Anyone feel their LO is "behind?"

NatesLady1309

I had some ladies over last night and one of them brought her DD who is about 6 weeks younger than Addy. She was crawling EVERYWHERE (she said she started a FIVE months, she has no siblings either) and pulling up on the furniture. DD was just sitting there like a bump on a log and she still occasionally falls. She can "stand" holding onto things but only if we get her into that position and we need to be there in case she starts to fall. Another friend also has a baby 6 weeks younger who is starting to crawl. 

DD can't get into a sitting position from laying down and has never attempted to get onto her knees. She's happy just sitting since that is her newest skill that she's good at, so she's not wanting to be on her belly anymore meaning she doesn't even have the opportunity to try to crawl.

The post the other day about babies who skip crawling got me worried that she's going to have learning disabilities or something if she skips it, and it certainly doesn't look like it's anywhere in the near future. I KNOW there are plenty of other babies who can't crawl yet, yet alone pull up, riiiiight? But I'm seeing a post today about a February baby WALKING! WTH!? Maybe it makes a difference that DD is a late Feb. baby? I know it's stupid to worry but I can't help myself. She's always hit milestones pretty much "on time" until now it seems. 

suitern

We have several friends with babies DS's age and they are all more advanced than he is with crawling, babbling, etc.  I think it is just important that each baby does stuff in their own time.  DS just recently started pulling up on things and real crawling instead of army crawling.  He still can't figure out how to go from laying down to sitting up, but everyday he seems to learn some new skill so I am sure that isn't far behind.  I am worried about him not babbling, but it is on my list of questions to ask at his 9 month appointment.  I just try to remember to not to compare because it makes me worry when I probably shouldn't be.  If you are really concerned I would call your Dr.  I am sure she is just fine and perfect. 

Jeanine88

It's hard  not to compare and worry- I do the same thing.  I know many babies that did not crawl until they were 9 months, or at all- and guess what? None of them have learning disabilities.  It's a correlation maybe, but probably not a causation. Try to just enjoy your LO!

hizah05

My son is right where your daughter is. He happily sits and plays with his toys but doesn't crawl, army crawl, or even try. I do get worried but we have to remind ourselves that they are all different and on their own pace. He also has some friends that are younger and crawling/army crawling around. Logan is also a late Feb baby and was 3 weeks early so maybe that's it?

I really would not worry. I read in the What to Expect book that crawling is expected from 6-9 months I think. I know it's hard when other babies are doing it but I wouldn't worry just yet  

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Jeanine88:

It's hard  not to compare and worry- I do the same thing.  I know many babies that did not crawl until they were 9 months, or at all- and guess what? None of them have learning disabilities.  It's a correlation maybe, but probably not a causation. Try to just enjoy your LO!

This.  My DD is not crawling, standing without help, or even army crawling. Many babies from our play group are the same age or a few weeks younger and they are doing all of these things. It is especially difficult because she is big for age so she looks older than those nearing one, so people assume she is the same age and really far behind. 

Don't worry about her. She will hit those milestones when she is ready. Enjoy her not being mobile yet and pity those who are chasing their kiddos everywhere.

I try and remind myself of this when I start to worry.

MollySm

All babies are so different!  It's still really early for crawling, we just have a board where so many of the babies are physically advanced.  Lucia sits, and happily plays.  She doesn't crawl, she doesn't pull herself to standing.  Like your LO she can stand if we put her upright holding something, or if we give her our fingers to pull up, but we have to be right there because she falls.  Part of it is that she's also a late - February baby, but mostly it's just that they do things in their own time.  They'll crawl when they are ready.  I didn't walk until I was 2, and I turned out just fine

fredpuma

I've noticed that Kitty doesn't do things until she's confident she can do it well. She is pulling up, but it only started a week ago or so, and she already knows how to sit back down. She army crawls like crazy, but I'm pretty she'll never lift up her tummy. She whines more than babbles. She doesn't wave. She still doesn't sleep more than two hours a stretch at night. But she's freaking awesome, and I know she's doing things at the right pace for her. Don't worry. As long as she is happy and your pedi isn't worried, everything is going exactly the way it should for YOUR baby.

jju_stb_jju

Have you seen the science of babies movie? It says there is nothing wrong with babies who skip any milestones, even crawling, and that when your baby does start to get moving, whether it be butt scooting or any crawling that it doesn't have to be crawling that moving in general is great for them cause not all babies will crawl the same. Don't feel bad and try not to worry!!

Shawnee11507

Landon is an early Feb baby and he just started army crawling this week (and it is a PITA). He still topples over after sitting up for a minute on his own and he isn't pulling up (although he can stand for a minute if holding on to something) and he isn't babbling- mostly just whining and shrieking.

I find myself a little concerned too with the babies on this board crawling and pulling up, etc. but I am just trying to give it more time and not worry. 

heymommy

DO NOT WORRY!!!! Your baby is fine, stop comparing!!!!!

And don't even think about the no crawling= learning issues or whatever it was. I wish that stuff like that is never mentioned on these boards.  All babies do their own thing when they are ready. Stop worrying and enjoy your baby.

 

 When your baby is three and the new neighboors move in next door and their 3 year old is reading and writing are you going to start worrying about your 3 year old?? And start teaching her to read??

ChristinaL27

My daughter is 8 1/2 months old. She sits up, tries to crawl but mostly goes backwards, can't pull herself up...and yesterday was the first time she went tummy to sitting. It's hard not to compare but you have to remember all babies are so different. Since Brynn was born 7 other babies have been born between my family and my husbands... And a lot of people in our family compare them all. Brynns one cousin who is a full month younger crawls like crazy and pulls himself up...has no attention span what so ever, and hates to be touched.. My daughter can focus and play with one toy for awhile... And she will snuggle. My point is all babies are so different. And I personally ignore others opinions. As long as your baby is healthy and making milestones at their own pace, I wouldn't be concerned unless the doctor says something.

92405bride

Keep in mind that people will write about their babies being advanced... but not so much about babies who are either "on time" or "late" (and your baby is by no means "late" either). It's really hard to not compare, especially at this age when there are SO many physical milestones happening, but it's just not worth it.

MANY babies do not crawl until 9-12 months. Probably most, actually. Rest easy - it's not like the babies have read the milestone charts - they have no clue what they are "supposed" to be doing.

My first was a late walker - but she was "on time" for everything else. (sat at 6 months, army crawled at 7, real crawled at 8, pulled up at 9, cruised at 10... but didn't walk until 16 months) and it was so frustrating to me mostly to hear other people's comments - "oh, she's not walking yet?? Hmmmmm......." (insert very concerned face here). She started walking and was steady as can be and barely ever fell. And then you could barely tell the difference between her and someone who walked at 10 months.

I was constantly repeating to myself "I trust and respect her natural process of development" - so cheesy, but true. You don't need to do a single thing to "encourage" a baby to move other than giving them time on the floor to practice. They will all get there in their own time and in their own way!