Pregnant & Paranoid After Miscarriage

MinnyMouse04

Hey,

 I had a miscarriage in August and my period never came, however to our surprise, we found out that I'm pregnant while we were vacationing in Ireland.  We are obviously very excited, but I feel like I cant get too excited because I'm so worried about what happened last time.  I had an altrasound this week and we were able to see the gestational sac and all the other important burry spots, as well as, the flickering of the heart beat!  Yay!  (We couldn't see anything last time I was pregnant).

 I feel like I'm walking on egg shells because I'm so nervous about another miscarriage.  I know things are looking good, but I can't help the worry!  Just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat or has been in this boat before?

 Thanks Ladies!

CutieGirlLissie

I am so sorry for you loss last time!! I know nothing I say will take away your nerves, just take it day by day...

MrsMcC.10409

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have never been in your shoes, but through friends I know that the pgal board is great for this kind of encouragement and support. Obviously you're welcome here too, but for help from people who have been there, you might want to check it out.

All that being said, CONGRATS on your wee Irish babe and the heartbeat!

densquared

I'm sorry for your loss. PgAL brain is very scary. One of the things that I try to remind myself of every day is that today I am pregnant. Nobody can take this day away from me.

I wish you a HH 9 months.

jlemo

I have been there. MC between DS #1 &DS #2. Try not to worry yourself too much and enjoy your pregnancy! Wishing you a H&H 9 months

MinnyMouse04

Thank you!

MinnyMouse04

Good idea!  I'll try to focus on that instead of the "what if".  Thank you and I hope everything goes wonderfully for you, as well! 

sparkymcgeee

I had a m/c and then got pregnant with my daughter right away. The worry never really goes away but you're pregnant right now with a healthy little bean. Focus on that as much as you can.

ladygrey919

The best piece of advice is that I've seen on here is to stay positive and take one day at a time. One past loss does not dictate future losses; you need to be your own cheerleader and truly believe that this baby is going to stick around!

missyjg

Congratulations!! How exciting to see the flicker of the heartbeat. What you are feeling is completely normal. Just take it one day at a time. Best of luck to you.

MinnyMouse04

Everyone is so nice here!  Thank you all for your support!

MrsSandro

Congrats and Welcome!

I had a missed m/c at 11 weeks and so I can completely relate to the anexity and worry you have when first learn your pg again. Below are the mantra's that where from the TTCAL board. They really help me just keep positive. GL!

* "Today I am pregnant and I love my baby."
* "I am pregnant until someone tells me otherwise."
* "My past does not dictate my future. A previous m/c does not mean I will have another m/c."--"Just because something sad is happening to another poster, does not mean it will happen to you. We all know m/c and complications are not contagious!
* "Hope does not make bad things happen" You cannot ?jinx? your pregnancy by creating a ticker, getting excited, or telling someone. Live in the positive!

* And this is the hardest one: "There is nothing I can do to prevent a m/c from happening. Worrying yourself sick doesn't prevent a m/c. And if (gods forbid) it were to happen again, I know I will survive." 

betsydaniels2010

MrsSandro:

Congrats and Welcome!

I had a missed m/c at 11 weeks and so I can completely relate to the anexity and worry you have when first learn your pg again. Below are the mantra's that where from the TTCAL board. They really help me just keep positive. GL!

* "Today I am pregnant and I love my baby."
* "I am pregnant until someone tells me otherwise."
* "My past does not dictate my future. A previous m/c does not mean I will have another m/c."--"Just because something sad is happening to another poster, does not mean it will happen to you. We all know m/c and complications are not contagious!
* "Hope does not make bad things happen" You cannot ?jinx? your pregnancy by creating a ticker, getting excited, or telling someone. Live in the positive!

* And this is the hardest one: "There is nothing I can do to prevent a m/c from happening. Worrying yourself sick doesn't prevent a m/c. And if (gods forbid) it were to happen again, I know I will survive." 

Great advice MrsSandro!

You are not alone and *CoNgRaTuLaTiOnS*. Try to be happy in the moment. I tell myself, today I am pregnant and for that I am thankful.

SMac85

Sorry for your previous loss, but welcome and congrats on this BFP!

thismplsgirl

Congratulations and enjoy it!

summerandmatt

I'm so sorry for you're loss and completely understand your feelings. Have you joined the Pregnant after a Loss (PGAL) board? A lot of like minded ladies over there that can help with this type of thing! I'm a part of it, and it makes me feel less crazy for freaking out over every little thing haha

MinnyMouse04

Thank you so much! Great advice. I'm going to write those mantras down and keep them close.