"Just sleep when the baby sleeps"

crystalknpp

I love how everybody gives me this advice and also uses this as a reason why I really shouldn't be tired.  I guess people think that since I'm home all day with B that I'm just napping, relaxing, and watching tv.  I would love to sleep when he sleeps but that is my only time to actually eat, use the bathroom and get what little house work done that I can squeeze into that small time period.  Anyone else get this comment alot? Or a different comment that really drives you crazy?

WearingRed

"should you really be doing that?" "Shouldn't you be resting?" "let me do that you go sit"

I had a baby without pain meds not major surgery. I am not some weak made of glass child bride. I am not going to sit still and wasted away while others do my work. If I need help I will ask for it otherwise just let me be! I can and will do only what I need to but that does include taking care of my 30 plus pound 2.5 year old. Oh and MIL I didn't need a phone call telling me you were going to be out of phone range and to call my SIL [ who has 2 about the same age as mine by the way] if I needed anything.

WearingRed

Oh and sorry everyone seems to think all babies sleep for hours and hours of the day. Mine never have. An hour here or there that's it.

Junebug060609

WearingRed:

Oh and sorry everyone seems to think all babies sleep for hours and hours of the day. Mine never have. An hour here or there that's it.

This.  Some of us have really crappy nappers.  I don't even get an hour. 

roxyttandme

No. I'm starting to get a frustrated DH cause I'm home all day and the house is a mess. He isn't the one with utters of milk that are like crack to our kid. He isn't the one up all night - in fact he is working 40 hours a week and getting 8+ hour of sleep a night. 

Sorry. I think I just hijacked your post. People need to STFU unless they are the primary care giver to the child. Each kid is different. I have no clue why people think what worked for theirs will work for ours.....  

crystalknpp

dotmbc:

 I occasionally get 2 hours, but I never know when it's going to be a 2 hour nap...so I can't sleep during any of them.

This is my situation.  DS will occasionally sleep 2-3hrs straight but other times I'm lucky if I get 30mins. 

Izabella22

Yeah I have a non napper too and its ridiculous. My other favorite was when I was 9 mos pregnant being told "Oh sleep while you can!" - from a man. Clearly he'd never been 9 months pregnant, I almost throat punched him.

CnAnA

WearingRed, I had a baby AND major surgery. LOL I still get snippy when people talk to me like that. Drives me nuts. I know my limits and will stop when I need to.

OP, I do get the "sleep when she sleeps!" a lot, but not as bad anymore. I do occasionally nap with her, but usually only 30 min a day or so. Like others said, if I don't do productive things while she sleeps, it won't get done.

crystalknpp

roxyttandme:

No. I'm starting to get a frustrated DH cause I'm home all day and the house is a mess. He isn't the one with utters of milk that are like crack to our kid. He isn't the one up all night - in fact he is working 40 hours a week and getting 8+ hour of sleep a night. 

Sorry. I think I just hijacked your post. People need to STFU unless they are the primary care giver to the child. Each kid is different. I have no clue why people think what worked for theirs will work for ours.....  

No need to apologize! I can completely relate.  I'm so envious of DH getting his 8hrs of sleep during the week while I'm getting up with LO.  Then on the weekends when I ask him to take the night time feedings since he's off he acts like I'm asking him to get a root canal.  I don't think men really get how much work taking care of our LO's 24/7 really is!  My DH tells me all the time that he knows taking care of Ben is hard work and he appreciates me yada yada but I don't think he really gets just how much I really do every day. 

WearingRed

mrs.ike:

WearingRed, I had a baby AND major surgery. LOL I still get snippy when people talk to me like that. Drives me nuts. I know my limits and will stop when I need to.

At least I am not alone! I feel like everyone except my mom thinks I should still be in a hospital resting with nurses taking care of me and my baby. I keep getting looks like I have two heads or something when I move a heavy box or gasp unload the dishwasher or want to wash, fold and put away my laundry in my new house where I am working on figuring out a new system that will hopefully work for my new life. I keep telling myself you should take the help but the stuborn betch in me say get to effe out of my house and let me be!

mundayem

I got that line from my mother all.the.time. Drive me BSC. I'm sorry but I have other stuff I need to get done. I work full time and napping when he does is just not an option for me.

SpartyKim

DD only takes 30 min naps and I have to plug her with pacifier when she stirs during that time otherwise she wakes up so I feel like I can't get anything done between that and the crazy amount of burping/holding upright I have to do for her reflux

piedpiper07

Junebug060609:

WearingRed:

Oh and sorry everyone seems to think all babies sleep for hours and hours of the day. Mine never have. An hour here or there that's it.

This.  Some of us have really crappy nappers.  I don't even get an hour. 

This for me too. It makes me so mad when people say that!!! If I try to sleep when he sleeps I get so grumpy because he wakes me just as I'm drifting off. It's worse than getting no nap. People telling me that including DH even after I've explained o them why I can't just makes me so mad!!