So my babies still aren't taking naps and I am about to lose my mind!
I lay them down as soon as I see their sleepy cues (about 1-1.5 hours after waking up) and one or both of them just scream. They might sleep on and off for 15 minutes but never at the same time. So I spend a good 1.5 - 2ish hours going back and forth trying to get them to sleep. They wake up 45 minutes before it is time to eat again and are crying. I know they aren't hungry because one of them spit up a decent amount right when he woke up (and they are eating 5oz). I don't want to let them cry in their beds but I'm at the end of my rope here. What am I doing wrong?Shouldn't they be taking 3 - 1-1.5 hr naps each day?
I seriously had a meltdown yesterday, like, crying on the floor of my closet because I just feel like I'm messing something up and nothing I do makes them happy. The only time they aren't crying is when they are eating or sleeping at night I'm just lost and don't know where to turn to for help.
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Hi- my babies are a little older than yours, but we are having the same problems. I feel like all I do is try to make them nap all day, only to have them wake up within 30 min. So frustrating! It is hard when you have no break all day because they will not nap.
Mine liked to be swaddled at that age, but I just discovered they like to be in their sleep sacks with their arms out and holding a toy. I don't have a lot of suggestions because I am right there with you....but I have tried: musical crib toy with lights and nature sounds, dark room, holding them for a few minutes before I lay them down until I can feel them relax, halo sleep sack with arms out and a soft toy to hold.
I am so sorry you are going through this, it is about the age mine realized that naps were no fun anymore!
hope it gets better for you soon.
I feel like I could have written this post. I don't know what to do anymore. I had a few weeks where they were starting to sleep longer stretches at night but barely napping during the day but now we are back to up every 2-3 hours each and at different times and still not napping during the day. It is so frustrating because I feel like I never sleep for more than an hour.
So I have no advice but you are not alone. Please let me know if you figure it out.
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I'm so sorry, I too could have written this post. My babies just don't want to sleep at the same time anymore and I'm exhausted. Evenings are hard and nights are only ok because DH and I take shifts.
Some things that do help: Swaddle!!! The more bundled my babies, the longer they stay down. Also, one of my babies really likes the swing. He'll take hour to 1.5 hour naps in it - but only if he's swaddled first.
My biggest issue is that one of my boys loves to nap in the morning and the other in the afternoon, giving me no break at all during the day. I rarely eat a meal in the day and never get to shower unless DH happens to be home during the day.
I'm really hoping that what everyone says is true - that after you make it past the first 3 months it gets easier. I love my boys and am grateful to have them both, but it's really hard work. REALLY HARD some days.
Hang in there, you aren't doing anything wrong, babies are a lot of work. Especially when you have 2 at the same time.
Thanks you guys - in a way it is just nice to know I'm not alone. I just feel like such a failure sometimes By about 3:00 in the afternoon I'm in tears because I've tried everything and I'm emotionally and physically exhausted. I tried the baby whisperer thing (no rocking, shhh pat, etc.) for three days and it didn't help AT ALL! I even had my husband here doing it with me over the weekend and it was just the most unproductive weekend ever. I do still try to keep them on the 3-hour EASY schedule which worked great right away but now the naps just went out the window and I have two crying babies for the two hours it takes until they can eat again.
I just gave my notice at work last week and now I am totally second guessing my decision. I feel so terrible admitting it but I'd honestly rather be at work! I really do hope it gets easier for all of us soon!
Any veteran MoM's feel like weighing in here?
Here's a great article about awake times - https://www.babywisemom.com/2008/07/optimal-waketime-lengths.html
My guess is that they are overtired and even though you think you're seeing their sleepy cues, they are too far gone. Try laying them down even earlier and see how they do.
Have you tried swings? White noise? Lullabies? Dark room? Swaddles? Sometimes it's a matter of ruling things in or out one by one to see what makes a difference.
*BIG BIG BIG HUGS*
The season you are in now is the hardest one yet! But, if you can take it ONE minute at a time and remind yourself "this moment will pass. they will eventually both calm/rest at the same/close to the same time"
I had a good sleeper and a power napper, and it was NOT fun. BUT we figured out what worked for us....I had to let go of the house...like REALLY let it go....it felt like i was living in a tornado at times, but I was wearing myself out trying to put them into a schedule they were clearly not going into So, I made myself rest when they did.no.butts.about.it. Even if it was 20 minutes of overlapping sleep, I peed, snacked and then layed down to close my eyes before 'awake' time came around again. MANY days the only way to get my power napper to sleep the same time as his brother was to nurse him to sleep and sleep with him or to put him in the swing right after a little snack (he ate less at each feeding, but more often..power napper, power snacker..still the same way today at 2 years old!).
Truth be told, I did a lot of praying! A.LOT. I'm sorry there isn't a magic solution, only time and patience can get you through this season
*BIG HUGS* I hope you and your littles figure a system that works for you, soooon and in teh meantime, see if you can have two people over once or twice a week to tend to the house while you nap (try to anyways) )
Big hugs to all you ladies in the trenches of babyhood right now....Both my guys had colic and cried most of the time but especially at night and I wondered if I would ever survive it...did a lot of crying and praying too! My mom was great and would always tell me "they are just babies...all babies have fussiness but it seems like more because there are 2 (not regarding the colic situtation just in general)"
When you have 2 you really do just spend your time trying to get them to sleep but if you stick with that when it is time to really get them on a nap schedule it will be a lot easier! I went from basically no schedule and tons of crying all the time to 3 naps a day and STTN at 4 months.....things will get easier ladies...hang in there!!!
ps I second the suggestion about being overtired! Try putting them down earlier!!