I think this is a personal choice, on all levels. We already announced it publicly because that is what was right for us, personally.
To consider: Usually you would refrain from telling people because you wouldnt want to have to go back and ?untell? in the event of a loss (which I pray doesnt happen!). If you feel like you would want the support of your immediate family if that happened, then you could tell whenever you felt comfortable with that. If you would not want them to know about a loss, then you may want to wait until you see the heartbeat, or until you pass your first trimester.
For us (and we have not had a loss yet, praying we dont have to go through this) we are very close to our friends and family, and we decided that IF the worst happened, we would tell every one anyways. Thats just how we are. So, we announced the happy news with a caution that it was early, but that we knew whatever happened we would have a group of people there and surrounding us with love.
So all that to say, its all personal, and all different for each couple. Do what works best for you!
Love is multiplied: DS #1: 1.5.99 ~ DS #2: 9.23.11 ~ DD 8.29.13
m/c 11/12/12 - sleep tight baby bean.
Bitty Baby #4, please stick around - we already love you so very much!
We are waiting until Christmas, which will be 12 weeks, because my mother tends to over share, and it would take less than 3 days for someone to accidentally leak the news on Facebook.
We told publicly right away also. : All up to what you are comfortable with. God forbid if anything was to happen, then our friends would understand a change in mood, mentality, etc
Heather
B- 17 yr old DD
T- 2 yr old DS
expecting July 5th 2013
I told my mom, sister and BFF right away. We have not told DH's family yet but rarely talk to them. I also HAD to tell my work manager because I am a nurse and needed to be removed from a shingles patient and also cannot have my yearly TB skin test which was due this week. I will try to hold it in until after my appointment 11/29/12 but have never made it to 12 weeks without spilling to all.
Honey, there is no hard and fast rule to this. YOU should tell WHOEVER you want WHENEVER you want PPs are right about the reasoning one would wait.... I myself have had 2 m/c's and have been TTC for 2 1/2 years. Our first pg I didn't tell anyone until after the loss.... and even then it was sketchy. With our 2nd pg, we weren't going to tell until about 8 weeks but lost our LO at around 7wks. But we told our immediate family already and our close friends already with this baby. After the 2nd loss we received so much love and support and now we feel that they are all on this journey with us
we told family and closest friends right away. Had to hold DH back last time from telling the whole world, he only made it to 8 weeks. We'll see this time!
We told our mom's only right when we found out. I also told my grandma and 2 of my besties. We are going to tell our siblings and dad's on Thanksgiving, and the rest of the world at Christmas. We heard the heartbeat today at 5w 5d!
I agree with the other ladies; tell who you want when YOU feel comfortable.
DH and I are going to tell my parents this weekend and I won't be quite 5 weeks yet. But I know that if something happens, I would want my parents to know anyway. We plan to tell his family when we see them on Thanksgiving when I'll be 6 weeks.
I agree with the other ladies; tell who you want when YOU feel comfortable.
DH and I are going to tell my parents this weekend and I won't be quite 5 weeks yet. But I know that if something happens, I would want my parents to know anyway. We plan to tell his family when we see them on Thanksgiving when I'll be 6 weeks.
I think we'll wait to announce on FB until after we go to the first doc appointment and have the ultrasound on December 7th.
Told everyone as soon as we got the phone call from the doctor that it was confirmed. We did say it's early. still waiting to find out how many because we did IVF! We do believe it's Twins because of my high counts
To each their own, but sometimes when you tell,one or two ppl those ppl tell more ppl and so on..... So...We are waiting until after Christmas, the 3 month mark,just to be safe,you never know what can happen. Our family will most likely be surprised since we already have a girl and a boy everyone always assumes you are "done".
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I think it's totally up to you. We arent telling anyone until Christmas (if I can make it). I'd reaaaally love to tell family now but DH really wants to hold out "just in case." Sooooo we will see I guess.
It's up to you when to tell everyone. I know people who told at 8 weeks. I've known people who have waited 20 weeks.
We chose to do what we did last time which was tell my mom and dad now. We will wait to tell extended family, friends, and my husband's parents until 12 weeks or our first doctor's appointment (whichever comes first).
Re: To Tell, Or Not to Tell?
I think this is a personal choice, on all levels. We already announced it publicly because that is what was right for us, personally.
To consider: Usually you would refrain from telling people because you wouldnt want to have to go back and ?untell? in the event of a loss (which I pray doesnt happen!). If you feel like you would want the support of your immediate family if that happened, then you could tell whenever you felt comfortable with that. If you would not want them to know about a loss, then you may want to wait until you see the heartbeat, or until you pass your first trimester.
For us (and we have not had a loss yet, praying we dont have to go through this) we are very close to our friends and family, and we decided that IF the worst happened, we would tell every one anyways. Thats just how we are. So, we announced the happy news with a caution that it was early, but that we knew whatever happened we would have a group of people there and surrounding us with love.
So all that to say, its all personal, and all different for each couple. Do what works best for you!
Love is multiplied: DS #1: 1.5.99 ~ DS #2: 9.23.11 ~ DD 8.29.13
m/c 11/12/12 - sleep tight baby bean.
Bitty Baby #4, please stick around - we already love you so very much!
Ultrasound 11/4 - TWO HEARTBEATS!!!
DD1 7/10/08 DD2 8/11/10 DS 7/2/13
TTC #1 since 5/2010 dx: annovulatory
RLP: 2/2012: normal HSG 3/2012: normal
BFP #1 7/20/11 M/C 7/25/11. BFP #2 11/29/11 M/C 12/21/11
I have two angel babies that I will see again one day
BFP #3 10/27/12 EDD: 7/6/13
Baby Emma arrived at 35 weeks by surprise on June 3rd, 2013!!
BFP #4: 5/23/14 EDD: 1/30/15 Emma's gonna be a big sister!
Beta #1 19DPO: 213 Beta #2 21DPO: 674
I agree with the other ladies; tell who you want when YOU feel comfortable.
DH and I are going to tell my parents this weekend and I won't be quite 5 weeks yet. But I know that if something happens, I would want my parents to know anyway. We plan to tell his family when we see them on Thanksgiving when I'll be 6 weeks.
I agree with the other ladies; tell who you want when YOU feel comfortable.
DH and I are going to tell my parents this weekend and I won't be quite 5 weeks yet. But I know that if something happens, I would want my parents to know anyway. We plan to tell his family when we see them on Thanksgiving when I'll be 6 weeks.
I think we'll wait to announce on FB until after we go to the first doc appointment and have the ultrasound on December 7th.
always my babies
It's up to you when to tell everyone. I know people who told at 8 weeks. I've known people who have waited 20 weeks.
We chose to do what we did last time which was tell my mom and dad now. We will wait to tell extended family, friends, and my husband's parents until 12 weeks or our first doctor's appointment (whichever comes first).
BFP #1 5/07/11, DS 01/19/12
BFP #2 08/09/12, M/C 08/10/12
BFP #3 10/30/12, EDD 07/11/12...please stick!