Would you ever do this?? Possibly flame-worthy

Jen2124

Ok, so I took the boys to play at an indoor playground the other day. There was 1 other mom there with her older boy (maybe 7ish). He was playing and she was reading. Ryan and Dillon were playing and Ryan comes up to me and says "poop". Dillon was still playing.

Sure enough, Ryan pooped and I had to change him. I knew if I tried to go get Dillon and take him into the bathroom, he would be in the toilet, grabbing toilet paper, etc. Plus, the bathroom was right there. SO, I went up to the other mom and asked her if she would watch Dillon for me for a minute while I changed Ryan.

It's weird how I instinctively trust other moms (depending), and I was thinking how some people would prob think I was crazy for doing this. I felt ok with it or I wouldn't have done it, and not even sure I would think I would have done it if it didn't happen to me (not sure if that makes sense).

Well I know most people on here don't have 2 year old twins, so maybe it seems like something you'd never do...but just curious if you all think I am crazy. I guess I was only gone for 2 minutes, but still. 

 

shopgirl78

Maybe.

I let the flight attendent hold my DS today while I took DD to the bathroom on the plane. 

Brewster

I wouldn't, but I also have no idea what it feels like to have twins.

isabella22

I think you are taking a huge, huge risk.  What if something would have happened to the 7 yo or his mom (she got an emergency call)?  She may have just taken off leaving your son alone.

I can't imagine how difficult it is with 2 two year olds!  But leaving 1 with a stranger is a much bigger risk than I would be willing to take with my childs life.

Heidisean

If I knew the other mom absolutely.  Otherwise, no I would have went back to the car with both of them, changed one and then went back to play;)

Brideofranken

I would not, but I am also not used to ever having any help with my kid--so it never would even occur to me to ask anyone to keep an eye on her, (does that make sense? like, if I had family or friends or someone at ALL who usually gave me a hand it may be more instinctive of me to ask someone to keep an eye on her?)

I would assume that you probably have had some help with your twins for the last couple of years (I hope you have!!)

so you're probably used to trusting other people with them-whereas I am not used to trusting anyone with mine, and I am therefore paranoid and overprotective ( to a degree, I am sure..)

 

isabella22

I was thinking of this as a playground at the mall?  Are you talking more about like a gymboree?

DevonPow

I have been asked many times to keep an eye on someone else's kid briefly at indoor playspaces or similar. I don't think it is that unusual or bad.

I wouldn't do it at a park or someplace where you REALLY need to keep an eye on them or they could wander away, etc.

MrsSledge

Ditto Brewster. 

*Scuzzlebutt*

I wouldn't have done that.

KrisBriMcBunny

Its not something I would do...just not comfortable doing it...and I'm not flaming you for doing it because I know moms who do this....I'm just not comfortable doing it myself.

buffalo_buckeye

I guess I see how/why other people need to do it and I'm happy to help. But, I wouldn't do it.  But then again I only have one, so who knows what I would do with 2 or twins. 

Jen2124

No, it was actually McDonalds...they have a closed off indoor play area and we were the only ones in there. The bathroom was actually IN the play area....so I was just behind a closed door like 2 feet away. There is no way the mom would have left...she would have told me bc I was just on the other side of the door.

Still, I understand that some people would never do this..and I even wonder if I would have said I wouldn't do it if someone were to ask me. It was just like "instinctual" in that moment..if that makes sense. I usually do tend to trust other mothers though (again, depending)....I would never ask a man to do this or a single stranger (may not be fair...but I am usually really weary of strangers in general.....I won't even leave the boys with a babysitter yet).

rebs

I have done that before. I am really surprised others haven't.

Brewster

In that case, I would have probably changed him with the door open.  That's just me though.  I don't think what you did was particularly flame worthy.

smiley2

I don't have twins- so maybe if I did I'd feel differently.  But I my response would be the same as KrisBriMcBunny's.  But I do seem to be in the "higher paranoia" category compared with other moms, so that may be part of it!

niecy

No, I wouldn't do it. Even other moms can be crazy or untrsustworthy.

JenninMA

I don't know if I would do this because I've never been in a similar situation, but I would have plenty of sympathy for a mom of two little ones who asked this of me and wouldn't mind keeping an eye on someone else's child for a couple of minutes so she could do a diaper change. It does make me think that we live in such a strange world that one mom asking another for a few moments help should be such a big deal.

rebs

I am finding it hilarious that people with one kid are answering this.  I think that this falls into the "never say never until you have been in the situation" catagory of being a mother!!! 

Just saying...

KellyMichelle

I'm sure it's fine, but I personally wouldn't.  If I was somewhere and a mom asked me to watch their kid I would and wouldn't think it was weird though.

shopgirl78

he he, I noticed the same thing rebs

BabyChickpea

It depends, maybe if I had been talking to the lady for a few minutes but I don't know. I'm preg with #2 so I have no idea what it is like to juggle 2 kids. Last Christmas I was standing in a long line in a store when the lady behind me asked me to watch her infant (probably 2 months old) who was in a stroller so she could go grab another size and not lose her place in line. I swear she was gone forever! I didn't mind at all but no way I would have left for that long.

meredith7327

I would never do this - although I don't think it's weird or wrong that you did.  I probably would have just changed one of them on the floor in the play area. 

stcroixbride

people frequently ask me to do this in similar situations, and I don't mind at all.  I have a hard enough time wrangling ONE in a bathroom, and I also know how angry she gets when we leave a playground.  It is almost not worth the fight...

sunshiny79

I wouldn't have done that, I would have changed him right there where I could have kept an eye on the other one.  But that might be flame-worthy too .

W&J'sMommy

I would not do that, I would (and have) taken both into the bathroom or gone out to the car.  But my son is really good about listening and when I tell him to stay somewhere he does, so we've never had problems with him getting into stuff in a bathroom.

cornichon

Not flame worthy... ?I have 2 and would not do it though.. ? I would take both in the bathroom with me ( as I have done many times before).. It's more of a pain but well worth the peace of mind

*Scuzzlebutt*

I wasn't being judgemental when I replied, and I don't necessarily agree with the "you don't have twins" argument.  I do NOT have twins, or two/three/four kids.....but I can't imagine doing that, even if I did have more than one child.  I just wouldn't be comfortable doing that, but that's just me. 

kjlrs

I wouldn't have done it, but if I were the other mom I would have happily agreed and not thought you were crazy. I just am not comfortable - nor would DD be - with leaving her without supervision of somebody we know. I probably would have either propped the bathroom door or changed him on the floor if possible.

JenniC1135

I don't know that I would do it in a random McDonald's, but a few weeks ago I was at storytime at the library when Alex told me he had to pee.  It was free playtime and I had briefly chatted with some of the other moms that day, but none of them were the ones I know well.  Anyway, I asked them and the leader if they minded if I ran him to the bathroom and left Avery and Adam, and they were fine with it, so I did.  I sort of wondered if they thought I was nuts, leaving my 2 kids in a room full of strangers, but I figured with all of them there, the likelihood of one making off with both kids was pretty unlikely.  That, combined with the fact that I live in a pretty Mayberry sort of town, made me feel okay with it.

UBMyBaby

I would watch a child if another mother asked me to, but I wouldn't find myself asking a stranger to do it for me.  I know myself, but I don't know them. My two are 13 months apart.

I don't flame you for doing it.  I just am personally not comfortable doing it.