does this bother anyone else?

MrMrsandBaby

I lurk on the Dads board from time to time and I'm noticing more and more that they are saying "we" regarding being pregnant.  For example:

"Our first pregnancy was a miscarriage, and we got pregnant 3 months later"

"the first ultrasound (when we found out we had a blighted ovum..."

"Fortunately, our second pregnancy..."

I don't know why but it bothers me when guys (and women) say WE are pregnant.  Nope, pretty sure it is still just women who get pregnant.

DH and I would say that we are having a baby - which I guess is similar? - but never that we are pregnant.  Actually, most of the time DH just said "my wife is pregnant" or "we are expecting our first child" type of lines.

Random vent...sorry.

lancyjo

I agree, it bothers me.

The couple is having a baby... the woman is pregnant.

I think the men on there say it like that because they want to show how involved they are. I love that they all genuinely seem 100% supportive and involved. It just grates on my nerves to hear the "our pregnancy" stuff.

FWIW, you won't ever hear my husband say "our pregnancy". He fully believes that while it's "our child", the pregnancy was completely mine.

MrMrsandBaby

Lancy sometimes it scares me how much we think alike (well, it should scare you I guess - I know what goes on in my head!)

lancyjo

MrMrsandBaby:

Lancy sometimes it scares me how much we think alike (well, it should scare you I guess - I know what goes on in my head!)

Ha! I think the same thing!

Is one of us schizophrenic?

mydawn

It bothered me long before I was ever pregnant. It reminds me of couples who insist on sitting on the same side of a booth when eating at a restaurant. It's just awkward.

LoveBeingMama

When I was pregnant with DS1, I found a humorous book for dads to be.  It addressed this issue by basically telling them to never say "we" are pregnant, because saying "we" are pregnant is like letting your wife kick you in the d**k and then telling everyone "we just got kicked in the d**k!"

 I  think about this and crack up every time I hear a guy say "we are pregnant." I wish I remembered the name of the book. It was hilarious.

runrinserepeat

LoveBeingMama:

When I was pregnant with DS1, I found a humorous book for dads to be.  It addressed this issue by basically telling them to never say "we" are pregnant, because saying "we" are pregnant is like letting your wife kick you in the d**k and then telling everyone "we just got kicked in the d**k!"

 I  think about this and crack up every time I hear a guy say "we are pregnant." I wish I remembered the name of the book. It was hilarious.

I like this! I think it should also apply to breastfeeding too. WE aren't breastfeeding. I am.

Shmogan09

mydawn:

It bothered me long before I was ever pregnant. It reminds me of couples who insist on sitting on the same side of a booth when eating at a restaurant. It's just awkward.

MrsLindinger0905

Honestly, it never really bothered me. Heck when I announced I was expecting I was the one who said "we're pregnant!". Then again, we sit on the same side of the table when we go out to eat, lol. ::embarrassed face::