Working moms

aggielady

I have been a SAHM for 2 years, since DD was born.  I have been messing with the idea of going back to work, but waited until we moved to seriously consider it.  I had put my resume on monster and some other career sites, and got a call today from a recruiter who thinks she has a fit for me.  She is sending me info on the company, position, etc.  I have a really good background in project mgmt, and an engineering degree, so part of me thinks I am wasting my brain (not being offensive to sahm's) by not being in the workplace.  I also often wonder what I will do in 3 years when the kids are in school all day.  I mean, I can only work-out for so long in a day

So...my question is, if you could choose to work or stay home, would you work or sahm?  If money was NO object.  We can afford for me to sahm, but it would def help if I had a job, I would not take one that did not pay me generously enough to make it worth it.

Thoughts?

TIA!!

lexyty

I would stay home in a heartbeat.  It kills me that we can't afford to do it.  I am on maternity leave right now and am dreading going back.

xbrooklyngrl

If money was not object, I would prefer to stay home until about your DD's age, maybe 3 and then work part time.

I've been working full time since B was 12 wks old and it sucks ass. I miss her so much.

RCH151

I think it depends on if you like your job.  I love my job and at this point in my life, I can't fathom being a SAHM.  For me, it isn't a matter of having to work, it is a matter of wanting to work. 

amiamish

If we could live comfortably, I'd SAH. Once the kids started school I'd work part time, so I was able to take them to school and pick them up as needed. HOWEVER, that's if money was no object.

I don't mind working, Jake loves daycare. I think he gets bored with me because he loves to be out and playing with other kids.

butterbeansmama

If we could afford the insurance as well as our bills, then I would sah. Unfortunately, I work for our insurance. I have been working full time since P was 16 weeks old. I miss him so very much every single day. We are fotunate that dh is a sahd, but he does work on the weekends (out of town). Once the kids are in school full-time, he will probably get a second job during the week - but then again maybe not.

meggieroo

If I could afford to stay home, I would stay home.  I can't afford it though, so I don't know any other way but to work, you know?  It may be one of those the grass is always greener on the other side things for me.  Ideally, I think I would work part time, so I had some time home with the kids, and some time at work so I felt like I was using my non-mommy skills some.   

Bluesmoothee

If money were no object I'd stay at home until my daughter started kindergarten. Then I'd work full-time again. I hate being at work all day while she's in daycare. I mean, I love working (and I was super-ready to go back after maternity leave)...I've just found that I love being w/ my daughter more.

 

But the grass is always greener!

shouldbeworkin

If money were no object, I would still work.  But,I would work less than I do now and pay for a lot of help around the house so that my time with the kids was maximized.  I invested a lot of time, money and effort into my education, I want to use it.  I like to use it, too.  I love my kids, love spending time with them, but I don't want to be with them all day long. 

mlm1128

If money were no object I would stay home.  I would try to get a para proffessional position in the school system once dd started school just to keep busy. 

I would still send dd to the sitter at least 2 days a week, though.  SHe loves it there and it would give some time to do housework, grocery shopping, etc and save the quality time for her and dh.

aggielady

See, my daughter LOVED her little preschool that she went to twice a week before we moved, now she is out because we have to find a new one.   She loves the interaction with kids, and I think she would love daycare.  Parker has only gone tthe gym, never school or MDO, so I dunno abouto  him.  Ugh...decisions.

I do think I would have serious withdrawl issues from them both though.  That is why I was asking for working mom's input.  Thanks for being honest ladies!!

 

happ17

If money were no object, I would stay at home, no doubt. A little piece of me dies every day I have to leave my kid (which I love) and come to work (which I'm starting to hate), especially those rare days when he's sick or clingy.

That said, I'd have to freelance or volunteer or something, and send him to daycare or playgroup or whatever so he'd have some interaction, and so I don't go bonkers.

katie277s

Honestly, I would stay home if I could afford it.  When DS is in school, there are plenty of other things that can be done (which I currently do while working FT) that would fill my days. 

alisonada

Ideally I would work PT, maybe 30 hours a week - unfortunately there aren't many good PT positions in my field out there. I don't mind working FT but I do feel crunched for time and it would be nice to have a few more free hours.

If I had to choose between working FT or 100% SAH I would choose to work FT. I am just not cut out to SAH, I am sure of this because after only 3 weeks on maternity leave I'm counting the days until I can go back to work. The idea of doing this indefinitely...let's just say it's not appealing to me AT ALL.

monalicia

I have a Masters Degree, and finally got my "dream  job" two years ago.  I really, really like my job, but would stay at home (at  least until the youngest started school) in a heartbeat if $ was no object.