Long and ranty vent...just have to get it off my chest

MrMrsandBaby

Long backstory made short: FIL passed away shortly after we found out I was pregnant.  He had a live in girlfriend who was (is) basically a gold digger - she never worked after moving in with FIL and hasn't worked since he passed away.

Well my brilliant FIL made the GF the executor of his will - rather than his SON, it was his GF.  Awesome.  So for a year and a half DH has been fighting to get his dad's house sold (which she is still living in - rent free of course) and his estate closed.  The issue is that GF is in Connecticut and we are in Illinois.  Well, after months of waiting, the probate court removed the GF as executor (lots of reasons why, including destroying property DH asked for to remember his dad) and appointed DH.  Great!  There is an offer on the house, things are moving and the b*tch is moving out of the house.  Ummm, wait?  She is moving out all of FIL's stuff?  No...that belongs to the ESTATE, not you.  So fine, the estate will just "bill" her for the stuff.  Whatever gets her out so the sale can close.

Yesterday, the b*tch hand delivered a letter to the probate court and DH's lawyer for executor fees of $16,000!  You read that right...16k for being such a sh*tty executor that the judge wrote three pages on how crappy you were and removed you.  Apparently her time is worth $40 an hour and it takes 8 hours to clean the gutters of the house she was living in for free.

WHAT THE FLUCK is she thinking!!!!  DH's lawyer said not to worry, he will fight every penny (she charged two hours a month for paying bills and we have a stack of unpaid bills that she sent us when she was removed - so what was she doing for two hours a month?). 

I honestly can say I have NEVER hated a person before like I do this woman.  Not only is she just trying to get money from DH, she is ruining his ability to grieve his dad's death.  Even before FIL died, this woman has been taking stuff (money from a home equity line with only FIL's name) to try to get as much money as possible from the estate.

I can't help DH, he doesn't want me involved and I respect that.  But if any of my CT 212 friends want to take a little trip to Milford I can give you the address!

Thanks for listening...I hate to say anything to DH, he has enough to worry about.  I just can go on and on about what an awful person this woman is.  If you want stories, boy do I have them!

runrinserepeat

That sucks on so many levels. I hope she doesn't get a cent.

Jen0204

My ILs live in Milford so we're there once a week...  Just sayin

I'm so sorry you guys are dealing with this.  It always astonishes me how awful some people can be.  I would seriously try to look into if you can bill her for back rent, or at the very least for any utilities she didn't pay for.  If heat, electricity, cable, etc. was in that stack of unpaid bills I would be trying to bill her for that.

MrMrsandBaby

Jen0204:

My ILs live in Milford so we're there once a week...  Just sayin

I'm so sorry you guys are dealing with this.  It always astonishes me how awful some people can be.  I would seriously try to look into if you can bill her for back rent, or at the very least for any utilities she didn't pay for.  If heat, electricity, cable, etc. was in that stack of unpaid bills I would be trying to bill her for that.

Funny, Jen - I was thinking of you when I wrote that!  I knew you were in CT.  The thing is, she was/is living in the house so she has to pay the utilities/taxes/home maintenance and it isn't part of her duties as executor so she doesn't really have a leg to stand on.

And I think DH and his lawyer are going to go for back rent...it totals more than her "bill" so it will just piss her off!  If she is going to act like a renter then they will treat her like one!

jmccall79

Oh man!  That sucks so bad!  I hate when things like this happen to 'good' people...and hate when the other party feels like they're 'entitled'.  I'm sorry you all are having to go through this.  Hopefully it'll be settled soon and your H can grieve the loss of his father.

I can see something like this happening in my family.  My dad had quadruple bypass surgery a few years ago.  He has no will of any sort.  So, after rushing to TX to be with him, him making it through surgery fine (only one minor scare) and recovering well...we tried to get my dad to do 'something' just in case anything ever really happened to him.  While he was in the hospital, after his surgery, we did get him to do a living will...for medical issues.  After all that, we'd asked him where 'everything' was just in case.  He got very defensive saying that his GF knew where everything was and if anything happened she'd take care of it.  Well, I know my sisters and I are the beneficiaries on his retirement, so it's not like she'd get anything...or that she'd necessarily want anything (maybe, but she has her own $), but I know it would be a PITA to deal with it because we're in TN and he's in TX and have no idea about any of his affairs.

I just can't imagine having to deal with it all.  I'm truly sorry for your family and sorry that the GF is such a b!tch!

Jen0204

I can save some ripe diapers and hide them in various places around the property.

jmccall79

OMG Jen, that made me giggle!!!

Mar5195

I'm sorry.  It broke my heart when you stated how it's effected his ability to properly grieve.  It sounds like your DH had a good attorney on his side. 

I hope this all ends quickly and you can recoup some of the money back.  It's insane that she pulled money from the HELOC.  Isn't that fraud if FIL has already passed?  Throw her butt in jail!

btartaroind

Wow she is crazy! Hopefully since the judge didn't think she was responsible or take her seriously as the executor, they won't support her claims for the 16k. What a huge amount of stress... your poor DH

pinkshades05

Jen0204:

I can save some ripe diapers and hide them in various places around the property.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA!!! Omg...DO IT! And make sure they are all well soiled!