don't want to make a scene, but on the inside I'm flipping the FVCCK out. The first time I saw this was with a piece of candy on a road trip [ok, there was no knife around] but rip the thing with your fingers! Or for the love of God, give your child the half that was actually in your mouth!
Oh. And don't think she hasn't taken a toy away from one of my kids and let them suck her fingers instead.
Iwannaslapabitch.