We told the in-laws...

Rvnsgrl81

So last night DH and I called his parents on conference because they were out of state from each other and a few states from us. They were sooooo happy and excited and immediately said something about calling people. DH had to literally yell at them and tell them no not until Christmas and not until we say it is ok to do so. So we will see how long that lasts, my MIL is the biggest gossiper around which is why I was dreading telling her.

Then we called DH's sister, DH is the youngest of four, two brothers and one sister. Oldest brother adopted two boys, middle brother not married, no kids and all kinds of issues, sister got KU by accident. So DH's sister whom I am very close with and get along with amazingly seemed less than thrilled. Just kind of like a ho hum reaction. Even more so when we said twins. I was very hurt by it.

Do you think it is because she is no longer the center of attention? She was the only one with a biological child and hers was the youngest. I feel like she thinks we are stealing her thunder and I don't think that is fair even though I know there is nothing I can do about it.

Any thoughts ladies? At least my inlaws were happy...now we hope it stays a secret....ugh.

RunningGal900

I think I'm a bad reactor to news, good or bad. I don't know why. I think it's because I can't process emotions that quickly to start jumping up and down and be excited, even if I really am. I always feel like when friends tell me they are engaged or pregnant they must think I'm such a b*tch based on my reactions. I mean, I'mhappy, I tell them congrats and give them a hug and everything, but I've never been the screaming, giddy reactor. So maybe, she's like that?

KikiCohen

I say don't worry about the ho hum reaction.  Your SIL sounds just like my niece.  Everyone else in DH's family has been over the moon excited for us and her reactions and comments are alway soooo underwhelming.  Oh well!

It sounds like she's jealous to me, but who knows.  Don't let it get you down! 

CutieGirlLissie

That sucks that your SIL was so ho hum about it. I can totally understand you wanting everyone to be super excited about the news... I expect my SIL to kinda be the same way, unfortunately. She is pretty selfish and a mooch on her parents still (even though she is 31) so while im sure she will act happy and surprised when we announce at Thanksgiving, I know as time goes on and we get tons of attention from DH's mom (its her first grandchild and she's goig to go crazy) she's going to be a grump about it. What can you do...

weaslewam

I got a very ho-hum reaction from my father in law during my last pregnancy. It honestly stuck with me and makes me very bitter towards him and how we will tell them this pregnancy.

I guess some people just aren't that excited about pregnancy. I don't know why your SIL isn't more excited but that shouldn't affect YOUR excitement. You can't control how other people respond to your good news. So don't let them control your sadness out of their negative/ho-hum response!

lyzabeth

Don't take it personally and don't even begin to guess at why people aren't as excited as you think they should be about your baby. One of my brother's has been very ho-hum about my daughter and at first I took it personally, but then I remembered he's an 18-year-old boy.  You are happy, your husband is happy. Any thing else is gravy.