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July 2013 Moms
bunnymama625
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STM Advice to FTM
bunnymama625
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I thought it would be a fun thread for the FTMs to hear the truth from the STMs- so post your info here!!
Here's mine-- they joke about pregnant women being gassy, but seriously- it's uncontrollable- either learn to not be embarrassed, or for delicate situations, I find stuffing some TP in your panties muffles the sound a bit. ;p Starts in first tri!!
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Re: STM Advice to FTM
BFP #2 03/08/11 EDD 11/16/11 DD Born on 11/04/11
BFP #3 08/29/12 EDD 05/06/13 M/C on 08/30/12
BFP #4 11/01/12 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C on 12/28/12
BFP #5 04/30/13 EDD 01/03/14 DS Born on 01/02/14
BFP #6 01/11/15 EDD 09/22/15 M/C 03/09/15
Ugh errors!
Nearly every preconceived notion you have of parenting will pretty much go out the window. The phrase 'I will never...' is a joke.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
HAHAHAH so true!! I said I wouldn't give her sugar until 5! I'm pretty sure one of my friends with kids had a good laugh at my expense.
I swore I wouldn't bed share.
We do.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
We were all perfect moms before we had children.
Parenting just isn't what you assume it to be before you are a parent. Oh and no matter what parenting decisions you make for your child, someone will be there to question it. Mommy wars are not a figment of the imagination.
BFP #2 03/08/11 EDD 11/16/11 DD Born on 11/04/11
BFP #3 08/29/12 EDD 05/06/13 M/C on 08/30/12
BFP #4 11/01/12 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C on 12/28/12
BFP #5 04/30/13 EDD 01/03/14 DS Born on 01/02/14
BFP #6 01/11/15 EDD 09/22/15 M/C 03/09/15
We said the same thing. DS bedshared until 15 months. DD sometimes bedshares but she actually likes sleeping in her crib (thank goodness...there is nothing like being in your 3rd trimester and having a toddler kick you all night long!)
BFP #2 03/08/11 EDD 11/16/11 DD Born on 11/04/11
BFP #3 08/29/12 EDD 05/06/13 M/C on 08/30/12
BFP #4 11/01/12 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C on 12/28/12
BFP #5 04/30/13 EDD 01/03/14 DS Born on 01/02/14
BFP #6 01/11/15 EDD 09/22/15 M/C 03/09/15
THIS!!! Didn't have to do any PT but do your kegels and then some. AND after birth, when they give you stool softener's to get things moving, take them.... HOWEVER, if you think you might need something stronger.... DO NOT TAKE IT! I made that mistake and had zero control while getting up after feeding DS. That's right, it was awful.... you are pretty much numb down under for a while after too.
My advice would be to take pictures, no matter how bad you think you look. Get in some of the pictures, and make your DH take them. Get pictures of the whole family. And don't worry, because things will work out. You'll get by. Enjoy it!
This.I wish i had more photos of my first pregnancy.
Also. something nobody told me/warned me about. After delivery you will stink for day. I would take a shower, and i would still think I stink. I guess it's all the hormones, but it's pretty disgusting.
Oh, this is true! I stank for about six weeks. I had to shower twice a day which I never did before. My dr said it was the hormones and it would go away, which it did. But it was gross!
You will be scared to poop for at least a week after you give birth. NO ONE talks about this and more people should! I dreaded having to poop because it hurts and you don't have the same need to push. It just comes out. Sorry but it needs to be said because it sucked.
Sign up for a prenatal water aerobics class. My hospital offers them in their therapy pool. I did it with both my pregnancies twice a week and it really helps you to feel great, takes pressure off you, and from what my instructors repeated over and over again gives you great abs which will help during labor. The bonus of having summer babies is that it will be refreshing too.
Bring sunglasses to the hospital just in case you have to have a c/s. The lights in there are super bright (as they should be) but I was always teary eyed because it was too bright staring up at them.
Another recommendation to do your kegals. I ended up having incontinence issues after DS1 and he was a c/s .
Take all the mesh undies and super large pads you can. Trust me, you'll use them.
If you're modest, I'd start trying to get over it soon. You very well may end up naked. If you're going to BF, you'll have people touching your breasts (I had flat nips so I had a couple LC's helping me out). When in the hospital they check on you a lot and most of the time you'll have visitors.
And this isn't advice, but it freaked me out. You will lose a lot of hair. It's normal and it will grow back, but you will lose hair. I took a shower about 2 weeks PP and literally pulled handfuls of hair out when washing it.
amen to that
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
But I can promise you, you'll miss it when it's over. So try to enjoy it.
Love is multiplied: DS #1: 1.5.99 ~ DS #2: 9.23.11 ~ DD 8.29.13
m/c 11/12/12 - sleep tight baby bean.
Bitty Baby #4, please stick around - we already love you so very much!
Ultrasound 11/4 - TWO HEARTBEATS!!!
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
My advice: When you hear the phrase "You'd better sleep now, while you have the chance" BELIEVE IT. Enjoy your sleep now, rest now, soak it up now.
Seriously.
that phrase always bothers the crap out of me. It's not like it's a cache. You can't save up sleep and draw on it like a bank account. You don't get to say 'well hmm my baby only slept three hours tonight. I guess I better use those extra hours I got six months ago.'
Unfortunately it doesn't work that way and it just irritates me when someone says it.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
This x1000! I hated hearing that while I was pregnant, but I really wish I had taken it seriously. I was so tired after Colby was born that I was literally nauseous, I'd never felt like that before.
My advice is to lurk the 0-3 month board, and read books about handling a newborn. I was so caught up in the pregnancy that when I got home I was like "what do I do now?" I was so unprepared. It was so much HARDER than I thought it would be. Granted some of you will be blessed with easy babies, but not everyone will be that lucky. I love my baby boy but those first six weeks were VERY difficult.
Yep! I read all the books and thought my baby was going to be a perfect robot baby who ate every three hours, didn't use a binky, and would fall asleep on her own. Two weeks in I realized that book was not written for MY baby. Who ended up being colicky. It's just not real life. good to get general ideas from, but you'll drive yourself crazy if you expect your baby to behave exactly like that. Sometimes you just need sleep. It's not the end of the world if you have to put them in the swing sometimes. lol I hope I don't have as much anxiety about every little thing this next time.
yes I second that! I freakin hate hemorrhoids. Pooping will never be the same after pregnancy and delivery.
-hemorrhoids, swamp crotch, blue veins all over your chest and tummy. I really had no idea about the moistness down below constantly when you're pregnant.
-recovery can be worse than delivery. Everyone is different but I wish I would have had a warning about recovery. I couldn't sit on a hard chair for two weeks! I kept saying I'd rather push her out a million times than have the pain of the two weeks after haha.
- so this is silly, but me and my husband were all naive and would think yeah after I push out a baby I'll be loose! Then sex will never hurt again. HA! Yeah right. If you get stitches sex could hurt for a year after, at least in the beginning. Again, very personal and different for everyone, but it is possible.
This in regards to water breaking....mine was broken 23 hours before labor started with my first and about 15 hours with the second.....I leaked and leaked and leaked. It was gross and I couldn't stand to walk around, made me feel like I was peeing my pants with every step.....and don't listen to everyone's horror stories, almost everyone has one to tell....
Karen - 36 DH - 39
If you carry high you won't! so think high thoughts
I thought I wouldn't have to worry about pantyliners, pads, etc until after the baby. This was such a huge dissapointment to me!
Ok.. you get yeast infections and UTI's super easy. Also.. leg cramps - I'd wake up in the middle of the night with the worst leg cramp EVER
That's definitely something you'll want to tell DH. I only weaned last month so it's been a long long time since I've really wanted sex. DH still doesn't understand. Hormones zap your drive and make it uncomfortable. Lube is your friend.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
always my babies
They all have their ups and downs. First is bad because you are sick and really tired and no one really knows you're pregnant so you just look off but you aren't uncomfortable and huge. And it's the shortest because you are already a month in when you find out.
Second the sickness goes away and you start to pop but you still aren't huge. People see that you're pregnant and start to gush a bit. The uncomfortable begins though. You get to find out (if you plan to) what the sex is.
Third is pretty miserable but like the second you are obviously pregnant and people treat you better. Open more doors, nicer, etc. Baby showers and the light at the end of the tunnel. Moving around gets harder. Sleeping and finding a comfortable position every second of the day is a constant challenge. If things go wrong after you pass the scary worry in 1st tri it's usually during third tri. Pre-e, iugr, preterm labor, etc. bed rest if you have those issues. At about 36 weeks you really want to be done but you know your baby needs more time so you don't want to be done. You don't want to go early because nicu scares the crap out of you but you are so ready. Feet in your ribs. The incredible moving belly which is awesome and painful.
I think third is the worst but you get a baby in third and that kind of makes t amazing as well.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I never had swamp crotch with DS..never wore panty liners.... but already this pregnancy is diff and I am beginning to understand the whole swamp crotch thing
middle/end of 3rd tri.... you are SO uncomfortable, ALL the time, anxious to finally meet your LO, you can hardly get clothes out of washer/dryer, you bump people with your belly, you get lightning crotch, if I sat to long on a hard seat my crotch went numb and was so for about 10 min after (has to do with baby siting on nerves...I carried LOW), I could hardly eat because everything is so smooched up into your throat, DS's loved to stick his feet under my ribs (OMG THAT HURTS) so I had to always push him down, nothing fits at the end.... I think it's G-d's way of making you DONE so you wont mind going through the painful labor to get the baby out.
On that note.... I still loved my 3rd tri and getting everything ready for LO, it is exciting knowing it is coming to an end and you get to meet LO soon!
I only made it until 37 weeks with Eli and the 3rd tri was still the worse. Anything and everything I ate gave me really bad heartburn. I had to sleep in the recliner because I couldn't get comfortable any other way. I felt like my vag was going to fall out from the pressure. But it's also very bittersweet because it's the end of your pregnancy.
oh I FORGOT about the leg cramps!! I would wake up screaming.
As far as the worst trimester, 2nd tri is awesome. I was working 30 hr shifts on my feet the whole time and I felt like superwoman. 3rd was definitely the worst. I couldn't sleep, everything hurt all night and day, and all you want is for the baby to come. So 2nd>1st>3rd.
hmm.. Great suggestion. I tried to eat a lot of bananas, but you can only eat so many.