Hi all. My husband left me and my 4mo old daughter a week ago. He left me for a coworker of his, who was fully aware that he had a wife and new baby. They had been having a relationship behind my back and I only found out about it because he installed skype on our computer and left his account open, ooops! So he lied to me about pretty much everything telling me they were only friends and that he wanted me to meet her. It is sickening that he wanted me to meet her because I came to find out that he kissed her and was telling her that he loved her. We started marriage counseling to see if we could get passed this but all along I could just tell he was not "in it." He told me he had cut all ties with this woman but really he had not, he was still speaking to her at work. He left the home that we own together last Wednesday and has been staying with a friend (not the other woman). However, I have caught her there a few times when he said he was going to be at the gym etc. I am trying to keep my head up and be strong for me and my daughter but it is really tough. I sit at home at night getting sad and lonely and want to call him but I know he cannot be that person for me anymore. It will take time for that feeling to subside but nevertheless still hard. He has been helping a little bit by coming to the house to see the baby and he did help over night the other night but was texting his homewrecker girlfriend the entire time. I told him we need ground rules and out of respect he cannot be talking to her while he is helping with our daughter. He lied to this woman yesterday when he helped me go grocery shopping (she wigged out on him when he helped me over night), so he starting his relationship with her with a bunch of lies so I'm sure it will last! I'm having a hard time with the situation because he has already moved on to someone new and is not owning up to the responsibilities here at our house. He left me with two dogs, two cats, the baby and the house. We are working on rehoming one of the dogs and the cats but he gets to leave and go to his buddies apartment and hang out with his homewrecker so he doesn't have to confront the issues of what is going on with me. I'm very frustrated with it all. Anyway, I have filed for child support but need to work on a custody agreement. I told him he would have to file for divorce because I have too much to handle already but he usually doesn't do things unless someone else is doing most of the work so who knows how long this could take!
Does anyone have advice/experience on a custody agreement on a baby so young? He has a rotating schedule at work so doing a schedule for visits/time with him is a little more complicated and I don't want his homewrecker girlfriend around my baby EVER. Any advice you can give would be appreciated.