I may punch MIL

Shmogan09

Sorry to start a new IL thread but I wasn't sure anyone was looking at the old one anymore and I need to get this off my chest to people other than DH.  

MIL has a really long dining room table.  Every year DH sits at one end with me on his right and Logan sits between us on the corner.  We walk in this year and I see the high chair down at the other far end.  I think to myself... oh, they put us down there this year so we aren't in the way.  Then she tells everyone where to sit.  Nope, I, DH and Logan are in our normal spots... and Kellen is ALL the way at the other end of the table between MIL and FIL!!!!  I literally could not even get a glimpse of him eating his first Thanksgiving dinner.  I was so sad and upset.  I didn't want to make a scene by moving the chair down to us (her dining room is really narrow so it would have been an ordeal to move once everyone was sitting) so in the moment I stewed in silence.  Now I really wish I had of done something about it.  

I mean really... who does that!  There were 6 people between my child and I and I couldn't even see him no matter how far back or forward I leaned.  I talked to DH about it and he is going to make sure she understands the situation before Christmas.  I think she has this idea that when we bring the kids over for holidays it is for HER to spend time with them.  DH is going to explain to her that WE want to spend time with our kids on the holidays too and she should just be happy to get some time with them and be involved.  

I am really mad still so I am going to ignore her phone calls to come over this week because I know I will end up saying something if I see her. 

pennyandandy

Yeah, I would've been pissed and I probably would have sat him on my lap. Or made DH make a scene and move the chair down where we were. Sorry, hon, that stinks.

lancyjo

I would have throat punched her. Or moved the chair. Maybe both. Either way...

Sorry your MIL sucks. [

SY Smiles

I would have been marching my butt right down the middle of that long table with the highchair in tow. I would have been polite and taken my shoes off first though.

Shawnee11507

I picked DS and the high chair up (while he was in it- no wheels) and moved him- outside- yesterday. We ate on the patio

Mistifier

I'm raging for you! Not that that helps, but how ridiculous!

Lena122

That's ridiculous! I can't even imagine why she would think that's okay!

Shmogan09

Mistifier:

I'm raging for you! Not that that helps, but how ridiculous!

No it actually does!  DH was supportive but certainly didn't share in my rage.  It helps to know you all would have been as mad as me.  I have now spent days going through a hundred things I could have done/ wish I would have done.  I think if the group had of been smaller I would have done something, but I really like the rest of DHs family and didn't want to look like a b!tch.  

I am mad at myself though and ready for Christmas, she is going to be on a short leash and I have reactions planned if she does anything.  I am usually a very strong woman who stands up for myself or really anyone I am with but something about MIL renders me helpless.  I think for some sick reason I still want her to like me even though I should have given up after 12 years.  

I am feeling done with that now.  I need to worry about my family and give up on what she thinks. 

Mistifier

Shmogan09:

Mistifier:

I'm raging for you! Not that that helps, but how ridiculous!

No it actually does!  DH was supportive but certainly didn't share in my rage.  It helps to know you all would have been as mad as me.  I have now spent days going through a hundred things I could have done/ wish I would have done.  I think if the group had of been smaller I would have done something, but I really like the rest of DHs family and didn't want to look like a b!tch.  

I am mad at myself though and ready for Christmas, she is going to be on a short leash and I have reactions planned if she does anything.  I am usually a very strong woman who stands up for myself or really anyone I am with but something about MIL renders me helpless.  I think for some sick reason I still want her to like me even though I should have given up after 12 years.  

I am feeling done with that now.  I need to worry about my family and give up on what she thinks. 

Honestly, she should be trying to make you like her! As much as your H is her son, she should remember that he has a new family now, and that is with you. To your children, she is extended family and you are the one who comes first; she had her babies and all of their "firsts". After dealing with some issues with my MIL, I strongly "believe" that although it may be exciting for the grandma, it is more so for the mom. She didn't conceive, carry, or birth your kids so she needs to realize any relationship is a privilege and second to yours.
I hope you don't feel too bad though. Maybe you can look at it as training for Christmas, which is a much bigger deal!

Ya Never Know

I'm in awe of your restraint, I totally would have moved the chair. I don't take crap from my MIL anymore. Sorry she was so mean.