A question of the TMI type

suitern

So for those of you that are still BF does doing the deed still hurt?  It hurts almost just as bad as it did for the first few times we started doing it after 12 weeks! I had an excruciating painful recover from L's delivery, so I am not sure if it will just always hurt or if it is not normal? My husband thinks I need to talk to the Dr but I just feel awkward describing that much detail to my new Dr.!

 

runrinserepeat

No, it hasn't hurt since the first couple if times. I agree with your dh, sounds like it might be time to ask the OB.

jmccall79

I don't BF so I can't say from experience.  However, I've heard that BF sucks the life out of you in all aspects, and makes you really dry.  Is being 'dry' the problem?  Have you tried using lube of some sort?  If you're using lube and it still hurts, it might be time to talk to your dr.  If delivery was 'that' rough, you may still have some 'scar tissue' going on that may need to be addressed.  Again, I don't know from personal experience but from talking to other mommy's this is kind of what I've heard.

MrsLindinger0905

It hurt for me forever, I asked my OB and it turns out the depo shot I was getting was the problem. We switched birth controls and it made a huge improvement. Are you on BC? Either way this definitely warrants a call to your OB I would say.

Jlobebe2012

I still get sore the next day, but it is not at all as the pain you describe during the act. It hurts a little at first but then it is gone. I had 3rd degree tears so I was in pain after delivery, and that is not the same pain I have now. I am also still as dry as the Sahara, but lube makes all the difference. It would not hurt to call your OB and speak with the nurse, and request a call back.

suitern

To answer a few questions-yep we definitely use lube-LOTS of it ha ha.   I am on the mini pill and have been wondering if that has been part of the issue as well.   Doing "it" was always somewhat painful before, but never this much.  I guess I will make a note to get a referral to a new OB since we moved and I haven't found one yet. 

kittyh8r

It only hurt for the first couple times we DTD so I would talk to your OB about it. I wouldn't be embarrassed. Remember what they look at and deal with all day, everyday. (: 

preggersINschool25

When I went to the ob for my yearly pap this summer he asked me how sex felt and said it shouldnt hurt. He gave me a referral to some sex therapy place. I didn't go tho and things got better on there own. Although, it still isnt like it was prebaby... and I had a csection too.

HattieLove

kleMcK:

No, it hasn't hurt since the first couple if times. I agree with your dh, sounds like it might be time to ask the OB.

This. 

suitern

preggersINschool25:

When I went to the ob for my yearly pap this summer he asked me how sex felt and said it shouldnt hurt. He gave me a referral to some sex therapy place. I didn't go tho and things got better on there own. Although, it still isnt like it was prebaby... and I had a csection too.

 What is super ironic about this whole situation that I am in-I used to work for a company that did pelvic floor rehab for post baby, painful sex, etc.! Just never thought I would be in that position.  I am planning on calling my primary Dr. to refer me to a new OB.  My insurance through the military makes me jump through hoops in order to see someone specialized! Hopefully they can help . 

joie12

Sex was painful for me, too (even lube burned), so despite REALLY not wanting to go in, I went. My OB said I had both a yeast infection and vaginal atrophy. True story.

She said the yeast would clear up with monistat (which it did) but the VA is caused by low estrogen. Since I'm BFing and on the mini-pill, she felt certain that I had low estrogen. My options: go off the mini-pill and use condoms; go off the mini-pill and onto a combo pill, and risk the drop in supply; get a prescription estrogen cream. 

For me, the painful sex seems to have been caused more by the yeast infection, because it's pretty much back to normal. IDK about you, but (warning: major tmi) the external itching in the creases that I have seems to be more atrophy-related.

All of this to say, go to the doc. Mine was completely non-plussed by my problems. 

Lena122

I don't BF but sex is still painful for me. I went to my OB and it turns out the muscles in my vagina are in "spasm." After birth your muscles can freak out from all the stretching and tighten up too much once the baby is out. Makes for painful sex. She recommended a suppository and physical therapy, yes I said physical therapy! The suppositories have helped but I haven't started the PT yet.

NatesLady1309

It hurt at first (I think the first time was around 8w PP), but didn't take too many times before I was back to my regular self. We basically didn't get to have sex the entire time I was pregnant so that made it worse. 

I also had 2nd degree tearing, and tore both on the outside and the inside. I thought it would be a lot longer of a road to being pain-free, so I was pleasantly surprised. I don't think it should still be painful at this point no matter how badly the aftermath of your delivery may have been. I would talk to your doc. 

Mistifier

The pain is only just starting to go away now. And fwiw, I had a section and am not on bc. 

suitern

klutzygrl26:

Yep, sex still hurts. It's likely due to the decreased estrogen thanks to BF. I know I should just get a prescription for topical estrogen, but I'm too tired to bother with it and my sex drive sucks anyway.

This is generally how I feel which is why I have put off going back to the Dr. for so long.  I figured something wasn't quite right, but really DH is gone alot and when he is home we are both so tired we don't get around to it much anyway ha ha...sad but true.