I just posted in the Thanksgiving thread about how awful my mother was during Thanksgiving.
She has been a huge source of calm and strength for me at certain times in my life, and at others she has been stressful to be around. She's either super easy going, chilled out, go with the flow or nervous, nit picky, and down right mean. She's not predictable at all. But not quite bi polar...I think she just goes through phases.
So, in hopes that she would be her calm, easy going self, I asked her to be in the delivery room with me. I said this with the understanding that she could be kicked out at any time because I don't know what I'll want when the time comes.
Well, I won't go into detail, but while she was here for Thanksgiving, she lied to get her way, made everything about her, was extremely disrespectful and making fun of my husband, picked on me for my appearance, and was really difficult to be around.
My midwife expects me to go into labor early next week...like the week that begins tomorrow, and needless to say, I no longer want my mom there, and my husband is really uncomfortable with her being there because of some of the comments she threw his direction.
1 Tell her she's no longer welcome and why?
2 Just don't call her when we go to the hospital and say we couldn't because it all happened so fast...which she'll see right through?
3 Call her as planned but ask the nurse to tell her the midwife doesn't want anyone else in the room and let them be the bad guys?
Regardless, I'm having a conversation with her about being disrespectful to my husband. I was so tired and shocked at what she was saying when it happened that I didn't say anything then, but I'd be a crappy wife to let some of it slide. Would love any advice on how to do that too.
Sorry couldn't make clicky from my phone.
First Child born
5/5/14 and 6/5/14
Twins born into Heaven
BFP - 4/6/14, due date 12/8/14. First twin M/C at home - 5/5/14, Second twin D&C - 6/5/14
Second after severe bleeding for 18 weeks due to subchorionic hematoma
Expecting Number 3 due 10/31/2020