XP from Oct 12: How Long to let LO Cry?

shanaynerz

We just put C down for the night upstairs. DH fed her and I changed her. She'll start crying and fussing (can see her on video monitor) and we let her cry a little bit before going up. Maybe a minute or so to see if she'll just soothe herself. /just now she was crying so DH went up and as he was going up she conked out again!

So, how long do you let LO cry before comforting him/her? Obviously we're not doing any cry it out stuff yet, but sometimes she'll cry then just stop and go back to sleep, so we don't want to be jumping right at the beginning of every whimper.

IEtoLA

If its fussing on and off, I'll let her be. The minute she starts crying, I'm picking her up.

pottermommy

At two weeks?  None, I would pick him up or pat him immediately.  Now at 9 months I will let him fuss but if a real cry comes out I go get him and soothe him. 

CnAnA

It depends. If I am elbow deep in dishwater, I will let her fuss for a bit, or talk to her from the sink. Once she full on cries though, I go get her. If I am just folding clothes or something that's easy to put down, I will go to her quicker. At night, I do let her whimper and 'fuss' because most of the time she is either asleep while she does it or will calm herself and go back to sleep on her own.

That said though, she has her "I'm bored, I'm going to make noise" noise which is very similar to her pre cry fussing. So I give it a few beats to see which one she is doing before going to her or trying to soothe her from the kitchen.

damabo80

Cry or fuss?
DD was very high needs. She would literally cry, full on billy goat sounding cry any second she wasn't being held. This lasted for about a year.
DS is a completely baby. If he's just fussing and it hasn't gotten to the billy goat cry yet, I'll let him fuss. Once he has gotten to the actual cry stage, then ill attend to him if possible. Having two babies in the house and being a sahm means that someone is going to have to wait if they're both crying. Fact of life.

Junebug060609

Cry or fuss? Crying I'd go to immediately. Fussing I'd sometimes give a minute to see if he'd settle back in. That was about the age I figured out the difference between crying and fussing.

adoxyinherear

I'll let DD fuss for a bit (no more than a minute or two) if it's daytime and I'm in the middle of something, but when I'm putting her down for a nap or bed I go in every time she's fussing and reassure her that I'm in the next room and stroke her hair or similar. I try not let it escalate to crying, because then I have to pick her up and really soothe her back to sleep.